Girls, how do you treat a guy you like?

[Smartman5]

There's a girl I think likes me and I've known for a long time. I was going to the restaurant her family opened a few months ago and that girl was helping out there. Her head was bowed, her face flushed and excited as she passed me. Does she like me? That's all I've observed. I saw him on the bus last week, but she didn't even say hello. I'm afraid you will reject me. I want to invite her to an event such as theater or cinema. Do you think I should invite? I will send a message on social media first. What path should I follow?

[WhitneySnow]

Go ahead and ask her out, it can’t hurt, but I see no evidence in your notes that she likes you

[Smartman5]

the only sign is when I go to that restaurant, when she passes me, her head is bowed, her face is red and she is excited. sometimes she talks quietly to her girlfriend. even her girlfriend is smiling when I come. but I saw her on the bus last week but she didn't even say hi. that's why i'm confused.

[WhitneySnow]

Hmm maybe. She could be shy. Or she could be all red faced and excited for a totally unrelated reason.

[Smartman5]

but this was not once, but for several days. maybe a few weeks. Then I stopped going to that restaurant and I haven't seen that girl for a long time. I saw her on the bus last week, but she didn't even say hello.

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah try and ask her out. Maybe she still likes you.

[Smartman5]

but I have no courage. what if she refuses? I don't want to meet her again. The only thing I can do is there is a theater and cinema event in the near future. Maybe I can invite her there. If she doesn't agree, I won't do anything again. If she accepts, it evolves according to the situation. and if he agrees then we can go out for ice cream.

[WhitneySnow]

Yeah. Go ahead and ask her.

[Smartman5]

but I will send a message from social media in the first place. is it possible? There will be graduation ceremony soon. she will definitely include photos from the ceremony. Shall I comment on the photo and then continue the conversation with a private message? I mean, is it okay to start with a short message?

[WhitneySnow]

Sure. That’s a good idea. She does know you right?

[Smartman5]

Yes, she has known me for 10 years. she used to help me with my homework when I was little. We used to play other games too. I didn't see it for many years after that. I last saw it a few months ago when I was working at her family's restaurant when I started going there.

[WhitneySnow]

Good luck

[Smartman5]

Thanks

[Jamie05rhs]

Didn't you already ask this same question last year?

[Smartman5]

I asked but did not get satisfactory answers. i still need help.

[Jamie05rhs]

Ah; I see. I'm sorry.

[Jamie05rhs]

What is customary in your country in situations such as these?

[Smartman5]

can't you help me it seems you are 14 years older than me. you can definitely help.

[Smartman5]

frankly i don't know the tradition in my country. so girls are shy, they don't say they like it right away, they want attention. these are all i know

[Jamie05rhs]

@Smartman5 Here is my idea. I don't know if it will work or not. So only use it if you are willing to take the risk:

Go to the restaurant, with money.
Go with the purpose of ordering food "To Go."
Order your food.
As soon as your food is ready, ask to speak to the girl.
Introduce yourself; and then say "I think you're very beautiful, and I want to take you out on a date. I will not be back to this restaurant again, so I need to know now whether you would like to go on a date with me. If not, you do not need to worry about anything, because you will never see me again."

I'm sorry, but that is my best idea.
I am not an expert, so please use careful consideration when evaluating my suggestions.

[Smartman5]

it is very difficult for me to follow your suggestion but thanks anyway

[Jamie05rhs]

@Smartman5 Why is that difficult? I think it's quite simple.

[Smartman5]

because I don't go to that restaurant anymore and that girl doesn't go there either. so it's hard to see her there. And again, I can't say such a thing because her family is there. I also rarely see her anymore. The only way is to send a message on social media. and I don't know how to do that. There will be graduation ceremony very soon. maybe I can start by commenting on the graduation photo.

[Jamie05rhs]

If you never go there, how do you know that she isn't there? I do not believe what you are telling me. Haha

[Jamie05rhs]

But tell me more about this social media. Are you "friends" with her on there?

[Smartman5]

Yes, I don't go to that restaurant and I also know that she doesn't go there. her brother told my mother. this is how i learned. and yes we are friends on social media. she looks when I put a story. But I don't know if she's interested.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Smartman5 So your families already know each other. That's good.

And I am glad that you are friends with her on social media.

Why don't you find out what you two have in common and talk to her about that?

[Smartman5]

I'm afraid her will reject me. I can't face her again. Her family doesn't want me. If she refuses, this will happen. And I'm also shy.

[Jamie05rhs]

Aww. I'm sorry, dude. 😞

[Smartman5]

so show me other ways.

[Jamie05rhs]

I don't have any other ways.

[Texasgal95]

I will treat him with kindness and respect