Do you appreciate grand romantic gestures?

Question

Like proposing in front of live stadium

Mangospacho · Accepted Answer

It depends on the person but usually the amount of attention it’s designed to get intimidates the person being proposed to. People who do these grand proposals are just trying to draw attention to themselves and not for the benefit of the person they’re proposing to.

Syrian_survivor · Accepted Answer

I don't need to announce my love on such a huge scale, I'm just fine with flaunting her around sometimes and a bit of PDA is more than enough. After all, the relationship is between me and her, not me and her and everyone around us.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No because it would smack straight in to my PTSD etc.

Also unless you are really really sure of the other person, then they often backfire or fail.

a mate of mine booked a Eurostar trip to Paris to propose to his girlfriend, they actually had a huge petty argument at the train station before they left. While that alone did not do much , it set the scene for the weekend.

She told him no,

They married a year later, however it was more of a low key proposal 2nd time around.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

I do. They’re sweet and they show the person really likes you. I don’t like them from someone I have no interest in myself or for some reason I can’t reciprocate (nothing worse than turning down a marriage proposal in front of a bunch of people).

BillHe1 · Answer

My younger brother did it at a local HS basketball game. She graduated there a couple years earlier, but it was a small rural HS, so everyone knew them. He just did things like that and people loved it. But even though she was expecting something, I think she was embarrassed at the time, but did say YES.

aliali8 · Answer

I wouldn’t want my fiancé to propose to me in front of the entire world. That’s a very obnoxious

Nobody would need to do that unless they have something to prove.

And honestly people do not really care about your proposal. Of course we are supposed to act excited for you when it does happen. But honestly we don’t care.

Same for obnoxious couples who post paragraphs about how much they love each other on Facebook.
I can guarantee you, 95% of us won’t really care. Sure we act excited but it’s all an act

Massageman · Answer

I wouldn't really describe that as a grand romantic gesture. As you mention, it's more of a manipulative (if you don't accept this gesture, you're an ungrateful bum) sort of demonstration.

More subtle gestures- a back rub, a noon-time snuggle, baking one's favorite pie, knitting a sweater, etc. would be a much more personal- and romantic- gesture than announcing personal info to 20,000 people who are drunk on beer anyway!

IndieScent · Answer

Doing something big and grand can be fine if it's done just to make the other person feel good and doesn't put them on the spot. Feel free to pay sky writers to spell out "I love you Susan" but don't do any gesture that puts them on the spot. If you do something that makes it so they have to make an important decision while a bunch of other people watch and judge then it's manipulative because they're going to be seen as an awful person if they say no.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It's different if it's been discussed before, but the surprise of it when you least expect it is nothing more than manipulation in a way. The pressure from the crowd looking and speaking, your lover on one knee or doing the most in front of you. Then there is you, occupied with nothing but anxiety.

JackSmy · Answer

The ladies I like, are very private, quiet types, and absolutely HATE public displays, in any way!! Few have even let me kiss them, at sunset, in a very private place.
I would never propose to her, in any way that would make her nervous, or uncomfortable.
Perhaps a special dinner, her favorite, that I cooked, just for her, and her favorite wine, but just alone, well, maybe her little dog was there. . .

TurboKid · Answer

Marriage proposals, yes, because the social pressure and any possible embarrassment are transferred more to the other and not ourselves. I think they can be funny or sometimes even endearing though so long as the person making the gesture carries the full social cost of it. If my wife wants to serenade me at a karaoke bar singing a song specifically to me while announcing to everyone how much she loves me, I'd think she's a goofball but also funny and lovable.

rjroy3 · Answer

I used to more so. Far less now.

Because in most cases the person doing it is doing it from a place of need/lack. Few do the gesture exclusively from a place of giving the other person a good experience and not from a place of neediness.

How many guys do you know who do that when they didn't feel they had to? Nice when it happens. Because he made her feel special when it wasn't necessary

DizzyDesii · Answer

I've always wanted to be proposed to on an empty baseball field after the game. But other than that, no specific place. I’d just be happy to be proposed to

Ripper_E · Answer

Depends on the gesture. If I ask a woman to marry me in front of 60,000 fans and she rejects me, then I just got rejected and my heart broken in front of 60,000 fans.

mintbloo · Answer

who doesn't?  but proposing in front of a live stadium audience is very awkward and should never be done... that is where the line is drawn.

