I Am Black Women Why Do I Mostly Attract Guys Who Aren’t Black?

[IceCreamQueen15]

I am a black woman and since I was a teenager, I’ve mostly attracted white guys rarely any black men. If they weren’t white, then they were another race entirely or biracial. I don’t have a problem with it, I would date a guy of any race. Not now though, because I’m married (my husband is white). Though I’ve never dated or been in a relationship with a black man. Not that I wouldn’t , but it just never happened. I was just curious why this is the case and why do I attract less of my own race and more of men not my own race?

[FunkyMonkee]

Are you completely black or someone like Kamel Hairs who's only a shade or two darker than my glow-in-the-dark ass and simply CLAIMS she's black.
I just heard from a couple black people that DO look quite black and said, they've recently been to Africa and the blacks there tell them, "You're not black, you're mixed!" And they showed pictures of the people that said that and they were almost as black as black can be!
My ex-fiance was from India and she told me about how, when she was a little girl, her own family used to make fun of how dark she was, said she'd never be able to find a man to marry her because she was so dark and even told her she was "as dark as the niggers". Well, she almost married me and her previous hubby was also a glow-in-the-dark Irishman!! I never thought she was all that dark! To me, she was like some girl that just had a great tan!! She almost looked Mexican! I've seen other Induahs that WERE as dark as native Africans!!

[Billlewis]

It could be for any number of reasons. One reason may be because you're exceptionally attractive to begin with, which results in men of all ethnicities wanting to approach you. I'm sure there are various traits, tendencies and characteristics that make a Black woman more appealing to white guys. For me, the general tendency (and I know this isn't always the case) for Black women to be more vocal and demanding about what they want is often a sought after quality that white guys like.

I remember a scene from 'The Fresh Prince Of Belaire', in which one of Hillary's cousins came to visit her, and when her white boyfriend said, 'Let's sit down so I can rub your feet for you', another woman said, 'Ooh... I'm getting me a white man'

Of course, that's just one theory. In any case, I wish you the best of luck in your relationships:)

[Billlewis]

Thank you very much for the point, Goddess:)

[IceCreamQueen15]

You’re very welcome ☺️

[Anonymous]

Going anonymous for this question to avoid dealing with trolls and backlash-

It's probably because you carry yourself in such a nice manner other races of men find you attractive! It's a compliment; I assure you. I'm kind of in the same boat to be honest. I've NEVER had black men be attracted to or want to date me. Yet men of other races? Like me.

It's no secret that most (not all!) black men aren't really attracted to us. If you don't believe me, please go to youtube, or any social media platform and look up "dating as a black woman." I know you're not looking, but humor me; the results will surprise you.

There are SO many videos about how black women get put down, insulted, hurt by black men. Or black men blatantly stating why they're not attracted to black women and how they rather date any other race but us.

[Anonymous]

That is just the luck of the draw. I spent years of attracting people I had nothing in common with. Sometimes it just happens that way.

[richardcory]

Could be lots of things. One possibility is that its more about culture than race. Is your culture, behavior more in tune with white people in your area than black people? Depending on where you are, there can be significant differences in music, food, careers, etc.

(obviously just guessing since I don't know anything about you)

[Berethor]

Usually black men want women that have a big butt, I guess that you don't have a big butt.

[Anonymous]

From what I hear black guys tend to avoid black women, so maybe that's it.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

People tend to like those who are similar to them. Not just race, but many would marry nobody outside of their own religion, ethnicity, or class.

[Anonymous]

Well, let's start with the obvious: in the town/city/neighborhoods where you live or have lived, approximately what % of the population is black?

[Anonymous]

Maybe they are all chasing their trophy white girls.

[najekim]

Because that is what feels the most natural to you. That's all.

[In_Trance]

No idea. Maybe it's something you're saying or doing? Or not?

[SigmaNiggeh]

Cuz black guys have better game. Blacks tend to have more DHT, causing more masculinizing features. Guys with worse game tend to aim lower.

[Cristinaissweet]

You're probably thin and dark skinned like me.

[cyclist89]

You have big build?

[swettannie]

i might have a explanation. could i dm you?

[Iron_Man]

I don’t know. Depending on skin l

[anon1903]

Opposites attract

[Engin12]

Because you like white men?

[Anonymous]

Don't you much prefer white skinned men?