How long does it take to find someone new?

[Anonymous]

Split up with my ex girlfriend about a year ago. I’ve only recently gotten over her but haven’t met anyone at all. I really want a relationship with the right person but I’m jus struggling to meet people, I don’t like my ex she was toxic but I do miss what we had, anyone else got any similar experience

[Middleman]

The problem when we are younger is we keep having certain expectations about the people we meet, or dream of meeting and always think that because we are young, we have a good enough chance of meeting that right someone. That isn’t always the case. You have to realise there are times you may not find that right person with the right ‘chemistry’ if they don’t turn up. So that period of ‘waiting could be an indefinite period.

I’ve met more than my fair share of people in life and I would say though I was attracted to quite a few, I never got too close with some, (except maybe one who did). Why? I don’t really know, maybe my personality didn’t fit in with them? I can be quite awkward at times. More than anything I believe my own independent mindset of not wanting to marry too early (unlike my parents) was probably the reason why I remained single for a long time. That was when I realised to remain single is actually my choice (until I don’t).

If you really want to look for a relationship with someone, I am quite sure if you put your heart and mind to it, someone will no doubt, turn up in your life. It’s just a matter of tuning into your own interests - what makes you interested? Meeting with friends, going to birthday parties or meet ups or social gatherings online are often great ways to meet new people. Relationships work well if you have similar interests that would make it special, and more so if you have or know mutual friends.

[RobT312]

I have been witnessing a friend going through this. He’s been single for about 4 months, and came out of a long, bad relationship. My girlfriend and and I have been helping him meet people. I think it takes a while getting over someone, and takes a while meeting someone right. Hang in there! let friends help! He actually came to us for comfort

[Little_Bumblebee]

There is no set time for how long it takes.
What you can do in the meantime is to work on yourself, heal from the breakup and make yourself a better person for the right person. (So you don't pull the toxicity into a new relationship).

I see it as it's often about timing and luck, so who the fudge knows how long it will take.

[chups]

So you want what you had with her and you want to be in a relationship? These are two extremely wrong reasons to be with someone :)
Get over your loneliness, learn to feel good by yourself and when the right person comes into your life, you will be ready to enjoy what you have :)

[Heartache0405]

It’s far easier for women to find someone new compared to men. Just stay single and work on yourself. Someone will come to you and then you can decide whether they’re someone you think you can trust enough to get to know

[Asker]

I’ve been single for a year now though. I’ve spoke to a few girls but I’ve called it off because it didn’t feel 100% and I didn’t wanna lead anyone on…
My ex was with someone else 2 weeks after we split

[Heartache0405]

I haven’t been with a girl in almost 6 years now and I’ve learned that it’s been absolute bliss.

Girls have come to me over the years, some who already had bfs or fiancé’s and I turned them down. I continue to turn these girls down even if I’m interested. Especially if I’m interested. I tend to attract the mentally ill crazy bitch type. No thank you

[donnny2367764]

Pace yourself lad. What's the rush? Do you have a contract on your life or something? Focus you energy and mind on something more fulfilling than finding a girl. Make yourself look and feel good. A girl will come along, that's guaranteed!!

[Anonymous]

There’s no such thing as luck. Most of the girls I seen and fucked all gotten into relationships and marriages within six months to a year after meeting me. Don’t worry about looking for a girlfriend just focus on improving yourself then later look for a girlfriend. Divorce rates are high right now. Trust me go through a divorce it’s not very fun. Also far too many woman are playing mind games now. Also women don’t like desperate men and they can smell it miles away.

[Coolj]

Yeah I've been there bro, if anything I came to learn that it wasn't necessarily the person I missed but the moment's, the memories. I've yet to find anyone else that I've been able to connect like that with again yet sadly.

[slatyb]

Depends on what you do to find them. I did a lot of online dating. The longest I was single after divorcing was about 6 months.

[FictionalCharacter]

Just have fun and flirt more and see what’ll happen.

[Deserter]

Years, unless you find someone else to be passionate about. Then the feelings you once felt for your ex will subside and you'll feel them for this new person

[bean2k21]

Go to a bar and talk to women
You'll be banging someone before you know it

[JSmuve]

It can take anywhere between 2 weeks to 50 years depending on your pickiness and luck

[TexasRed95]

In my case 26 years. Still looking for a first date.

[linka_pat307]

There is always love triangle

[Jamie05rhs]

'Bout five minutes.

[htmndg183]

Took me years.