How would you feel when your girlfriend called you manwhore?

[Anonymous]

just because she found out that you ever had sex with several women before met your girlfriend. would you be embarrassed with her reaction after she digging your past life? would you still able to face her again? or choose to breakup?

[btbc92]

Listen. This is why you find out SOONER. NOT when your dating. If that is such a big impact on you, you have the right to move on and the other cannot dispute that if they think it's okay to do, when it's not. They have the right to break up with you, as you do. But you have to ask yourself why you are holding on to that if you cannot fully handle that when involved in a romantic relationship? I know as a virgin especially I CANNOT and never participated in that. Therefore, a man who is sexually experienced is not somebody I desire to get involved with. As it is his right to find somebody similar to him and doesn't care what he did.

[Asker]

but how to find it sooner in fact after a year he started to be open and told me his past life which allowed me to dig more about his past while pretending to be calm and until he asked me if I have been with any man in the past. ?

[btbc92]

Simple. How do you pick your friends? It's how you pick your partner. If you pick poor partners, it also reflects how you pick friends. Unless friends for the most part isn't the issue, but that you expect less for a dating partner than you do calling a friend. You have to be bold and ask them where they involved with anyone sexually in the beginning. You have the right to know. You think every man likes the fact I tell them I'm a Christian, a virgin, believe in God and Jesus and desire the things of God in my life? How I rather somebody who is similar to myself? Nope. They want to just hush hush, to just forget the past and just hop in bed with them basically, when you know basically nothing about them yet their so quick. WHY? People have the right to know and make the judgment calls concerning it.

[btbc92]

Anybody who deliberately chooses to hide something important is willing to basically trap you into a relationship you may not want. People who truly are sorry don't do that. People who understand this doesn't do that. Some are hurt and try not to cause anything to displease a person. But the other still needs to know. He was ONLY OPEN about his past life when he felt SAFE (already in a relationship with you) to tell you so you won't judge his sexual choices. Had he known you would, he wouldn't date you. And that is not your fault. How can anybody have sex like that and think it's not a big deal is beyond me. Not everybody can handle that or want to deal with that. To be raped is one thing. To make a conscious choice to have sex, premarital sex at that, is another. However, if you are sexually active yourself. If you had sex outside of marriage also and still is, who can you judge him when you would be judged the same. And therefore anybody would be angry and in a way, rightfully so, because your not a virgin who didn't wait either. But, if you are on the right path and waiting and doing it right and wanting to please God and not just your spouse, you have every right to find out if both of you are meeting those standards before getting too involved would be an disaster.

[btbc92]

before it turns into a disaster* that could have been avoided.

[Asker]

well I'm still virgin. we didn't have sex yet.

[btbc92]

So why are you dating somebody who isn't a virgin?

[btbc92]

There is NO YET. It shouldn't be. So you have the right to judge and the right to not be involved especially when it is bothering you. He cannot change his past, but if it really is that disturbing and he never informed you in the beginning, then this is another issue. It is why you address this. Anybody who is basically open to sexual encounters often don't have "qualms" with virgins who is willing to give it up. But of people like me who isn't and or who stands firm in waiting and maintaining. He more and likely expected you would be happy he was experienced and hopes to feel good about his sexual performance. But here is the thing. Do you want a performance, or to be loved? If you feel and belief this man cannot offer what you are seeking, it is not a relationship you want to be in.

[Asker]

plus I didn't make friends with anyone who has bad background. I was very careful when choosing friends. however I date him because I never thought he had this dark side since he told me he doesn't talk to any female much plus his job was surrounded by males. so when knowing this made my mind wants to explode. I don't know how to describe I felt.

[btbc92]

I understand. It's confusing. Because he never told you this and he made it out like he was a virgin like you or at least had the same standards. You didn't go into too much details, but what matters is what do YOU want to do about this situation? How is he responding to this if he is at all. Or is this just something you wanted to blurt out at the moment? Be careful with your words. If your not prepared to lose the relationship badly, simply don't call him that. Tell him what you really feel in a respectful manner. Though you should always be respectful, it is best to bite your tongue at times. Your uncomfortable, and you have the right to be. But as long as there is no hard feelings, you have to decide if you want to continue. We cannot tell you what to do.

[Asker]

since you asked me why I'm dating non virgin guy. tell me how to find virgin guys? 🙂 plus so many virgin guys are trying their best to lose virginity as soon as possible when they get a girl.

[btbc92]

Simply be yourself. I just spoken to somebody I assume is still a virgin on here. My suggestion is ask God to help and guide you concerning that but salvation is the most important thing here. While I will not assume your beliefs I do hope and pray that you are somebody that really wants something real and not be in a position like that. While I cannot assume much about this guy, I can only say that the biggest mistake is not telling he truth prior to dating you and not after. There are plenty of virgin men around you as you know, but as you also said, many whom are so quick to lose their virginities. Again, you will just have to be patient and ask God to help in that area. It may take a long while until then, but steadfast and don't give up. A lot sadly haven't kept themselves, but this is where you need God more than ever because it gets harder as we get older.

[Asker]

to be honest I really wanted to call him manwhore. I kept calling him that in my heart. but at least bite my tongue so I didn't call him that and I just asked him what was his purpose to tell me that and he was speechless with my question for a moment also he "forgot" that I'm virgin. anyway we talk less since that thing now.

I make this question because I want to see how guys feel if their girlfriend call them that.

