Is being the mistress better than being the wife?

[Hangry06]

She has a point

It was a reply to this youtube comment on a video about why men cheat 👇

I was just there for the comments tbh

YES

NO

[SlightlyEccentric]

>Men aren't worth the pain and time women give them

Yeah all those hours of effort she put in sitting on her fat ass watching Netflix and smoking pot while I worked my fingers to the bone to provide an income really showed how much "pain and time" she gave me.

Seriously tho, this commenter is acting like all women ever do is give and give while guys are nothing but a hinderance who never, ever appreciate them. Clearly a type of person who can't look themselves in a mirror and see their own fault lines.

[Hangry06]

The video was about men cheating. Not about women. So obviously they're gonna comment on that

[Shizunk]

Ignoring the obvious problem of being a cheating enabler, women tend to be fine as a mistress up to around their mid thirties, then a lot, though not all, start to quickly experience decrease of interest from men and suddenly realize they failed to achieve long term stability. The fact that long term relationships and marriages don't always work should not be an excuse to waste your opportunity and give up without trying. If all that life is to you is a bit of excitement early on, then I suppose you could say that ends justify the means. Otherwise being a mistress is a short term game plan at best. Contributing to the ruination of other peoples long term investment doesn't help.

[Seinna]

I don't know, maybe for some people? But The main reason why I "bother" with men is to have children. And children need both parents so I wouldn't consider beind a mistress in any case. Children need a stable family and also, families are the building blocks of a society so I want to have one. I'd rather be part of the solution than part of the problem.

[Hangry06]

What if your husband cheats? Will you stay for the sake of the family?

[Seinna]

Yes I would. I'm a Christian so I can only have one husband. I hope I can marry someone who's not likely to cheat though.

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I would say only if you're not looking for a true relationship and are only in it for the sex, and also if you have questionable enough morals to interfere in another person's relationship (I don't care if you know the woman or not and feel it "isn't your problem", what's wrong is wrong regardless).

[t-8900]

The mistress will lose out. She's more than likely gonna live past that point single. Even if she gets a guy to reproduce with her later the respectable men will want nothing to do with her. She's basically just a prostitute getting things just for being easy. But she's never going to really be valued or looked on in a favorable light. Most guys will see her as a disposable object, not a person. If you call that winning then I guess she's a winner. But imho it's more like being a loser. Getting hung up on objects that can't bring you long term happiness and lose value. How many pornstar sob stories you gotta hear about being lonely and miserable at the end to see the pattern of living a life for sex and money?

[midnightmoon05]

Key words- long term.

Most use their youth …
It fades fast.

[t-8900]

@midnightmoon05 yep and the only way she can salvage herself at the end is to become a pathological liar. I guess such women are okay with that maybe. But their marriage won't likely work out anyways as a result to rocky foundations.

[Kaneki05]

Why is there no such thing as mistresses for single guys?
Like can't she just sleep with a guy who is single all the same as she would with a married man?

Kinda weird i have to get a girlfriend then married just for a girl then tell me hey you want to have casual sex, without your wife knowing?
Like were was this casual sex without a wife already?

[Hangry06]

That's with friends with benefits. A whole another thing

[midnightmoon05]

If the mistress never rise to be more … that’s all she will become.
Some men are careful to not have offspring with them.
mistresses often use their youth and beauty to “trap” men who are sleazy or haven’t marriage issues…
Youth and beauty fades…
all she truly gets are materialistic/monetary compensations… in other word.. hired as a private prostitute.
just think… what will happen to her around 40 and on?

[DaveJord]

Marriage can become a trap for many people. If they have a happy marriage then there's no need for a mistress.

If you are a mistress then you probably don't want marriage. So its better for you. You made no promises to his wife, and you don't own her anything. He's the one that's broken his promises. So hell yeah have fun.

[kqueen]

If you're the mistress, you have to live with the knowledge that you are not important enough to the guy for him to want to actually be in a relationship with you. If all you want is sex, then yeah I guess, but there's more effective ways to get your needs met that don't involve the possibility of ruining your reputation if it gets out. Otherwise I think it would be kinda soul crushing

[Starwitch23]

No, if you have modicum of self-respect. Also, the mistress is dirty little secret. It's the worst feeling being in relationship and you don't have your boyfriend with you on valentines day. He is with his wife on Valentine's day.

[bamesjond0069]

Well theirs wives, concubines, and mistress/side piece.

Generally the lower on the pole the better man you can get. Ie a side piece can get a man way out of her league whereas a wife will get a man far less than what she's probably accustomed to dating. So there's that aspect to it. This is simple economics.

[PAcc92]

In marriage Men risk half their wealth, their home, car, children, and even their pets.

What do women risk? Absolutely nothing.

[Hangry06]

So you mean men should be allowed to have mistresses as a relief?

[John_Doesnt]

Why should a man have to pay for two different women at once? And why can't women buy things for men? Girls complained about "equal pay" but now you won't pay equally in a relationship.

[Miristheiss]

There are some deceived, messed up people out there.

[Vigors]

I got cheated on so now I make men cheat on their wives

[Hangry06]

Sweet revenge

[Vigors]

I HATE women

[Hangry06]

I understand

[Flower7]

No one can “make” men cheat. There has to be some self-responsibility there.

[kqueen]

damn, changed your whole sexuality. that's pretty impressive

[JosyJosy]

if the mistress is aware I think it's better, she doesn't really have much to lose

[midnightmoon05]

Think long term.

[DarkWinterNights]

Lol, swap the genders and you have a comment on a mgtow video.

[Visionary7]

Not when you start developing feelings for the guy, you're left alone and used whilst he goes home to the wife.

[midnightmoon05]

Exactly.

[Still-alive]

Nah as soon as she's been used and ages a bit he's gonna just leave he's for a new mistress

[Anonymous]

Presumably some women think so. The good news is that some want to be wives and some want to be mistresses so there's really something for everyone!

[Anonymous]

Women are the cause of cheating. Usually these "mistress" and "boss girl" types who think its cool to collect men

[Flower7]

How are women the cause instead of the men who are in relationships? Are those men not capable of any self-control at all?

[midnightmoon05]

@Flower7 there are girls out their who used their manipulation to collect men to use.
I see the way they use boys at a young age…
Most decent women grow out of that…
Very few are fucked ip and will be happily being home wackers.

[Anonymous]

A guy doesn't have to pay anything for sex if he's worth the fuck.

[ChiPaPa]

I hate people like that.

[Hangry06]

Why tho? It's not like the other person owes loyalty to the ones in relationships

[Wise4myage]

Sure, if you like dead end streets.