He wants to be with me but also doesn't?

[Emma220022]

Me and my boyfriend we’re doing so well till just recently he told me he wants to be with me but also doesn’t. I don't know what to do cause it Lowkey hurts and I don’t wanna lose him. He says he wants to figure his self out but I’m scared I’m gonna lose him. I still want to be with him but I don't know what I can do to help him and keep this relationship. Please help I love him too much.

[Bee-Hatch]

This sounds like it's a bit fucked up. Why would you lower yourself to be someone's on/off choice. That's hardly someone that cares about you.


Serious advice. Break it up. If he actually cares about you he will be back and focused on sorting things out. If that's the last you hear from him then you had a lucky escape.

[Emma220022]

No no no it’s not like that he cares deeply we both want this work I think we just need a break for a little bit cause he wants to work on himself

[SwedishTwizz]

If my boyfriend ever say he is unsure about being with me i would just break up right away i love myself enough to be half loved by someone

[Emma220022]

I don't know if I can break up with him like that I love him way too much. I just want him to be happy.

[SwedishTwizz]

Love yourself more than you love him.

[Avicenna]

You two need to communicate better so you can get to the root of the problem

[Emma220022]

I tried to talk to him but I feel like he’s pushing me away

[Avicenna]

Then he doesn't want it as bad as you do or he needs to want it

[Emma220022]

When we talked about it I kinda felt like he was pushing me away but he wants to save our relationship

[Avicenna]

Then the ball is in his court to do more and communicate better

[Yaharro]

Treat him like a best friend to Make him very comfortable

[Emma220022]

I do treat him like a best friend cause that’s what we were before we started dating. I just don’t wanna lose him and I want to help as much as I can I just don’t know what to do.

[Yaharro]

I mean to say just for short period of time just to not make him too stressed

[Yaharro]

If that doesn't work only long talk could help otherwise let be stay as it is because forcing Will make relationship worse

[Emma220022]

It probably would make it worse if forced. I’m just scared that if I do give him a break he’s just gonna move on and forget about me.

[Emma220022]

I’m just confused on why this happened we were doing so good before and it hurts that he feels this way. I want to save it and he says he wants to save it too but just don’t how.

[Yaharro]

You cannot form relationship without trust If he I'll not put efforts to save this relationship then I don't think anything else could help

[Emma220022]

He wants to save it. He told me he has the feelings and thoughts of sometimes wanting to be alone but still wants to be with me. And again wants to not cause he misses being alone.

[Yaharro]

He needs space let him have it you both trust eachother then nothing go wrong

[Emma220022]

I hope it just sucks that I don’t want our relationship on hold but I know it’s for the best. I’m worried about a lot of things I just want things to go back how they used to be

[Emma220022]

I guess the one thing that scares me is that I told him what if I gave him space and he told me “ what if I like the space” that’s what worries me is that if we do go on a break it’s never gonna go back

[Yaharro]

Either one of you have to face

[Emma220022]

Yeah I know it just sucks. I truly believe it can work out and he wants it to work he doesn’t want to have these feelings and thoughts I just don’t know how to help him with these feelings and thoughts

[Yaharro]

If he likes free space for long he will be the only one who breaking trust

[Yaharro]

You guys have 2 choice carry the relationship or break up and move forward if you both stuck in middle their Will be no progress and will be confuse for life

[Emma220022]

You’re right everything you’ve said was right thank you. We both love each other a lot want it to work so I hope the break helps

[Uptowngirl88]

He doesn't want to be with you. There's nothing you can do to change his mind.

[In_Trance]

you've already lost him

[heartelectra__]

this relationship is just toxic.