Could it be possible?

[Anonymous]

I think I figured out why I want a toxic partner. My dad had toxic relationships and I was around that a lot. Also, I’m just like my dad personality wise so I guess that explains everything 🤷‍♀️

[Fireguy17]

because to you that seems to be the norm.
Otherwise if things are going right it doesn't feel normal to you.
This is not uncommon, but you should break the cycle.
If you ever decide to have kids and are in a bad relationship that is what the will grow up in and that will be normal to them.
Sometimes seaking professional help may not be a bad idea to help you beak the cycle.

[AmeerX]

You can't blame someone else even though these problems are generational. I might think you should be able to get it done.

You need to think and realize your life is your own. You don't owe your father for your own life

[Asker]

Nowhere did I say I blame my dad. I was just making a theory. I could be wrong.

[AmeerX]

Then you are correct 💯. I call it the generational transfer of legacy problems.
I mean it's not hopeless situation but many a times the intelligence level despite being better people keep making same mistakes there forefathers made.

And it transfers generation after generation.

Like my friend's parents thought he would be able to get rich fast by getting a MBA degree but actually his problems are same as his parents. They live by with same problems.

I think it is generational inertia of some sort. People need to break the pattern to be able to get ahead in life.

[FilmGuy93]

Based solely on our limited interactions, I think you're probably onto something. You would benefit from taking time to process your traumas.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Are you the second born? Because they say the second born is the female version of her father

[Asker]

Nope. I’m the baby of the family.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

So you don’t want a good guy? Healthy relationship?

[Asker]

I mean, my dad is married now and I love my stepmom. But, their relationship is eh 🤷‍♀️ However, they love each other and care about their loved ones. Maybe I’ll have that type of relationship.

[Asker]

I still don’t want to be with anybody. But, if I happen to change my mind, maybe I can find a guy like my dad.

[Asker]

In a way, no. I do not want a healthy relationship.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You want a toxic relationship? And a guy like your dad?

[Asker]

Yes. I want one exactly like my dad’s and stepmom’s.

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

I can be toxic for you if u want

[Asker]

Nah, I’m good.

[misogynistic_pig]

No, it's because she's a woman.

[Asker]

Go away, troll 🙄

[Jennz6]

It’s in your jeans

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

Lol genes that sounded funny

[Jennz6]

@CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS I tried

[Mansearching]

It could

[Asker]

I’m around my mom and stepdad now a lot and their relationship is great. But, that doesn’t do it for me.