[Asker]

thank you for your advice. you're right. I should've seek god's help for this. :(

[DizzyDesii]

He’d prob be like “Yea thats true tho” and still stick with the girl

[rjroy3]

If my girl felt comfortable name calling to begin with I have bigger problems. It's your job as a man to have a personal code you live by. Refusing to condone being disrespected by your partner should be on the list.

How I would feel would more so be, perhaps I misjudged her character. That she's not as good as I thought and that she's overstepping by both disrespecting me and judging me for that past.

Especially when you know she wants you to be accepting of her past. We would have words if my girl did that

[rjroy3]

Unless it was directly intended as a joke and no harm of course

[ohshee]

No I wouldn't be embarrassed at all and I would say to first of all why were you digging in my past why don't you just ask me and I'll tell you I have nothing to be ashamed of and if that's the way you want to see me that's prerogative and I would say just because you learned how many women I had sex with did you learn the whole story with each one of them or just that one little part. No I wouldn't be concerned with what she called me I've been working certain that she didn't trust me that she just asked me

[Tru-陳]

You can't shame a man for having lots of sex it means he is attractive and desireable to a lot of women. most men aspire to have lots of sex. its not like being a girl where having a sex isn't an achievement since men aren't nearly as selective as women when it comes to sex

[Yourfriend2021]

If you were in a long term relationship and then the guy cheated on you, you broke up. Then it happened again with the next guy and the next and the next. Would you think of yourself as a whore because you had several men in the past, or just someone who tried but got cheated on?

[Jake99999]

If you are a woman calling your boyfriend a whore, it’s not exactly endearing. Based on his past? You are judging him. If he is so bad, then why are you with him? And I am sure he won’t stay with you after such treatment.

[es20490446e]

I would tell her that I wanted to have a relationship with most of these women, but they were so horrible it was impracticable.

That she's ignorant on how horrible many women are these days, just because she deals with them only as a friend.

[Nightroads]

Her opinion matters to me, if she thinks i have been with to many then its her decision what to do with it. It wouldn't really bother me, name calling it where you fail to communicate. Sticks and stones.

[Petermorgan34]

That’s kind of mean, but the real question is if the roles were reversed how would you feel if he called you a whore if he discovered your past?

[Asker]

I would be embarrassed? but aren't men has no shame for what they did and proud?

[chriscdi]

Well considering I'm not a manwhore, I would probably find it kinda funny, cause I'm just like that but I just know I wouldn't be offended

[Anonymous]

Decide for yourself if your past sex life is reasonable. If so, tell her to get over it and stop being insulting.

[bamesjond0069]

Id feel proud in a way. A little dirty. Probably turned on.

[fred_durst]

manwhore is pretty much has same meaning as chad , i ll take that as compliment

[MrPlentiful]

Bruh men aren't whores. The logic you feminists use

[btbc92]

A woman doesn't have a penis. Men do. Men are very much capable of being a whore as women do. Having more than one partner and having no remorse for the sexual decisions is what the word of God says. It is biblical to state that if it is proven to be a fact. Feminist have 0 to do with that. I call men who participate what they are. If they repent and choose to change, then I pray they truly understand the damage that have been done. If you have that much of a sheared conscious to believe it's not wrong, then it says where there is error on your part. Blaming feminist for your poor sexual lifestyle is on you. Not those who don't do that and called that out.

[MrPlentiful]

@btbc92 god didn't intend any of the shit you just mentioned

[btbc92]

Oh really? God had made clear to Paul in 1st Corinthians 7. Because there is so much sexual immorality, let every man have his own wife and let every woman have her own HUSBAND. ENOUGH SAID. God said to get married, THEN have sex. Not sexual perversions, fornication and other things.

[btbc92]

Where do you get this "logics" that men aren't whores? If that is the case, men wouldn't be stoned back then either.

[MrPlentiful]

@btbc92 god also told paul its good not to get married🙄

[btbc92]

Firstly, marriage is a personal decision for all unless circumstances prevents so. If you have no logical reason to get married, you shouldn't. There is nothing wrong with marriage. Just people.

[btbc92]

You do not have to have sex with a woman if you are that scared to get involved. I don't blame you if you don't. I am a virgin myself. I am not getting myself involved with men, especially one of your attitude and act as if whoredoms is the way to live. So think about that before you want to scream feminism. Feminism happened because why? MOST of the men abused and used women, period. It only got worse from there and now men and women equally are being victimized. Nobody should be victimized. Period. Marriage is between a man and a woman who desire to be husband and wife, and when you cut a covenant (having sex) you are MARRIED. A ring and certificate and declaring a marriage is a matter of it being legal before the courts. When you have sex is also a legal matter in the eyes of God. So if you think men can have sex with any woman but no woman can't, you already explained the purposed of why feminism did what it did. Start educating yourself instead of being in ignorance.

[btbc92]

So if your sexually active, you already married somebody. Kinda defeats the purpose in saying something that God didn't tell Paul not to do. But that it was wise for a man not to marry. But everybody have their own gifts. And if sex is one of that, you should marry. Because when you have sex your creating a family already. Not just by getting a woman pregnant, but by making her a part of YOU. You better think about that before you want to say how men aren't whores. Unless you never had sex and messed around then it doesn't apply to you but those who it applies to until they repent. That applies to you and me also.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't be too upset but I would slap her across the face and tell her to find another guy

[Bluemax]

I dated grownups, not children.

[spartan55]

Embarrassed? Pissed off would be more like it.

[abc3643]

You mean my EX-girlfriend...

[es20490446e]

Hehehe.