Everyone has a need in a relationship? Some need humor, strong connection, intelligence, submission, dominant, etc. What is your strongest need?

[Handybody129]

I am well aware there are many other needs. Please explain if I haven't listed yours here

Humor

Connection

Submission

Domination

Intelligence

Other -. Please explain

[InventorofWarp]

This is really tough because they're all really important and each impact the other in some subtle and major ways...
Humour: This is extremely important because I am an optimist and I want someone who thinks like me and tries to see the positivity or at least the humour in life and every situation and can give witty banter right back to me.
Connection: This is an obvious must. I need someone I can feel safe with and vice versa. Someone I can know sees me and feels me and at least wants to understand what it's like to be me. Someone whos world would end at me the way mine would for her.
Domination: This one is particularly big because for one, I've found through recent experiences that I actually like a dominant and more proactive woman to some extent. And tbh, as a virgin at 24, she'll likely be taking the lead since I can admit I'm a pretty shy person.
Submission: On the other hand, I'm confident, it's just that confidence takes time to build and I had to build it in all areas of my life I have it in. Once I have it, I'm pretty sure I'd probably be far more of a dominant lover than a submissive. Even though both seem equally enjoyable. There's a strong part of me that kind of thinks I'm just shy 'cause I've never done it before and once it happens I'd quickly become the one calling the shots after that. If it's anything like my burgeoning musical career then there's reason to believe that the case.

At the end of the day what I need most is nurturing. I have my insecurities. And I have my pitfalls and my naivety about things still and what I'd honestly need is just someone with the warmth, compassion, understanding, kindness, softness and patience willing to help me lean into things and nurture me along in them. I like to think it's a big part of connection but distinct enough to warrant separate mention.

[CelticHero]

Trust and Honesty
I know it’s a staple in every relationship but typically it’s something I assume comes naturally and doing that is what usually bites me in the butt. So yeah, the runner up would be someone who likes themselves. I don’t know why but most of my ex’s don’t like themselves too much and it usually results in me trying to fix the relationship and then using the victim card of being a “terrible person” so it’s okay to mess things up.

[Handybody129]

@CelticHero thank you! True honesty has a way of doing that to a person but even then you likely feel better about yourself since you are not lying

[AmandaYVR]

Connection. I like that option of these.
Intelligence is important to me to (very), but the first and foremost is probably having personality chemistry and similar sensibilities, or enough in common so that you respect each other and vibe really well.

[Handybody129]

Thank you very much for your message and suggestions.

[AmandaYVR]

Yw 👍

[Handybody129]

@AmandaYVR 👍

[On_cloud_wine]

Someone more dominating than me

[On_cloud_wine]

And intelligence..

[Handybody129]

@on_cloud_wine thank you! Great answers

[On_cloud_wine]

Someone immature. I've become too serious these days..

[Handybody129]

Interesting response. I like it. Seems like often we want the opposite to help us get there

[exitseven]

I said connection. I need somebody who will be my better half.

[Handybody129]

Thanks for the comment

[Jouth]

Kindness. Someone who will try their best to be good to me, because that is that is what I will do for them no matter how they are. That's just how I work.

[Handybody129]

@Jouth thanks for the reply. I like it

[Jouth]

For sure. What do you need?

[gingin803]

Honesty is the most important thing and I mean honest with themselves as well as with you.

[Handybody129]

@gingin803 great response. Thank you!

[nolabels]

Validation of myself by my partner is my biggest need, but it does not occur.
I can validate myself.
That is no problem.
So, I take the good that I get from her, give her my best, and that's the way it is.
A person can't have everything.

[Siren777]

Connection & intelligence.

[Handybody129]

@siren777 thank you!

[Siren777]

😊 sure thing.

[dragoblack]

Intimacy, kindness and a loving heart

[Handybody129]

@dragoblack like it. Thanks for the new information

[Phoenix98]

Connection.

[Handybody129]

@Phoenix98 thank you!

[Phoenix98]

No problem.

[FunkyMonkee]

Pantyhose!

[Handybody129]

@FunkyMonkee another new answer!

[FunkyMonkee]

I aim to please! And so does Louise!! So, don't hide arms, get side arms at Aaaaames guns!!

[hellacray]

Sex.

[Handybody129]

@hellacray lol, that's a new answer here l. Thank you

[Uptowngirl88]

Connection

[Handybody129]

@uptowngirl88 thank you for the answer

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I dont know