Is there a state of mind a guy or gal has to been to be in a relationship? If so what is it like for both guys and gals?

[Anonymous]

Haven't been a relationship for quite some time and have never been in a serious relationship ever.

I am curious of what you all think. : )

[Emiliamazing]

My husband and I I feel like we were at happy places in our life without a significant other when we met. I think that’s really important. Find happiness without someone and when you do meet someone you’re interested in, it should compound your happiness :-)

[jennifer_bloom]

For me, I chase the spirit of God and follow the instructions I get

[spartan55]

I don't have to in any state of mind. Not sure what you are really asking.

[Asker]

See, that's what I'm not sure about. Because sometimes people get into relationships and they're not always exactly positive. For example: Is it mainly being out there and saying yes?

[spartan55]

Are you talking about getting into a relationship?

[Asker]

Yes.

[spartan55]

What do you mean by 'not exactly positive'? Like not trusting a new partner by default?

[Asker]

Oh, like being in a relationship because the two are both lonely (seemingly less positive) l to they have similar emotional wounds (can sometimes be positive other times maybe not.) Stuff like that. Is there a similar mind set they share in comparison to two that are in a positive mind set for a relationship? Does that make sense?

[spartan55]

Sorry, it doesn't.

[Asker]

Interesting, this was still helpful. Thanks. 🙂

[spartan55]

You are welcome. I've never been able to help by not having an answer lol.

[Asker]

Well, you did say you didn't have a state of mind. (For being in a relationship.) So perhaps there isn't one (?)

[spartan55]

I've never consciously had a state of mind for being in a relationship. I even thought about this more offline and still... nothing.

[Asker]

Gotcha. Note taken.

[Anonymous]

A positive state of mind is crucial.