Would you find it weird if someone you only hookup with got you a gift?

[zaharuh]

Like me and him are friends but don't really talk that much outside of hooking up. So like he got me a like a turquoise bracelet and I like it but I've never really gotten a gift from someone I just hook up with. I guess for context we've been talking for like 4-5 months and we weren't like best friends before or anything. Now I feel like I should get him something lol but I don't want to start creating expectations.

[Jamie05rhs]

Well, I can't comment on your relationship with this guy specifically, Zaharuh, but I think you SHOULD start creating greater expectations for yourself. Why are you hooking up?

[zaharuh]

Well I don't feel like I'm ready for any relationship right now and we set these boundaries together when we first hooked up but I know what you mean. We are kind of just hooking up to do it I guess and have fun.

[yofuknutz]

That's why she is hooking up there's nothing better out there have you looked around lately it's a joke and we're supposed to tell these younger people is going to be alright does it look all right out there all right I need to go and have a stiff drink

[adolfohittando]

@yofuknutz Nah man if a woman is sleeping around like this girl is she won't be very desirable at least in my eyes. Would she be good for a good time? Fuck yeah this girl is kinky but maybe a bit too much to bring back to the family lol

[yofuknutz]

My point exactly and that's what all that give it to these people these days hook up but don't look up it's fucking sad like going back to animals

[adolfohittando]

@yofuknutz Thing is I don't even think most younger girls are sluts like that it's just that the ones that are happen to be more open than they used to but yea agreed.

[Adagio]

Yea I'm around her age and most girls don't get around like that but you're right dude, most of the girls that are sluts are pretty open about it. Nothing against zaharuh or anything but she would be too much for me to date as well, although she does seem like a fun girl especially with some of the things she's said 😅

[yofuknutz]

She sounds like an individual party

[zaharuh]

Okay like @adolfohittando @Adagio I've never even spoke with you before besides just replying on my post what even makes you think I'm a slut? If it's the bondage thing like that doesn't make a girl a slut.

[yofuknutz]

She has a point assumptions are the mother of all fuk ups. Actually what's your definition of a slut put the issue to rest

[adolfohittando]

@zaharuh Here sweetie let me list you the red flags:
1. You said you wear chokers (nothing too wrong with this but definitely on the slutty side even generally speaking.
2. You admitted to wearing collars, that's not very innocent even if it's only in the bedroom
3. You have friends with benefits, sure it's good fun but that's some hoe shit at a point.
4. You're into bondage, maybe doesn't make you a slut but makes me assume you get around
5. You've said you're into degradation so for all I know you like being called a slut 🤣
Look I'm just saying there are a good amount of red flags to me, you're right I've never spoke to you but I'm just telling you what I see simple as that. If these are things you talk about in the open it only makes me curious what you like behind closed doors...

[yofuknutz]

@zaharuh maybe she should give her OWN definition of slut/whore.

[yofuknutz]

Everybody here seems to have their own definition

[zaharuh]

@adolfohittando
1 That's not slutty.
2 Like what's even wrong with that especially it being in the bedroom 🤦‍♀️
3 Okay I guess you can have that one but still like it doesn't make someone a slut
4 This is just a kink like a virgin could be into that.
5 at least this one is funny lmao

[adolfohittando]

@zaharuh Listen I already said that I don't know you and all but I'm just telling you the red flags i see, that's all. Nothing to get worked up over but im glad you enjoyed the last one!

[yofuknutz]

I wonder if each person by themselves has their own red flags in life as opposed to just generalized red flags.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[jamiesrevenge]

na thats some shit that can't be happening with those kinda "friends" also u be lettin this dude tie you up? 🤣

[zaharuh]

lmao maybe...

[jamiesrevenge]

u tellin me that u let a dude tie u up after a couple months of hooking up? u crazy as hell that being said if u need another friend... 😏

[zaharuh]

Okay well I think I know who I can trust like I could know someone for 3 years and not trust them.

[Anonymous]

that's a hard question sweetie but I dont think I would get him a gift because I feel like it could lead to more but let him know you appreciate it :)!

[zaharuh]

Yeah I definitely let him know I was happy for the gift, it's really cute.

[JosyJosy]

I would find it weird yep. I'd probably give it to someone else

[Anonymous]

He may have caught feelings for you or just thought it was a nice thing to do. I wouldn't get him anything if you don't feel anything for him.

[zaharuh]

Yeah I don't know it confuses me honestly and you're right I probably shouldn't get him something.

[Opinion Owner]

If you're not into him romantically or as a friend, you wouldn't want to give him the wrong idea and get his hopes up with a gift. Having said that, if he's a good friend a small gift may be okay, but not right away.

[zaharuh]

Yeah I don't really have those feelings for him and like that's the thing I feel like if I get him a gift back it could lead to more feelings or something. But at the same time I just feel weird not giving back when I get something.

