Do you ever feel lonely and anxious?

[Anonymous]

Guys I feel unfulfilled in life.

I have friends who I know care for me and have my back. But they have their own problems and therefore they’re not always available.

I work hard on my career but being at the beginning stages, navigating it can be hard sometimes. I still don’t make enough money to move out and live on my own.

I think I’m quite pretty. I’m tall and athletic and I can do my makeup and dress nicely. In general I get a lot of attention but I’ve yet to fall in love with the right person who sees beyond all of that and loves me for who I am.

I have an amazing mum and dad. But I have a lot of family trauma so I prefer to stay away from my family.

Some days are good but sometimes I feel very lonely and unfulfilled. I want my own life and I want a vibrantly social one and I want to have sex regularly I need a partner lol.

Anyone have any advice or thoughts?

Updates

+1 y

I’ve been thinking about it and I feel like this feeling will go once I figure out where my “home” is.

Right now it’s within myself and I’ve created that for myself for sure. But sometimes it’s a person. Maybe it’s when I eventually get married and have kids…

Updates

+1 y

Guys I had the worst mental health day than I have in a while. It’s almost 8pm and I still haven’t left my bed. I don't know what’s wrong…the anxiety is getting to me again

[Anonymous]

It's completely normal to feel lonely and anxious at times, especially when you're navigating the challenges and uncertainties of life. It sounds like you have a lot of positive things going for you, including supportive friends, a promising career, and physical attractiveness. However, it's understandable that you may still feel unfulfilled and longing for deeper connections and experiences.

Here are some suggestions that may be helpful:

1. Focus on building deeper connections: While it's great to have friends who care for you, it's important to prioritize building deeper connections with people who share your values and interests. Consider joining groups or communities that align with your passions or hobbies, and be open to meeting new people.

2. Prioritize self-care: Taking care of yourself is essential for your overall well-being. Make sure to prioritize self-care activities that you enjoy, such as exercise, meditation, or spending time in nature.

3. Be patient with your career: Building a successful career takes time and effort, and it's important to be patient with yourself as you navigate the early stages. Consider seeking out mentors or professional development opportunities to help you build your skills and confidence.

4. Seek out therapy or counseling: If you're struggling with family trauma or other emotional challenges, it may be helpful to seek out the support of a mental health professional. Therapy or counseling can provide you with tools and strategies to cope with difficult emotions and build a more fulfilling life.

Remember, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and to be kind and patient with yourself as you navigate life's challenges. With time and effort, you may find that you're able to build deeper connections, find greater fulfillment, and create the life you want.

[Asker]

I am struggling to build deeper connections... people my age just seem to only care about themselves

[Opinion Owner]

It can be difficult to build deeper connections with others, especially when it seems like people around you are only focused on themselves. However, it's important to remember that building meaningful relationships takes time and effort. Here are a few tips that may help:

1. Be intentional about your interactions: Instead of just socializing casually, try to have more meaningful conversations with people. Ask them about their interests, goals, and experiences. Show genuine interest in what they have to say.

2. Join clubs or groups that align with your interests: This can be a great way to meet like-minded people who share your passions. You'll already have something in common, which can make it easier to connect on a deeper level.

3. Volunteer or get involved in your community: Helping others can be a great way to build connections and feel a sense of purpose. Look for opportunities to volunteer or get involved in local events.

4. Practice empathy: Try to put yourself in other people's shoes and see things from their perspective. This can help you understand their motivations and build deeper connections.

5. Be patient: Building deeper connections takes time, so don't get discouraged if it doesn't happen right away. Keep putting in effort and be open to new experiences and relationships.

Remember that building deeper connections is a two-way street. It's important to show interest and empathy towards others, but it's also important to find people who reciprocate those feelings. Don't be afraid to move on from relationships that aren't fulfilling or supportive.

[Asker]

Thanks! I think that’s definitely the challenging part…. meeting people who reciprocate my energy.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand but you got this.

Yes, finding people who reciprocate your energy can be a challenge, but it's also one of the most rewarding things you can do for yourself. When you surround yourself with people who share your values, interests, and passions, it can help you feel more energized and motivated in your own life. One way to find like-minded people is to seek out groups or communities that align with your interests, whether that's through social media, local events, or online forums. You can also try reaching out to people you admire or respect, whether that's in your personal or professional life, and see if they're open to building a connection. Remember that building relationships takes time and effort, but it's worth it in the end when you find people who truly understand and support you.

[Asker]

Thanks so much….. I needed to hear that

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome

[Bricealan]

It sounds as though you have all of the qualities to succeed in your life, good health, pretty, job skills, and have a good career path. If your family can be a problem, that seems to be a universal problem these days, and you will have to navigate you life around that, have a 'goal' and work toward that

It is difficult to really give anyone like yourself good advice, as we don't really know your situation, your job situation, what your family is like and what you feel is your place in society.

We ALL go through periods of being 'lonely' and/ or anxious about 'things'. Just try to recognize that, and buck up and push on with your life and career, and you will get a chance to move to your own place, live your life the way you want.

[Asker]

Thank you

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Rarely.

I love being on my own haha

[Nikki1989]

Maybe once every 10 years.

[Guy13]

Surely the UK has someone there that fits your Design.

[Asker]

Surely just don’t know where he is

[Still-alive]

[Asker]

Hahaaaaa

[Heterosketero]

Welcome to your mid 20s. Friends cannot be therapists, I learned this the hard way, but you dont have to. Right now it sounds like your work life balance is shot. A lot of peoples are from the pandemic and economic upheaval. It is too easy to get worked up with anxiety, remember HALT, hungry, angry, lonely, tired. Attend to these to manage anxiety. With lonely, that is not neccesarily social interaction but rather, quality self care. A bath. A walk. You sound like a catch to me :)

[Bricealan]

Sound the same to me, too.

