Why does she want me so bad when I’m a loser?

[Anonymous]

She keeps asking me to get married with her. I told her no I’m not rich and I don’t want to be a parent. She kept bothering about it and all I like her for is sex. I told her if you don’t want me to use you for sex then you should find another guy. She started crying and I told her okay, let’s get a prenuptial agreement. And she said no that’s not romantic we have to married the traditional way. I don’t know how to tell her to see a psychiatrist without hurting her feelings. I told her at beginning all I want is sex so if you’re looking for a boyfriend look somewhere else. I let the women know before I start a casual relationship, so there’s no hard feelings when it’s done. I don't know how to tell her no without her crying.

[readyplayer2]

she's attatched it seems, i would stop having sex with her and move on before it gets worse. as long as you said hey this is what it is beforehand like i want sex thats it, then you were honest no one can hate you for that

[readyplayer2]

@MCheetah yes

[readyplayer2]

so much negativity on the last account from others, i was like welp lets start fresh

[Asker]

I just don’t like how
This girl just comes In my life and literally becomes my life. That’s what I get for being too nice. Should’ve pretended like I didn’t care about her.

[readyplayer2]

thank you? lol

[readyplayer2]

just cut ties with her before it gets way crazy, you were upfront, so its her fault

[Asker]

@readyplayer2 but everyone is telling me I need to man up and take care of her. I mean she’s really sensitive, the most sensitive girl I’ve ever slept with & I was overly nice to her. I always tried to cheer her up when she was sad and I think she saw I wasn’t the tough I made her think I was at beginning and real personality started to show. I usually hide that side because use take advantage of me all the time. I think she saw who I really & she thinks she can get me.

[readyplayer2]

its not your job to take care of her. unless thats something you want

[Asker]

I mean I like taking care of people, but I always go out of my way & I do too much. And people see I’m really kind so they like to take advantage of me. That’s why I always acted aloof. I So try to do very little. The first time she cried I felt my nurturing instinct kick in and I comfort her. It just felt like I need to make her feel comfortable.

[readyplayer2]

@Nazgol
evil how? elaborate. this guy said he was just looking for sex? she agreed to those terms? all i did was answer. if neither of them will be happy she wants more he doesn't why fill his head with well you have to? she will never have what she is looking for with this person. i soley based my answer off what was typed by asker

[user1245322]

@Nazgol You are nuts! He doesn't want a relationship, just sex, she wants marriage? What more do you want of an answer? Someone to say oh you have to stay after he said I am just here for sex?

[readyplayer2]

@user1245322 its a doomed situation this is why people should never hook up. i cannot tell him to stay or tell him oh you are horrible, he was upfront and honest from jump? ties should be cut because she will always want more

[readyplayer2]

@Nazgol i dont do it so i dont have to worry about my end of that. I work with people as a caregiver 12 hours a day 6 days a week of course people are not robots.

its about two ADULTS having an agreement which from what he states they did. if he led her on i would have said oh you are on your own, he didn't. he was upfront and honest even to the point of saying i have nothing to take care of you with, i also do not want to be a parent, he even said well ok can we have a prenup- she said no? what more does someone want from this guy? she is not listening to him or even trying to work with him either

[readyplayer2]

@Nazgol i mean you gave this guy no help but to berate him. tell her you are a loser? he literally told her way more then most would before touching her, she agreed? what is your remedy? he is looking for help. neither want the samething, why force a relationship? no one wins there then bring kids into it? thats just, c'mon now, thats wishful thinking its all a fairytale and this can work.

[user1245322]

@Nazgol You def seem to know your way around these situations, yet gave him nothing to help what he is asking? Really are a sad human and lacking an education @ 31? His situation has nothing to do with gender but what was told and expected. Take sides because you are a girl? You are brainless to a T. and to call someone evil and another a loser? You have zero sense, zero skills and yet have to give this guy a legit answer to what was asked not just troll. Get out in the real world and see what it is about. No one here is having a bad day we are all debating with a troll who throws around words she has no clue what they mean, or use them with lack of direction. Typical troll behaviour looking for someone to actual fight with you back and name call because that is all you can do. Jeez, guess i am having a bad day too?

[readyplayer2]

@user1245322 no worries people have nothing to bring to the table but false insults, no debating someone who has nothing to bring to the table. glad you see this is not a gender issue as its being made out to be if it was a girl in this situation i would have said the samething. i see it with friends doing it all the time and they are always getting hurt, some think they can salvage a relationship or force a relationship from it, sooner or later a person gets feelings. that thing up there thinks she is funny but really shows, her lack there of capacity to deal with real life situation. guess she's been through it so much its left her bitter. i dont partake in it, i dont agree with it but again its not my life so i can only reply to whats asked

[user1245322]

@readyplayer2 True words, right there. Notice how its trolling behavior where no replies are allowed? Totally looking to fight with people, a guy also agreed with this guy yet she said nothing to him? Down there. Also thank you for your service on the front lines, your job is not an easy one, so thank you for that, Stay safe out there

[Midori999]

You don't want to get married and she wants to get married? You should have told her no and left her alone. :/

[jaybee281]

"If you don't want me to use you for sex" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣now that's her prince charming alright

[Asker]

Lmfao I know right. I was too passive now she got me by the balls.

[jaybee281]

Yea I'm sorry for the position you're in bro - I mean you did tell her beforehand that it's only sex it's supposed to only be that - So you definitely did nothing wrong but probably every single time you try and be real with her she gets so emotional you can't keep going - I don't know man I say distance yourself and try to have less and less conversations with her - definitely no sex too - and whenever she tries to talk tell her sorry but that was what we agreed on..

[MCheetah]

I don't know, man. But just take the win and stop complaining. Not to many of us get so lucky.

[MCheetah]

I didn't read the details of the question and only saw the question part alone cause answered it in the feed (outside of this page).
I would stand your ground and tell her you're not the marrying type, and if she can't handle that, then so be it.

[AngelMegumin]

U r the one who needs a psychiatrist or at least to get some help with mental health. Ask her to give u time and let everything happen naturally instead of acting immature.

[Nazgol]

Well instead of rambling nonsense, just tell her straight up "I'm a loser" as you told us

[Asker]

I did.

[Nazgol]

🤨🤦‍♀️😆

[Nazgol]

Ok..

[Asker]

Look, I'm not against your gender. Yes, I'm an a. shitty person, but I told her that from the start. I'm not going to shit on you.

[Asker]

All that stuff I said up there that's what I told her. Look I'm not rich, I'm a loser and I don't want to be a parent, so why do you want to marry me? I said those things she would leave and didn't work.

[Nazgol]

I know I was talking to ready player

[Asker]

She's not evil. Maybe short-tempered but not evil. She's just probably having a bad day. Just tell sorry evil was too harsh of a word and you understand she's just a little upset.

[Nazgol]

Ummm yeah well I don't really care lol and how do you know that anyway? How ur sure she's having a rough day🤨😆 it's not related to the argument anyway LOL

[Asker]

Alright fair enough. I just wanted you two to get along.

[Asker]

Both of you seem like good people. Just she says the wrong when she's upset.