How would you react if your adult child revealed that they had secretly married their boyfriend/girlfriend that you didn't approve of?

[DermalPunch]

Would you try to accept the relationship or actively try to sabotage it?

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Tell me, what you can do in it as a parent. I find myself to be open about it, accept it, and embrace my son/daughter in law.

You are the grown up here, you are expected to put aside your own decisions, your own views, suck it up and be accepting of them as a couple. That is the mature thinking I believe.

As a parent, you are also expected to be always there if things go haywire somewhere. If you have a daughter, a strong and healthy front is appreciated. If you have a son, his wife is treated as a daughter herself, that must be your goal. All along, maintaining the fine balance between you and your next generation.

[ArtemisSilver]

I'd wonder why I'm such an asshole that they feel they need to hide major things from me.

I'd also think that if I was obnoxious about it, I'd expect to be cut off pretty quickly after trying to sabotage their relationship.

Then I'd ask myself why I'm such a bitch and sign up for therapy.

[DermalPunch]

In that order, eh? 🤣🤣🤣

[ArtemisSilver]

LoL yep

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Lol this is funny and helpful at the same time.

[baserunner611]

I love 💕 my children, I support my children, plus I don't have to sleep. They do

[Anonymous]

Great question

I would support them

Who are we to judge

Everyone is different

[Jamie05rhs]

I would be happy they got married!

[DermalPunch]

But you hate them.

[Jamie05rhs]

But my kid loves them. They're the one getting married to this person, not me.

[msc545]

It is her life.

[DermalPunch]

Ohhhh you have a daughter?

[msc545]

I do, yes.

[DermalPunch]

Oh, that's so nice. Daughters are so awesome. As are sons.

[msc545]

yes.