[Asker]

Thanks!!
Totally…I was thinking that too. I always knew people said your 20s were hard but damn it’s so hard. It’s like you want to do so much, especially me cause I worked hard since I was a teenager, but you can’t seem to have it all just yet.

[exitseven]

Life has so many moving parts it is really hard to get everything to line up the way you want. You are working on your career and are a good person. You will find some guy who will see you for the amazing person that you are. Unfortunately these things do not happen on a schedule.

[Asker]

Thank you

[exitseven]

things are not so bad

[Asker]

I am grateful for all my blessings

[exitseven]

things are gonna work out for you.

[RealMarek]

Patience. Embrace the moment you are in with all its frustrations. Life flies by. You will most likely, if you desire it, have a relationship and be farther along with your career someday. Wait for the right opportunities. There is no hurry at your age.

[Asker]

This is exactly what I needed to hear!!! Thank you so much ❤️ gonna screenshot this and read it every time I feel down

[RealMarek]

I’m glad! You have so much to look forward to but life flies by, so try to appreciate every day.

[Asker]

Will do :)

[RealMarek]

Just saw your latest update. If you have been in bed all day perhaps try to get up and go exercise. You can try a bath with some music playing. Or try reading, drawing. If it’s very bad you can try a cold compress to your temples, which I’ve heard can alter circulation such that it can physically interrupt high anxiety. Not sure about that one but it might be worth try. Hang in there and remember tomorrow will be a new day, and probably a better one!

[Asker]

Aw thanks so much!!

[RealMarek]

Are you feeling better?

[Asker]

Sooooo much better thank you!

[RealMarek]

Awesome! Just wanted to make sure.

[Asker]

:) :)

[jshm2]

No. You're not very interesting, and it's why you've not got a partner.

Maybe get out more, and give out more. Your daddy issues are not helping you any, it seems.

[Asker]

Well to be fair I don’t have a partner because I don’t like anyone. And I don’t have daddy issues lol. My family trauma stems from abuse within my wider family

[Anonymous]

Honestly I'm the same. But I have few friends, one I was super close to but that's seems to have faded despite my trying to stay in touch. I have a rocky relationship with my family. I generate no interest in the dating world. The only thing that's going even slightly okay is my work. But I always feel lonely and anxious really it's the last week I've been just tired of everything.

[Asker]

I feel you! Sorry you have to feel this way too.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you. I hope it gets better for you soon.

[Asker]

You too

[Still-alive]

I don’t feel lonely as much anymore but anxious i still do. Its a work in progress.

id say give yourself a bit more time. And if your friends aren’t around to talk my dms are open to you lol.

[Asker]

Aw thanks!!!

[Still-alive]

@update sorry to hear it Alyssa. feel free to chat if you like. i got a day off today hehe

[Asker]

Thank you! Nice for you. What you up to today? :)

[Still-alive]

oh just chillin. i always like to have a nice relaxing Monday after working the whole weekend lol

[Asker]

Love that

[Jerre]

You’ll find it one day. Some day you will be able to sext or call your guy and have all the fun and sex you want or need.

[Asker]

I can’t wait!!

[Jerre]

Thank you for the Like

[Asker]

You're welcome

[AmeerX]

I think I can understand where you come from. It's just loneliness that's a killer

[AmeerX]

You are feeling family sick actually. It is every woman's dream to be a wife and a mother but do realize that you your happiness should not be tied to a person. Because if that's how it is then your life will be miserable because you might not find someone suitable in all aspects but someone who is good enough

[Asker]

I don’t even know what it is anymore lol

[AmeerX]

Did you try Muzzmatch?

[Asker]

I’ll try it

[PatriceONeal]

Historically women are married off by their father to a suitable man of his choosing. This ensures she isn't screwed over and actually looked after by a vetted man by the man who raised you. Now you ladies are trying to do it all on your own and wondering how you aren't managing. The human female purpose on earth isn't making a career and buying Birkin bags.

[Tstrbrainer]

Don't worry, you have so much positives just focus on having a good life and definitely your guy would be waiting for you

[Asker]

Thank you

[serious]

No. Never. I am happy where I am and with who I am.

[Part2603]

You don't need a partner to have sex regularly!

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Yeah, I do, too. I mostly try to distract myself. I don't have a faith in anything other than things will get worse or stay the same.

[Anonymous]

Not anxious, but lonely at times, yes. Usually I don't feel lonely but sometimes it feels like a backlog of loneliness hits me all at once, like my brain is trying to tell me that I should have already settled down with someone.

[MrCommodore]

Try Ireland? 😊😉

[Asker]

Hell nooooo haha I have an Irish ex…definitely manly but ruined my life

[MrCommodore]

Sorry to hear that

[Asker]

The accent is very sexy though lol

[MrCommodore]

Northern or Southern Irish accent?

To answer your original question, yes I think we all feel like that sometimes. It's understandable how you feel.

[Asker]

Haha what's the difference?

Thanks...

[MrCommodore]

Colin Farrell / Brendan Gleeson (Southern) vs Jamie Dornan /Liam Neeson (Northern).

[Asker]

Definitely Southern it's a bit stronger lol. What do you think?

[MrCommodore]

Well I'm biased, I'm Northern 🥲😭

[Asker]

Haha still sexy

[MrCommodore]

Thank you 😊

[Alex8736]

would you like a free hug?

[Asker]

Yes please 🤗

[eagle1951]

all the time

[Asker]

I’m sorry!

[dinojames22]

Very often

[Asker]

Aw I’m sorry to hear that

[dinojames22]

It's my pain to bare

[Anonymous]

No...