Am I being sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Last night I decide to book me and my boyfriend a night away on Friday. Anyway, he said thank you and thought it was sweet, but today, he said he thinks I should cancel it and spend my money on something practical. Fair enough, but I cancelled it, told him and all he said was "oh ok".
I feel really hurt tbh because I went out of my way to do something nice for us (bare in mind I was gonna pay), and yet I feel like he's thrown it back in my face.
He then started arguing and saying he's sick and tired of all of this.. which he didn't explain what he meant.
Don't know if this matters but I'm pregnant, so im pretty vulnerable atm, and he stayed round mine a few nights ago, I got upset told him I'm scared about the pregnancy, and he said "don't you think I'm scared too".. then carried on and said "If it's gonna be like this every time I stay round I won't for the rest of the pregnancy"
I'm so so hurt by it, am I being sensitive?
Now he's not even replying to me.. I don't know what to do. I don't even know if I want this baby anymore. I'm so stuck.

[dhinchak]

Seems like he's not that invested in raising a family. Sorry for that. But that's what it seems like to me.

I think he's trying to do the right thing by being at your side, buy also feels entitled to respect for doing it. In his mind, he's already going out of his way by supporting you through this.

If you really love him and want him by your side, you'd need to bottle up your emotions. I can understand how taxing this is going to be, but I don't see any other way of making him stay.

Also, talk to him about the future plans. Like how does he see the both of you going forward. Talk about whether he would like to raise the baby with you. If he doesn't, then ask him if he's ok with giving it up for adoption. I'm not advising you to go through with the adoption thing, but maybe the talk would get him to open up about what he's really going through.

I have a feeling that he feels tied down because of the pregnancy. Maybe he has a lot going through in his life that's making him behave a little on edge. You would need to be stronger to deal with him and to keep him if you love him that much.

And to answer your question, no you aren't being sensitive. That's how you're supposed to be in this phase. If anything, I think he's being really insensitive.

[TheBootyChest]

He doesn't sound like a good guy for you. If he thinks that he can avoid the pregnancy phase, then what will he do when you both have a living breathing child to take care of? How many times will he book it then?

don't get me wrong, I understand people fight/vent and all that. but he wants to leave for 6-9 months now. Afterwards he will have to leave for years at a time while another "phase" hits him too hard to handle then.

[Anonymous]

Don’t be so hard on yourself, pregnancy hormones can be really insane and I’m sure it’s an adjustment for both of you. Trying to plan a night away was very nice of you, but given his response and other behavior, I think you have a bigger issue to address. For him to threaten to leave you, it gives me the impression that he’s already been thinking about it and that is a problem. Maybe you should have a sit-down conversation with him, to talk about your pregnancy and decide what will the next steps be for you both.

[karaspara]

I'd be offended perhaps he's worried about impending fatherhood which is understandable

[MotorcycleMan]

Yikes.
It's possible that he's looking for a way out. It's also possible that he's just afraid. It's also possible that with hormones racing through your body you are currently "moody". lol
You probably need to have a sit-down grown-up serious kinda talk as this is effecting your futures in a big way.

[Iron_Man]

There’s something more behind the scenes then he’s letting on to

[In_Trance]

yes you are