Boyfriend will not go down on me?

[Veronicafriday]

I have been with my boyfriend for 7 months and a real problem is he won’t go down on me. We were together over 2 years ago and this was not a problem he went down. No he says it would make him sick, so I must assume it was someone else he went down on and she made him sick and now he won’t even try. The worst part is he wants head so I have only briefly given it to him a few times and explained the reason I don’t do it more is bc he doesn’t do it. So HE KNOWS! The selfishness bothers me and makes me resent him. I don’t know if this man I really love is worth it or if this will lead to the end of us? What should I do. He is 30

[errorgoodnameunfound]

Please dont tell me gals have this issue often ffs. My gawd, filter your guys out better gals. I'd go down on a gal as long as long as there is some kind of flavored paper covering for that sorta thing or something. (GERMS! HELLO!) Otherwise forget it. But also, would NEVER expect a BJ. Actually highly against both that and anal. Both I find unhealthy af. My exs did BJs, but they wanted to. Like literally, they asked. So I was like eh OK fine, go ahead. Never pressured them to go further. Never would. To me, gals gotta come to me, tell me they want sexual stuff, and agree to absolute protection, in every way shape and form, possibly even in a written contract.

Also, your boyfriend isn't being the most selfish he could be, just stupid. It's actually in a guys interest to please a girl or else the sex likely wouldn't be as good. So even with a "ayn rand greed is good" type philosophy, he is still an idiot.

My guess is he is also the small feet type if ya know what I mean? And even if not, I still am guessing sex with the guy ain't that great? Just a hunch.

Im actually OK just cuddling. Yah, it turns me on a bit, but it ain't that hard to control yourself.

And thing is, boring blokes like him push women into going fully lesbo, understandably, so fr, not cool.

[Veronicafriday]

I think some of your points are good I think I’m going to point out that he should want to please me. And remind him that the bad experience was not with me. He is selfish the more I think about it, the more it bothers me.

[errorgoodnameunfound]

I think it's time you consider breaking up. But do us guys a favor. LEARN FROM IT. Encourage other girls to be careful who they date/fuck. Guys like me can only influence so much. Word of mouth goes a long way and more so, a few posts on it by you getting circulated a few hundred people you know, can quickly turn to thousands, and into millions, eventually could spread the message to where I and many other guys who desperately need the message sent out.

[jaykumar123]

Going down for a male and sucking cock for a female totally depends. I personally am super ticklish with my head and I would love to get a head but it also makes me insecure. But I really wish and have great desire to go down on my partner and just hope that she lets me to.
I know female friends who love sucking cock but dont like their partners to go down on them and many make friends who like to get a bj but don't want to go down on their partners. Some think it's unhygienic, sone think it might give them std and so on.

Hope you understand. Hmu to talk/discuss anything.

Cheers!

[Veronicafriday]

No i absolutely do NOT love it at all in the past I’ve done it bc men do it to me in return. Me doing it without receiving it makes me resentful and I have told him it bothers me and why I don’t do it more. So it’s starting to make me feel demeaned.

[jaykumar123]

I think you should focus on what pleases you and your partner and what is comfortable for you. I have seen many partners doing sex just because one of them wants it. In love there should be an understanding of what the other person wants and likes. If you like getting licked you should tell him and if you dont like sucking, you should definitely tell him. Instead you could tell him that I love to suck your nipples instead of the cock. If he really respects he will accept it. Anyways you can wrap your breasts or use your hands to tease his cock till he cums.

[the29thhuman]

Then he’s emotionally failing. He’s using a previous experience to hurt you. A real man would work through it with his woman.
Love isn’t about sex but audios to this bone head because he isn’t willing to communicate and he’s comfortable being dysfunctional. Crazy makin gas lighting … type of guy.

[Veronicafriday]

How is it gas lighting?

[DaveJord]

Well I never go down an a lady unless I know she's showered recently, and I will not do it unless she is willing to do it for me as well. But he would not be the first guy or girl to do oral and then decide later he not into it.

My ex-wife did this to me, very similar story here... so I will tell from first hand experience if its that important to you then get out of the relationship. I stayed in mine for years and I never forgave her for it... I found it very demasculinizing and shaming on me. But fortunately I am very confident... but in my relationship it was not the oral... there were other things sexually and none sexually that she neglected about me, that she never did at the start.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Wehave been together for 7 months , and we have been together for two years what math is this.

You are assuming that he went down on someone , assumption is not reality.

So ask him what makes him sick? Is it the smell taste or what.

Do you like giving blowjobs? And just with holding because his not going down bc he was already honest about it selfish or not.

If you did it bc he was honest then you are also selfish and avenging.


If he doesn't suite your sexual needs and that's more important to you talk to him you want it.

If still know mutually seprate

[VikingWarLord]

Is this who I think it is?
If not, have your looks changed? The less attractive she is, the more selfish I am with her in the sack and if she's average or below average I'll NEVER go down on her. Send me a DM with your pics and I'll be BRUTALLY HONEST as to why he might not be goin down on you anymore. If you've gotten less attractive, he thinks he can make you give him head and not give oral in return. I'm the same way with average chics.

[mark000h]

You need to find another guy, one who'll pleasure you. As long as you keep it clean, he should want to.

[2021biguy]

Any normal guy would want to go down on you all the time, so there's something wrong and you shouldn't give him a BJ if we won't. But that's why 69ing is so fun :)

[pizzalovershouse]

Break up if he doesn't treat you good but if you wash up an smell good then he shouldn't mind going down on you

[legalboxers]

Where would I sign up for this? me personally. I hate bjs. They thing it was a chew toy. I had one bad experience.

[blissinanarchy1]

Well to be brutally honest, if you slept with another dude after you broke up the first time maybe he's thinking about that when goes to try

[whosnumber1]

it would be a big problem for me. I don't expect it all the time but...

[Anonymous]

You give but you don’t get? Then don’t give.

[Wise4myage]

Dump his sorry ass and move on.

[Slim57]

Have you asked him why

[BillyBalls]

Do you shave down there?

[Veronicafriday]

Yea I am full hairless I had laser. Plus he had an experience when we were not together that made him want to puke but that was not me.

[BillyBalls]

How was the last?

I've been thinking about getting it.

[Anonymous]

I assume he was the one who hit on you

[Veronicafriday]

No one hit me

[Opinion Owner]

That's not what I meant

[lycanthrope3]

Time for a new boy friend

[vegeta100]

Leave him

[Iron_Man]

What will you do now

[hhhffg7889]

I volunteer

[Anonymous]

use honey