How long does it take to know a new person in terms of all sides to you?

[Elozaa]

[Datboi65]

Some people are more shallow and forthcoming, others have a little depth to them and are more mysterious.

Speaking only about myself, there's a lot of who I am that even my closest friends don't know about me. There is information that I ONLY share when asked about (some people like to tell others about everything even when they don't ask), and there are things I just keep away from everyone. I'm not the type of person who thinks that people really give a damn what I'm up to every 5 minutes, that's why I don't post on social media and I tend to disappear every once in a while for peace and quiet.

Truth be told, you can never know "all sides" of a person, only what they show you. You might find out somethings about that person through other people that they didn't personally tell you, good or bad. I personally don't feel like I need to know all about someone before they become my friend, I just need to know enough that I'm certain that they have my back. Whatever else is left is their business.

[Finchie40]

Not a set time but it’s always a 50/50 chance some people hold a lot in until they feel comfortable with someone to really express themselves and some people are just an open book , I prefer someone to be an open book but that barely ever happens cuz most people hold back a lot or keep secrets in the beginning because they are just infatuated by someone , that’s why people shouldn’t get married right away cuz true colors usually don’t shine until they have you fully invested in them then you see their true colors shine and your now stick with this person that lied to you the whole time , I prefer a girl to move in with me first if things have been going well for a long time and she proves she is in it for the long haul , I won’t put a ring on her finger until we live together and we still love each other after that cuz sadly ost people are selfish these days and the second they tie the knot they eventually get bored and feel like they can’t be tied down anymore and start treating you like shit because they all of a sudden want to be selfish and go screw other people and just take advantage of you , I made this mistake with my first wife and I will never put myself in that situation ever again , not saying I won’t marry again but it’s not going to be a fast process , if she truly loves and values me then she isn’t going to need a marriage license to prove that

[sheenagwapa]

6 months... i don't really pretend what you see what you gwy. i don't pretend to be someone i'm not. my ex describe me as someone like a child i think i'm very transparent that way

[Anonymous]

Several years. I’m an open book but quite a complex person too.

[Guy13]

probably a year-half given families and all those things. At least two Thanksgivings and Christmas before I learn all the deep and dark secrets over holidays drinks etc...

[Qdbrown]

Around three years. You have to get through a full cycle that is different for all couples. Usually after two cycles is the truth that is around six to seven years. That's the big one, where realthionshiops go to die, or renew again for another couple of cycles, at 14. If you can make it past 21, you have met the one.

Only problem is there is not enough life to do that. So one full cycle gets you what you need to know.

[Adam1978]

Depends on that person, some people are open like a book and is easy to get to know others are closed and reserved.

[exitseven]

It depends. Some people are pretty closed up and it is hard to really know them and other are really open about everything.

[Anonymous]

There is no universal answer to this question. Every situation is different. It actually boils down to your own capacity and wisdom to see the reality of things. We all have blindspots. We need to have wise friends who are not emotionally biased, but have our best interests in mind. Even with this, we may be deceived by someone.

[Anonymous]

By the time she gets to know all of me, it's pretty much over at that point

[dave15698]

Thats a tough one, do you really ever get to know everything about a person? I reckon you could spend a full week with someone and still only get to know a fraction of who they are.

[Iron_Man]

It takes quite a while to really get to know somebody

[Alex8736]

there is no set time but you learn as you go

[Zandoval]

Never.

[KaitlynH]

Over 4 years

[riverrat3]

Years

[TallAnon]

They never do.