AdithyaR · Answer

I'm not really big on them, I don't like the pressure that they put on you and how everyone is watching you. I prefer my romantic gestures to be private and intimate

GirlyGal20 · Answer

I would love that. Maybe not so public but I'm a sucker for romantique gestures

strawberriez · Answer

Personally I don’t like it. I’m more of a private person. Especially if came to a proposal I’d rather keep it simple and private at a nice restaurant. I wouldn’t say it’s manipulative but it’s more like he could’ve put more thought into it lol

IamStardust · Answer

I prefer smaller romantic gestures (hugs, kisses, etc.) rather than grand ones. I hate being the center of attention, so for example, having my boyfriend propose to me in public would make me very awkward.

Zelda_5 · Answer

I hate big public proposals unless they've discussed beforehand. It does seem kind of munipulative because the person won't want to ruin the vibes by saying no.

Kaneki05 · Answer

I wouldn't turn one down. But mostly i prefer that stuff been just me and them.

Deepinthought345 · Answer

I think romance is an intimate matter. Not something I want the public involved in. So I don't believe in grand romantic gestures. Its a private matter and remains so.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

They are fun to watch and even more fun when the woman turns him down 🤣

sensible27 · Answer

Depends on the definition of grand.. if it means a lot to them, yes.

slatyb · Answer

No, that's seriously silly. And the proposer better be very very sure of the answer. There's was a video a year or so ago where a man proposes in a stadium and she declines.

Siren777 · Answer

Kind gestures are always appreciated whether big or small. So it's the thought that counts and all that effort deserves a kind gesture in return.

serious · Answer

In context of your question do you mean to ask if a woman proposed to me in front of entire stadium will appreciate it or not? Am I right?

Inexpensivefurniture · Answer

Grand as in very public, no. Grand as in it took a lot of planning and shows how well they know me, yes

pleasestopthis · Answer

I can get why some people like them but I personally don't like them. Any person who knows me well enough knows for certain that I like to keep things private.

Newhead · Answer

I will tell you no for doing some weird shit like that.

SphynxUK · Answer

I don’t like things like that. I’m not romantic. And it’s not manipulative. You can say no.

ohshee · Answer

I like Grand Romantic Gestures but it has to be very special and nobody else around

Riebeck · Answer

had to post this

coring · Answer

Once in a while everyone needs to feel appreciated.

WhiteWolf69 · Answer

I do appreciate romantic gestures. The biggest one I did was for my high school sweet heart on our first date. I planned out a romantic dinner for 2 up in the mountains so when we were eating we could watch the sunset together.

noob__master · Answer

Nope don’t like that lets keep our lives private. Our relationship is not between us and the world it’s between us.

MelissaMarie9614 · Answer

Yes! Most definitely! It be great to get proposed to at some sort of big event or place like that. It would be romantic!

Rohaan2020 · Answer

Not really... m kind of introvert person... so don't like to be in public

GoldenTulip · Answer

No way! It is too embarrassing... and i am shy with too many strangers around.

007kingifrit · Answer

no i don't. i like to be told things intimately, preferably as we are wrapped in a blanket i don't have to leave

Hakkerskaldyri · Answer

A lot of the time it forces me into an uncomfortable situation and if its like, "will you marry me" I will feel obligated to say yes whether I want to or not.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

Nope. This is just my opinion. I think some people do it as a peer pressure type thing.

jasco · Answer

I mean I be thankful if my girl did do that but personally I like small areas

blondfrog · Answer

who doesn't? There is nothing that can feed your ego quite like that.

Waldoe · Answer

yes I do appreciate them, they take planning and work...

EaterPeter · Answer

For some reason they don't work for me as well as daily stuff like small caring gestures.

Ninani · Answer

Yes, if they know me enough to do it right!

rossred · Answer

You know what appreciate is you out if GAG and out of my life.

Asianguy123 · Answer

it's just a cliche. men mistaking a woman as mother and women mistaken a man as fathers. that's all.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yeah if the feeling is mutual.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No, I prefer private ones.

bagarBilla · Answer

Not sure never done romance

UnknownGagsUser · Answer

Nah just between us 2

apple_jack · Answer

No, they're super cringe.

7771999 · Answer

Too introverted for that

David_Bayer · Answer

I don't like too much attention

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Yes I love it I'm a hopeless romantic

basicpplsuck · Answer

Depends, I'm demiromantic

robocop666 · Answer

their fucking stupid. this is not a cheesy tv show

Supernormal · Answer

To be continued

Property_Of_Jocker · Answer

No, I don't.

JamieLoves · Answer

No...

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