How to focus on oneself and not on looking for a partner?

[Anonymous]

Like it feels like no matter how hard I try to focus on working and my life. I’m still attracted to a girl at work or somewhere else. Like I’m not desperate or feel like I need a girlfriend to be happy or ok in life. I want my focus right now to be on making money, getting in shape and family.

[Anonymous]

It's important to remember that attraction is a natural human experience and it's okay to feel attracted to others. However, if you want to focus on yourself and not on looking for a partner, there are a few things you can do:

1. Set clear goals: Identify what you want to achieve in your life, whether it's career goals, fitness goals or personal goals. Write them down and make a plan to achieve them. Having clear goals will help you stay focused and avoid getting sidetracked by thoughts of finding a partner.

2. Practice self-care: Take care of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. This can include activities such as exercise, meditation, journaling, or spending time with loved ones. When you feel good about yourself, you're less likely to feel the need for external validation and attention.

3. Limit exposure to triggering environments: If you find that being around certain people or environments triggers your desire for a partner, try to limit your exposure to them. This can help you stay focused on your goals and avoid distractions.

4. Be mindful: Practice mindfulness and focus on the present moment. When you find yourself thinking about finding a partner, gently redirect your thoughts to the present moment.

Remember, it's okay to feel attracted to others, but it's important to prioritize your own goals and well-being. By setting clear goals, practicing self-care, limiting exposure to triggering environments, and being mindful, you can focus on yourself and achieve the things that are important to you.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Just jerk it out and continue. The world only misses a few minutes of a our genius if we do it right. If it's like 20 mins then maybe I can show you a new hand technique or something.

[Asker]

I’m going to be honest that doesn’t always work for me at least. It makes the increases feelings for the girl. I don't know if you’re joking or not th

[Asker]

Tho*

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Halfway but maybe if it doesn't work, maybe you're craving intimacy more than sex. That's really fucked up. No amount of jerking off can fix that. You might have to get married like me. And you'll always have to divide your attention if you do between the poetry of the girl and poetry of your ambitions. There is no way you can ever be as focused as you want to be in that case. You have to make the best of your ambitious half and marry some girl with the other.