IIt feels like he likes what's on the screen more than me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend sometimes likes to film is having sex which I don't mind however I feel like the stares more at the screen than look at me while we're doing it. But then after we do cuddle but he just wraps an arm around me and checks out the video. U brought it up once but he laughed and asked if i was jealous of a video of myself so I just gave up and I've been ignoring his calls and staying at my mom's for the past week. I'm not jealous of a screen I just want his undivided attention like I'm infront of you goddamn it. It just makes me so mad sometimes. Like we live together so we see each other all the time its not like we're apart for extended periods of time. I don't get why he's so invested.

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He was mad at me for leaving without saying anything and ignoring me but he agreed to be more considerate and realised it was really disrespect that he kept doing that. He agreed to record less while we do it.

[spartan55]

So you are ignoring his calls, and went to stay at your mom's for the past week? Over that? Little severe don't ya think? There are either some other issues there, or you are a whole lotta drama.
So you won't tell him how it makes you feel, or have a real discussion about it? Instead you bitch at him about it without explaining and then storm off and don't talk to him. He has no idea what the whole problem is. I'd be pissed if I were your boyfriend if this is how you typically resolve issues.

[Asker]

It probably wasn't the best way to deal with it but i was just so upset when he laughed him off , when i asked him if he could just watch it later. Its not like i didn't try to have a conversation about it, he laughed it off so i gave up and did't pester the topic anymore. Ignoring him wasn't the best way to deal with it at the time either.

[spartan55]

I know you won't like this, but you have to learn the difference between having a real discussion and just plain bitching at him. The latter will get you tuned out quickly. If you succeed with the former and lay it all out then you know you've done your part.
So, how long are you going to avoid all of this and stay at your mom's? Isn't she wondering wth is going on?

[Asker]

i am waiting at our place for him to get off work. my mom doesn't mind and enjoys the female company since i'm the oldest and only girl out of 5.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I can understand that. He probably sees you on TV as fantasy which heightens his pleasure but he really could do with respecting you're in the room with him. Oh to be young!

[Asker]

thats exactly what i'm asking. I don't mind going along with what he's into but he can at least be a bit more considerate about it.

[TrueConfection]

It sounds like he's trying to impress himself. Talk about a selfie! 😳 Is he willing to shut the camera off and take the mirror out of the bedroom?

[Anonymous]

He needs to know how much this bothers you.

[Asker]

I plan to talk to him later tonight when he's off from work.

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck.

[Asker]

He barely made it a mouth without saying it didn't get him off as much and now he's asking If we can do it like we use too before. I'm considering ending this it's clearly going nowhere and I refuse to give up being uncomfortable about it probably for the best.