How would you celebrate your partner accomplishing one of their dream goals?

[moonpie89]

Their goal was to be debt free after years of school and they finally achieved that goal.

How would you help them celebrate if they didn't want to do anything?

Do you think showing up and congratulating them is enough?

[caring__1]

How about make a nice barbecue dinner. Before the meal, print out something related... maybe something like this:

Invite him to start the fire in the barbecue, giving him this and a match. You can also bring out his favorite drink and give a toast.

[moonpie89]

Yes. I'm definitely gonna go all out for him. Thanks 😊

[caring__1]

Sorry, I overlooked the them and their. The suggestion would be the same, no matter what pronouns you choose.

[caring__1]

You're welcome.

[Smartman5]

I think they enough to congratulate. they will have to spend money to celebrate, and they will still be in debt. No need to celebrate. enough to congratulate.

[sheikalana]

Congratulate them. Be genuinely happy for them. Get them a congratulations gift or a gift card. Plan a surprise date to celebrate their accomplishments.

[Juxtapose]

I would want a picnic, cheap and easy for her and we get to enjoy nature together. Win-win.

[roy_ricky09]

Yes... Nothing wrong with it. Maybe go out on a dinner

[NathanDavis]

show up with his favorite food... lol

[moonpie89]

How would you feel if all she did was show up and congratulate you?

[NathanDavis]

well, I would still appreciate it yes...

that if I... indeed said I did not want to celebrate it in any way, that usually means I just don't a big deal made about it, but a congratulations would be quite welcomed, yes

[moonpie89]

I'm not sure if I believe you lol. There's no way you wouldn't expect more from your girlfriend.

[NathanDavis]

if I say something, I mean it... I have not had a birthday party celebration since I was 8 years old, I just don't like them... lol

[moonpie89]

There's no way you at least don't feel some type of way about it. A dream goal of yours and partner did the bare minimum? Doesn't that show they don't care?

[NathanDavis]

not necessarily, no...

I mean, being debt free is a goal, yes... an important one, but more than to celebrate it is a relief, and then you probably don't want to think about it any longer, you just want to be free of it and move on, lol

and this is also about knowing your partner well, if he has in the past said something, that he either wants this or does not want this, and then he means it, if he is consistent about it, then believe it

now, if he in the past has said "oh I do not want anything" and then when you give him nothing he has some attitude about it well, that would be an indicator that he does NOT mean it

in my case, I am always consistent, what I say is what I mean... lol

so I guess it goes down to that, personally I do not hold my partners to expectations when it comes to "me being celebrated"

also, showing him that you remember and you congratulate him, that's enough proof that you actually care

[moonpie89]

What if people made you think otherwise? Like they pointed out the fact that she barely did anything to celebrate you when someone else went overboard? Would that make you second guess your initial reaction?

[NathanDavis]

nope... nobody else would be above my partner when it comes to that, because I would absolutely know my partner way better than anyone else does, so what other people say about her, would not make me have second thoughts about her

[Guardian45]

Starting with a kiss in the bedroom.