It's fine for him to have friends that are the opposite sex and jealousy is normal. Just don't let it control you because you will make bad decisions based on it and that will push him away. I would recommend you talk to him about feeling they are getting more attention than you though. Get more time with him. Go on date night more often, cuddle more etc. You should be higher on his priority then they are but he can have friends and love you at the same time. Just ask him to commit more to you and and pay attention it will help build up your relationship. Also make sure he knows that what you want is more of his time not all of it and make sure you tell him that you know he wouldn't cheat but you just want more attention. If he's a good boyfriend you two will find a compromise and a good middle ground of friends and lovers.
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You're right, you're not jealous. Being jealous is wanting what others have. Protecting what's yours is called being territorial. If he really spends more time texting other people than talking to you, that's way out of line. It's one thing for him to have friends, male or female, and another entirely to prioritize them over his significant other. Stand your ground.
I would say to judge it based on how open he is about what he is texting them. I personally have many guy friends, some of which who are married, that I talk to often. On the other hand I've had a boyfriend who did this, his ex included, and I caught him sexting her. I realized there was an issue by how protective he was of his phone when he was texting that specific person. So it's not really a cut a dry answer. Some people can handle having friendships with the opposite sex and some can't.
I’m sorry to say this but why do many people revolve their life solely on their relationships. Don’t you have anything else to do than watching him every minute as he text other people? Why can’t he have friends? Don’t you have another life apart from your love life? Maybe a social life? Work life? Educational life? Or any other?
Don’t be paranoid and just calm down and have fun in your relationship. If you think he’s actually cheating on you then put some effort into finding out!
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he should not only not be texting other women, he shouldn't be hanging out or having girl "friends"
Why, if you're his girlfriend, should he need girl "friends"
that makes no sense. if he can tell you anything, why does he need to tell them the same things
it would imply, he's only using you, for sex..They are just friends and you shouldn't let it bother you unless he gives you reason to.
Sounds like you are jealous even when you claim you are not.
Texting female friends yeah that's completely fine
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