Guys, He fell asleep while giving him head?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend fell asleep while I gave him head. This is really affecting my self-esteem. I was always told that I'm good at giving head but this time I'm heartbroken because I want to please my partner. We did have sex like 20 minutes prior. He's 28 I'm 31. Ugh this is driving me crazy. please be nice guys... i have asked him what he likes and to give me directions to please him best but he says I'm doing everything right and that he fell asleep because he was relaxed. I try to do my best with the middle console in the way... we were in a car.

[NamerOfStars]

Okay, a couple of things:
1. In relationship matters in general (not just sexual ones), it's important to not put too much emphasis on any one action. It's easy to look at a single grand gesture, or a moment of frustration-borne snapping, and think "Oh, he loves me!/Oh, it's over!". Don't. Appreciate them for what they are, sure, but look to the bigger patterns- they're where life lies. If this has only happened once, it's probably more a matter of relaxation or fatigue, because...
2. When a guy ejaculates, ESPECIALLY if it's from sex rather than masturbation, his brain releases what's essentially an internal tranquilizer dart. He gets sleepy, and fast. If he can't shake it off, he's likely to fall asleep; even if he can, he's going to feel pretty tired for a while. This is why, when you have more than one round of sex, subsequent ones tend to be slower and more relaxed. And speaking of which...
3. There are different intensities of sex, for BOTH partners, and the more receiver-passive "sit back and let me take care of you" type can almost be like getting a massage; it can be VERY relaxing. It's partly physical and partly psychological; I imagine you're familiar with the sense of ease and letting go of tension that comes from feeling safe and taken care of, yes? It's much the same for guys. Coupled with the fatigue from going around earlier, he may well have been overwhelmed.

I don't know the guy (probably), but it's a safe bet he didn't mean to hurt your feelings, and his dozing off is in no way meant as a criticism.

[magiusX26]

you really can relax like that. its sort of like a massage in that way. it can happen during good sex as well. in a very odd way, its actually kind of a compliment. yes i know you dont see it that way. it shows it felt very good and he felt safe and secure like that with you. you were doing so good the rest of him relaxed that far. i bet he stayed hard while asleep and you suckung on him right?

[Asker]

Yes hé was still hard! I'm gonna try not to overthink it now... i really am thankful for the feedback guys.. I'm just trying to be the best partner in every way. I love him and want him to be pleased... i would be open to constructive criticism from him but he says Everything is perfect

[magiusX26]

it actually sounds like he is being very honest with you. your answer to my question seems to confirm what i thought had happened.

sorry for the tmi but this kind of thing is why i have a sort of fetish/kink for my woman (when i have one) to keep going (riding) even if i relax to the point of sleeping during sex, as ling as she is enjoying it too. and to not take it as an insult as you were with your guy but instead see it as the complinent it's meant as.

to give you a better understanding of that complinent, think of it how you stay just a little tense with some people driving what ever vehichle your in and others you feel so fine with their driving you easily fall asleep during the trip. its simular to that type of relaxing too.

[Lionman95]

I don´t think he fell asleep because of you. Maybe he was just too tired. Don´t feel bad because I don´t know any guy who fell asleep because he was bored during sex.

[molonski2]

Ohhh , I wouldn't take it to heart , he'd just performed and shot a good solid load , sometimes this makes you incredibly sleepy. Doesn't mean you were doing a bad job..

Maybe next time start with the BJ

[Asker]

It was round two when this happened... I'm really trying not to over think this but I'm scared if my partner isn't satisfied with me sexually he will leave or worse, cheat on me 🥺 like I said I've always been told I was the best and made guys cum in less than three minutes so this hurts my ego and trigger's my abandonment and trust issues

[molonski2]

Seriously , lets just see how you go next time , I wouldn't overthink it :)

[Asker]

Yes seriously lol... imagine you give your partner oral and they start falling asleep. Thank you so much for the advice though .. i just want to be the best partner.. I'm a giver

[molonski2]

Well , in that case Blow him tonight as he's never been blown , but do it first !
That will get you back into A grade form..

[molonski2]

And dont forget to swallow , take it whole , its very good for you..

[Asker]

He doesn't like to cum in my mouth 🙄

[es20490446e]

You have to know that the more I feel at ease with my partner the more I feel like falling asleep.

[Yourfriend2021]

Maybe he was just really tired so I wouldn't keep worrying about that if I were you.

[TurkishDİxon3419]

Be polite with a smile. Don't choke him. Hug and touch, Put your head on his shoulder.

[Andres77]

I fell asleep fingering a girl.
Big whoop. I ate her pussy for an hour the next night.
Move on and relax.

[Scotte1us]

Lol , are you kidding? Never heard something like this in my life lol he must be very tired or drunk or drugs, if not , something wrong with him maybe he doesn't like bj.

[ManHater]

Laugh... what he fell asleep because you did good and you are mad?

[Asker]

If it were reversed would you think you did a good job? I'm not mad by the way I'm disappointed in myself and want to make sure I'm satisfying my partner

[ManHater]

Look girl... some times you just gota use your "TEETH" God gave them to you for a reason. doo a little nip you know... When he says "OWWW" just say "Oh I'm sorry I had no idea you were sleeping". Then bark up the TREE AS TO WHY THE FUCK WAS HE SLEEPING ON THE JOB!!! Like fuck I don't fall asleep when I'm eating a girl out!

[Prideful]

What about changing guys? Who the fuck sleeps during a head come on.

[Texasguy99]

I’m sure it wasn’t bc of you. People can be tired and relaxed while that’s going on