[Opinion Owner]

Something small at a special occasion like Thanksgiving, Christmas, or his birthday may work.

[zaharuh]

Yeah I like that idea I'll probably wait for a good time to get him a small gift back.

[Waldoe]

no I would not... get him anything, he is just a nice guy, you're lucky... don't overthink it

[zaharuh]

Yeah he is really nice but I just never expected something like this since it hasn't happened to me before with someone I only hooked up with lol I'll try not to overthink it.

[dripp]

Yeah , probably a little weird... Although that depends

[zaharuh]

Depends on what

[Browneye57]

You keep trying to justify this depravity. A GIANT FAIL.

[zaharuh]

I don't know what you mean

[Browneye57]

Of course not. Just absolutely clueless.

[zaharuh]

Well like can you explain it at least lol

[Browneye57]

So you're not the one that keeps asking about a friends with benefits being something more? Cuz it's all a giant fail, there's absolutely NOTHING in it for the girl. Nada. Zip. Zilch. A big nothingburger.

You're a warm place to put it. He likes you give him free pussy so he doesn't have to jerk off. You've cheapened yourself to the bottom of the barrel.

But you want to know about a GIFT? Start charging him - $500 a session. At least you'd get something out of it then.

[zaharuh]

Okay but there is something in it for the girl, we both enjoy eachothers time and have a certain trust between us. Also I'm not a prostitute, just because I have a friends with benefits does not mean I'm going to go around and fuck whoever I see 🤦‍♀️

[jamiesrevenge]

@Browneye57 you funny as fuck 🤣 I see what you mean

[Browneye57]

@jamiesrevenge - Yep. Worse than a prostitute - she gives it away for FREE!!! And yes, she'll fuck just any guy - hence the friends with benefits arrangement. Free pussy!!

[jamiesrevenge]

@Browneye57 you ain't wrong, that's some hoe shit

[Browneye57]

@jamiesrevenge - I've never paid for sex, but I have had a friends with benefits arrangement during my first marriage, with a college co-ed, that lasted a couple of years. She just wanted a hot guy to fuck her brains while she got her degree.
When it came time for it to end, there were a lot of tears shed. You can't get naked and do it with someone over and over and not get emotionally attached. That's the way our brains are wired - it's a biological imperative, for the best outcome for the resultant offspring.

I had several more affairs till I finally met the right one. Divorced the ex, moved in with what became wifey ver 2.0, much younger and prettier. That was over thirty years ago.

Just like dating at work, a non-committed friends with benefits or fuck-buddy arrangment is a giant fail Sure you get some orgasms, but people are meant to commit to each other, not cheapen themselves for just some fucking. It's just so shallow, hollow, empty, devoid of true satisfaction.

The college co-ed got her degree and moved on with her life. But she regretted it, she actually fell in love. Sad sad state of affairs for the little missy. I was already married with kids. Just not happening.

[Browneye57]

Oh, what I was going to say before I got off on a tangent, is I understand you need a couple of grand with you if you hit the Chicken Ranch. Yes, it's at least a grand for a decent whore. This bimbo asking the question is not only getting paid, but getting fucked over and over by some moron, and she's DOING IT FOR FREE!!!

[Browneye57]

*... not only NOT getting paid...

[zaharuh]

@Browneye57 Okay like you aren't wrong I've gotten attached to guys that were friends with benefits before and maybe I will with this one but if we're both fine with it what's the problem. Personally I don't really want a committed relationship right now. For all I know I could end up dating this guy like who knows. And you're a piece of shit for cheating on your wife like that, why not get the divorce then look for new partners?

[jamiesrevenge]

just tell me this @zaharuh what's ya body count and dont be lying

[Browneye57]

Yep. I cheated, then left. TFB.
But I bought her a house and took all the debt. So that was about a half a million. People ask why divorce is so expensive, BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT.

Girls are the keepers of sex.
Guys are the keepers of commitment.
Don't be giving up any of yours till you get at least a little of his.

And if you're gonna just give it up to any ol' dude, at least charge for it.

[exitseven]

I think it was a thoughtful gesture.

[zaharuh]

Yeah maybe I'm overthinking it

[Nice222]

It’s nice, but I would just be thankful and not buy him a gift. If you do buy him a gift he might start thinking there is more to the relationship.

[Anonymous]

He stepping in dangerous territory I would personally not gift someone I hookup with, it's supposed to be no strings attached.

[akwardblackguy]

no cause we would have boundries. and i like gifts

[zaharuh]

Yeah that's true and I love gifts too it's just that it hasn't happened to me before with someone I just hookup with.

[akwardblackguy]

its just a nice gesture i guess

[zaharuh]

That's what I'm starting to think too

[Wise4myage]

Id be ok with that.

[zaharuh]

I'm okay with it too I just found it strange since it's just never happened before lol

[Wise4myage]

Nice, lol.

[Luckycharms12]

Yes I would