"Women mean it when they say they love you, bur then they simply change idea" - what do you think about this quote?

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

My dad came out with this one.

[AlienParasite]

It can happen that a person stops loving someone who used to love. However the quote seems incomplete, and could make someone believe that women love or stop loving on a whimp. And no, woman or man, we humans change our mind or our heart because of experiences.

For someone to stop loving another person something has to happen or stop to happen in their lifes. It's not a mere change of idea that randomly happens out of nowhere.

To believe it happens randomly can be dangerous, because it can cause a lack of total trust in women as a whole (or men if it was said the other way). That lack of trust could become the reason of deterioration in a relationship that ends with the other person slowly feeling worst until the don't feel in love anymore. Because the person believes this quote faithfully, they could not see what they've done to damage the relationship, and could believe all happeed randomly and use the sentence to reaffirm their belief in that sentence. The person will continue the vicious circle.

[SnowyOwl]

I can only speak for myself of course, so:
Yes I mean it when I say "I love you",
No I have never stopped loving anyone that I loved,
However I have changed my mind about my romantic feelings with specific people,
and there has always been a reason for me changing my mind.
Note, it is my belief, that if you actually loved someone, the love doesn't go away.
It its actually disturbing because if you ever loved a toxic person, you will see that when you are truly healed you will still loved them... Because love is that strong

[EssenceOfLight]

Women don't love you, they love just the feeling you create in them. How long it lasts is the question of their mental stability and mood swings which create love and hatred phases.
You're like cocaine for them, you bring a lot of joy but sometimes depression. Changing their minds means nothing if they need you.

[Unit1]

Pretty true. This minute she loves you and can't get her hands off from you.
The next minute she feels like suffocating you and insulting you with every vulgar word not found in the dictionary.

The feelings change as fast as you can blink with your eyes.

[Iwant2kno]

I think part of it is true, at least the first part of the sentence. The second part is the result of women getting bored in a relationship and it generally happens because guys become simps.

[Shocker650]

Being a simp, and caring, loving a girl is different in my opinion. You woman only care about a guy who doesn't love you or care about you. A mans life is all about rules. Of course you woman can do whatever you want., it's always ok and acceptable.

[Iwant2kno]

@Shocker650 you asked the question, I answered with all honesty based on what I see happening ALL the time (It shouldn’t be a coincidence I’m getting 👍🏼 Mostly from women). Women do love and care about good men, as long as he man loves, respects her and also calls her out in her bs. Women won’t become submissive to a man who doesn’t know how to take the lead and that instead becomes submissive himself. The moment a man decides to give up his self respect, he stops being a nice guy and becomes a simp.
This is what I mean:
https://youtu.be/bUfift7822g

[Shocker650]

Yea I saw that before. I'm not talking about this type of thing. By the way I'm not the OP.

[Kaazsz]

@Iwant2kno lmao that video was hilarious. That girl is fucking hot she can step on me any day 🤤🤤

It’s funny, I actually had a girl that would act like this with me. She is hideous and gross. Always offered to buy me stuff. She was so annoying it was ridiculous. I could literally say anything to her. I’m not a mean person to anyone. But like the level to which she went to beg me for my attention was so fucking irritating that i would be mean to her and she didn’t care. As long as I was giving her attention she was happy. Like a little kid who acts bad to get their parents attention or something, any kind is better than nothing.

It sucked because I worked with her. I actually ended up having to report her for sexual harassment.

[mistixs]

Seems dumb to me. If someone truly loves you then they don't just change their mind

[DizzyDesii]

Fck up too many times and i’ll eventually totally lose love for ya

[Poppykate]

I think that women mean it... but I think it takes a lot for them to change their minds!

[Anonymous]

This only happened to my when a guy try to make me his girlfriend by convincing me so hard without giving me the decision. In the beginning i thought i loved him 'cause "i am his girlfriend" but at the same time i was disgusted of him but could not tell the truth since i was afraid of being the "bad guy" for not loving him. fortunately we broke up

[Opinion Owner]

But does this answere even count since i actually never loved him in the first place?

[TacosRAwesome]

First part is true but women usually change idea for a reason.

[Natehunter199]

I agree with your anwser but do you think the reason woman change is because the get bored or they think they have discoved some that is more intresting to them?

[TacosRAwesome]

@Natehunter199 I am think both are possible.

[Natehunter199]

Don't get me wrong, im not saying all women do this. Im just asking because of my experiance of 17 years being with the same woman. But she is the only woman i have ever been with.

[EclecticEmapath1111]

It's absolutely true but not bound to happen with EVERY woman. There's many who can love one man for a lifetime and never change her mind.

[AlongCameCindy]

I think if you love someone you don't change your mind.

[Anonymous]

Is it the same dad you complained abandoned you and your mom?
He seems a real piece of shit.

[Don-_-Don]

That sounds like bullshit. "But they change the idea", what does that even mean?

[SuccessfulHornDog]

I'm not sure I understand what you're saying. They change what? Their mind about loving you? or something else?

[msc545]

Hypergamy is the problem. They only love you until someone with more money who is better looking and taller comes along.

[mistixs]

That's not what hypergamy means. Hypergamy simply means that a woman seeks out a mate that is higher status than herself.

[msc545]

And according to many women a man who is taller makes more money and is more physically attractive represents higher status.

[msc545]

Also, leaving your present husband or boyfriend to find a better-looking wealthier man is called moving up in that behavior if successful also represents attaining higher status for the woman

[mistixs]

hy·per·ga·my /hīˈpərɡəmē/ the action of marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background.

Hypergamy just means you date a man with higher status than you. That's not the same thing as monkeybranching from your current boyfriend to even higher-status men.

[msc545]

@mistixs The monkey branching, as you put it, logically follows from the initial act of "marrying or forming a sexual relationship with a person of a superior sociological or educational background". Women are satisfied with that initial relationship until someone even better comes along, and that gets repeated over and over.

[mistixs]

That's not necessarily true. For some women yes but not for most women.

[msc545]

@mistixs That doesn't invalidate what I said.

[mistixs]

You make it seem like it happens with most or all women but it doesn't.

[msc545]

It happens enough that men are very aware of it and it's a very good reason not to get married. There are also multiple other good reasons not to get married.

[Snickermarstwix]

I don't understand it as it doesn't make any sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Woman don't love man. They only "love" them for how they make them feel, but this isn't love. The only woman who will ever love a man is his mother. They are uncapable to love a man.

[Poppykate]

Do you think that men are different? 🤔 because it would seem to be the same for men...

[1stranger]

Some women. Not all women..

[Anonymous]

Women love what you can provide them... not you.

[Jamie05rhs]

I think your dad was being tongue-in-cheek.

[Angelo75]

It wasn't real love.