What are some red flags in a long distance relationship?

[Andzhela]

Red flags in long distance relationship?

[DiegoO]

From experience, I can mention some. I've wrote several MyTakes about it. If you are interested I'll send you the links.

1. She/he rather text message than video call. You can understand that from a shy person, but if there's a "serious" relationship, there shouldn't be a place for shyness, which always comes in hand with deep insecurities.

2. She/he doesn't want to have a sexual interaction with you. It can be for several reasons, like for example: LD sexual activity just make her/him feel worst about the relationship. Sex is not everything in a relationship, however, when you are not having it with the only one you wish to have it, it brakes the self steam. If you are not strong enough, you can end up cheating. Best thing is to be open about it. If nothing change and you're not seen each other anytime soon, it's time to reavaluate the future of the relation.

3. She/he, doesn't have a real appreciation for your origins—ethnic or socioeconomical. That's actually a huge red flag. You end up being treated as the "best"from the "worst".

4. She/he does not reciprocate. If you gotta do everything to make that person feel good of comfortable, you are losing your time. A healthy relationship should be effortless. Not saying you don't gotta make it work. I am refering that it should be developing without no harsh conflicts.

5. Jealousy. If that word is part of the LDR, the relation is already doomed. You can't say you love someone, if there is a constant fear and jealousy.

[Summeroflove]

Bad gut feelings. Honestly I don’t do long distance unless I knew the person. I just don’t know.

If you notice something sketchy they make no effort to reach out and like I said bad gut feelings and praying over it

[melanieeeB]

having a long distance relationship in the first place lol (Unless the person just had to move away for a few months or a year max for work reasons, but will definetly get back soon again)

[kylee2437]

Biggest one is one sided effort / no efforts being made at all

[Guy13]

Refuses to meet. Only communicate in certain windows of time. not readily accessible and eager to be available to start.

[coachTanthony]

That it's a long distant relationship. That is the biggest red flag because there is no accountability since you are so far away.

[exitseven]

She hardly ever writes or calls you. When you visit she mostly ignores you and makes no effort to make the visit special for you. If you spend a month in the hospital she won't even send you a get well card. When she picks you up at the airport she makes no effort to make herself look nice and tells you she almost forgot to pick you up.

[DizzyDesii]

Not willing to move to the same city/state within a year or less

[AsaKyo]

When they give zero effort and refuse to meet you or the idea of meeting is a serious issue for them lmao

[LiamJHayden]

For me the idea of a LDR itself is a red flag. But lack of availability, excuses that just sound fake, and intuitively sensing that something is not right would be big ones.

[BJP21]

Not ever have met in person or video chatted.

[Nikki1989]

Calling it a relationship is your first mistake.

[mT2359]

That's harsh!!

[DiegoO]

To be honest, you have no power over that. If she wants to call it a relationship, then it's a relationship. If you don't believe is a relationship, or that is real, just say it, for yourself.

[Miristheiss]

I think they are foolish to try. I would advise to break up.

[TaureanBull81]

When you're making more of the effort than they are as well as your partner not wanting to sext at all.

[HaveNoName]

No commitment of marriage and living closer in the near term.

[slatyb]

1. It's long distance.