I'm scared to go to the bathroom in front of my boyfriend! What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I'm staying with my long-distance boyfriend in a really small apartment for 3 weeks. I'm always so embarrassed to go to the bathroom when we're in the same apartment cos I'm scared he'll hear me going! The last time I went, my mum was staying in a hotel near by, and I went to see her everyday, so I would wait (in desperation) until I got there to go to the bathroom. Now it's just me and him, what am I gonna do? I've read on the internet just to run the tap but would that really make a difference and wouldn't it seem weird that I just go in and switch on the tap and leave it running? Does anyone else have this problem?

[Rizzle]

Well if you're taking a piss, there is literally no reason at all you need to be embarrassed about that. We don't care.

If you're taking a dump, we still probably don't care at all... just spray the bathroom when you're done. If you're worried about the splashing noise of the turd hitting the water, lay a tissue or some toilet paper on the surface of the water.. it makes it almost completely silent when it hits, I use to do it when I was a kid and was nervous about it. Also, if you have a fan in the bathroom.. run that. It helps with the smell and with the noise.

[myspacemybroke]

So you're staying in the same house as the guy, but can't bare to take a p*ss with him in earshot? How odd. I must admit I'm an extremely bladder shy person as well mind you, so I know what you mean. I'm not entirely sure what to suggest besides maybe try being comfortable enough around the guy you're in a relationship with to use the loo with him in the house.

[Kadiboma]

Aww, I'm like that too. I think in the circumstances you just have to try and get over the embarrassment. I hate using public toilets because of that, but now I'll run the tap to mask the noise if possible, otherwise I just try to tell myself I'm in the minority and that it's not normal to be this embarrassed. And that's true, it's not easy but try and tell yourself that. Your boyf will probably think nothing at all of hearing you 'go'. Good luck with it.

[sovetskii13]

There is nothing to be scared or embarrassed about. Everybody goes to the bathroom. It's a normal everyday activity. Sure, guys have the "Point and Shoot" feature, but still. There is nothing to be scared, embarrassed, or ashamed of. If your boyfriend finds it funny or whatever, then he is just being mean.