Why do you think my boyfriend likes to see me panick?

[Anonymous]

He is a narcissist I think

[WaterIsland]

Because he’s an awful person. No one who truly loves or likes their partner would like to see them panic.


The one exception to this, is eventually before I get married, I’d like to see how my partner handles difficult or tough situations. But this is never something I’d induce or cause purposefully. Life is difficult enough and I know that situation will come up in due time after spending time together.


But to answer your question. I could never enjoy or like seeing someone I care about panic. That is just absolutely awful. I wouldn’t tolerate that in a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Doesn't mean he is giving you anxiety. It means you are fearing something about the dynamic/ situation between the two of you.

Either because he has anger problems or because he no longer likes your company but is afraid of telling you and hurt your feelings.

[Asker]

I try to leave. I tell him to... all the time

[Opinion Owner]

Try to? You should get out of such toxic relationship. You are adult. You have right to decide and move on.

[Asker]

I couldn't ever make my mind up. Family, therapist and friends convince me he loves me.. all he does is work and save. We barely do shit. If we do it's me who comes up with plans, effort and paying for shit. I have to ask for it. I don't got knocked up on top of things. Smh

[Quackthulu2]

Okay, so get out of there before it gets worse. What’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

here's an idea but why don't you ASK HIM we're not mindreaders

[Ms_Facesitter]

I would ask.