How did you know he/she was the one?

Question

For the couples who have made it the long haul (married or not). How did you come by the realization that your partner was someone you wanted to share your life with for as long as possible?

Even if you aren't together anymore, for whatever reason, I would still like to know how you knew you would be together for a long time (at least what made you think so at the time)?

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Been dating my current beau for 6 months now (we've also been living together for 5 months). While I still have the occasional doubts, I still circle back to the conviction he is "the one' for me. About myself, I have felt this feeling twice in my life before, 1) for a high school best guy friend, 2) for someone who lived in another country and had to go back.
While the fact i have "felt this feeling before" in some ways can invalidate its validity, I think that on some sort of basis there are some key baseline similarities which I have not found in the other young eligible suitors who have approached me in the last decade. The first thing that has struck me was their over the top, politeness and general thoughtful humility. This gets paired with a desire to maintain inner stability, simplicity, and in general make it an effort to be kind/respectful to everyone they meet.

In today's dating world, it is all too easy to get swept up into someone's thirst for adventure, determination for personal success, and omniscient ability to stay out of the rat race all together. While in itself, these traits are admirable, it is very easy to find them pitted against the sacrifices and daily maintenance of a committed relationship. When we think of an ideal home, we think of security, of comfort, and warmth. Find someone who values a lifestyle centered towards the maintenance and protection of such an environment, even if their life is not "glamorous." Find someone ready to feed you with time, energy, and compassion. If you are too busy to be grateful for what you have, you are probably too busy.

ryoru · Accepted Answer

Conversation and silence are so comfortable with him.
When we held hands for the first time. I thought "I want these hands to hold me forever"
Haven't had any argument, we mainly talked it out. Compromised.
He entertains my silly antics - I bring out an octopus plushie to the aquarium and took photos. When I was busy and had him hold the plushie, he plopped it on his cap just so it can get the best view, without batting an eyelid.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Whenever I hear one of her songs or see something that reminds me of her it brings a warm smile to my face and in my heart. I take her picture and put it to my chest and heart and close my eyes. At night I lay there wishing she was there so I could hold her and even hug her especially on days that are stressful. Or whenever she posts something online my heart jobs for joy and excitement like a new surprise or gift I'm about to open. She stands up for what she believes in and speaks out against the injustices in our world. There's an old saying "The true measure of friendship isn't how you make others feel but how they make you feel about yourself" 3 years and I'm still deeply in love with her. I could wake up in the middle of the night not able to sleep and I would message her bugging her I can't sleep lol or I would wish her a good night and sweet dreams almost every night and try to make her birthday's extra special or as special as possible. It's the little things that count. Or I could be sitting by my pond/lake and watch the sunset and send her videos and pictures of it and tell her how I'd wrap my arm around her and hold her in moments like those. Your heart just knows.

worldscolide · Accepted Answer

When i was in the hospital for my wisdom teeth. They almost killed me by the way, Dont ignore teeth issues. She was the only one to visit me in the hospital. Not family, not friends.. My mother assuming i was going to die, tried to steal my vehicle. My wife is the only one that visited me, She was there very other day. She drove 4 hours to see me one way...

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

For both mine it wasn't any one moment, it just happened just feel into it naturally you just automatically start Behaving like a couple... Well that's how it was for me

ineedatan · Answer

It was when I was able to feel completely secure and loved. We had blunt open communication about all insecurities and issues. Knowing how to be clear and honest. As well as learning to be understanding and respectful towards eachother. We wanted to share everything with eachother and experience things together, as we continously built our relationship. Unfortunately things ended when trust was broken.

1truekhaleesi · Answer

We were close friends for two years before we started dating. We were great friends and one day I just looked at him and realized that I had feelings for him. I can't narrow it down to just one thing that made me realize I love him. It was a bunch of small things over time that made me realize that I love him.

IMainHanzo · Answer

We dont really get angry at each other. Like 99.9% of the time, we can discuss our problems with each other and we mske each other happy.

We also leave each other alone when we need to and hangout when we want. I guess its a less selfish relationship between two people. We both have our selfishness but we compromise on other things to make the other happy.

Hope this helps. Best wishes.

ThisIsMyOpinion · Answer

She laughed at the "magic trick" the Joker did on that Batman movie.
On the cinema all girl in the audience where like "Ahhhhh", "Nooooo", "That was horrible!" and me rolling my eyes.
I show the girl that is now my wife the movie and she, laughed out loud. Out loud!
Told her I loved her on the spot!

Aliceinwonderland22 · Answer

About 2/3 months ago, back in lockdown when i couldn't see him, he said something that I can't remember and the only thought i had was "i want to be that man's wife"... think it was some dark joke, but it was a feeling inside... can't explain it

bigmisssunshine · Answer

It really was like we had known each other for years. Everything just clicked and fell into place and for some reason it just feels impossible for us to break up.

Anti-Matter · Answer

She shared her juice with me... Really, that was fifteen years ago and we were destined to be permanent fixtures in each other's lives.

Gedaria · Answer

It's like having two pieces of a jigsaw and they fit exactly.
That was like second wife and me.
Strange we met at a funeral. We started talking and after a few hours I felt like I had known her a Life Time.
It was a overwhelming thing...

venomhbk1313 · Answer

Myself I thought she was the moment we met it was love at first sight

msc545 · Answer

You just sort of know - it is very difficult to explain...

Anonymous · Answer

Welll I had couple terrible terrible men! I was not looking. Than came Steven. Wow
handsome beyond. Took my pain away , was amazing. showed me a whole whole whole outlook life, Society, most LOVE!!! I be me mostly, I let him in so much, I trusted him and I am glad. He gone. My pain is waves. I let him go.
cause I was destroying him. He Leo. Me Virgo. Whatever that means

Anonymous · Answer

It just made sense and they FELT like “home” and like being with them is where I should to be whenever we’re together.

Anonymous · Answer

I knew because when I told him i was pregnant (we had always tried to avoid this) he had no negative reaction, only positive.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

There are billions of people. There are many, many "the one" for each person.

jahaims · Answer

The feeling of completion I get when I'm with her.

jimmy2 · Answer

After some years we grew togther as one.

egykimo · Answer

Still haven't tested it

asshole_ · Answer

Single

mrgspoter · Answer

When too late

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