How do I overcome the fear of letting a man have control over my life?

[Anonymous]

I realised part of me fears commitment with men because I’ve been through so much drama with so many of them in the past. I don’t want men having power over my life or trying to disrespect my boundaries. Or freak out when I try to have boundaries.

[Guy13]

Boundaries, Expectations, and Standards are good and are or will be tested by any and every one you meet. If you don’t like relational testing and confrontation then I don’t know what to say…. Right one will come along eventually unless you never leave your cave.

[Asker]

I’m more cautious than I started off. But I’ve had to be. I was going down a bad path, meeting some real bums.

[MzAsh]

The way you worded this sounds like you’re more afraid of what you’ll allow rather than what a man will try to get away with. You know you need boundaries, but maybe you’re not confident in sticking with them, is that correct?

[Asker]

Yes partly true