Would you give up your hobby (for example, sports, games or watching football) for your love?

[Jasmineww]

[Anonymous]

The decision to give up a hobby for love is a highly personal one and depends on the specific circumstances and individuals involved. Here are a few factors to consider:

1. Importance of the Hobby: Evaluate how important the hobby is to you. If it brings you joy, fulfillment, and is a significant part of your identity, giving it up entirely may cause a sense of loss or resentment. In such cases, finding a balance between your hobby and your relationship might be a better approach.

2. Compromise and Communication: Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship. Discuss your hobbies and their importance with your partner. Explore ways to accommodate both your hobby and the needs of your relationship. Perhaps you can find a compromise that allows you to continue pursuing your hobby to some extent without neglecting your relationship.

3. Shared Interests: Look for shared interests or hobbies that you and your partner can enjoy together. Finding activities you both enjoy can enhance your bond and provide opportunities for quality time spent together.

4. Supportive Partner: Consider the attitude of your partner toward your hobby. A supportive and understanding partner would respect your interests and encourage you to pursue them, even if they don't share the same hobby.

5. Prioritization and Time Management: Assess your priorities and how much time you dedicate to your hobby. It's essential to strike a balance between your personal pursuits and nurturing your relationship. Finding a way to manage your time effectively can help ensure that both your relationship and hobby receive the attention they deserve.

Ultimately, the decision to give up a hobby for love is a personal choice that requires open communication, understanding, and compromise between you and your partner. It's important to maintain a sense of individuality and pursue activities that bring you happiness and fulfillment, while also nurturing your relationship.

[mobiusforniner]

I was taking flight lessons when i met my first girlfriend, who hated flying. So i gave up flying to please her. What a huge mistake. She ended up dumping me years later and i spiraled into depression.

So after we broke up I went flying all the time and bought a small plane to prove to myself I can move on.

I've dated many more women and had at least three relationships since then. I am now married over 10 years.

The plane is always there for me. I like to say that my wife is the other woman... i will never let go of my wings.

[EmyyWolf]

Depends on what hobbies you’re asking me to quit. I highly doubt any of my hobbies inhibit me having a good relationship. WTF LOL. 😂
I don’t partake in parties, I don’t smoke anything at all. My hobbies include, drawing, sketching, making videos and vlogs. Scuba 🤿 Diving, Swimming, Dance. Walking. Writing stories. Playing some phone video games. Watching XXX. Conspiracy Theories.
🤷🏻‍♀️ which one of these is soo baddd?
If I was doing something immoral or imprudent or inappropriate. Something sick and twisted.
Yes. But I don’t do anything out of the ordinary. My life is as average and as boring as it gets.
If he tells me to quit any of these mundane hobbies. I’ll quit HIM 🖕. Because it shows he’s needy. Can’t give me my own space. Has no hobbies of his own 🖕
If I was starting a family and I was to become a mother.. YES ID QUIT SOME HOBBIES OF MINE.


But I’m not planning on being a caretaker or nurturing baby-momma anytime soon. Or anytime at all.

[EmyyWolf]

You’re a female. You can always find a brand new D-K and the newer one sometimes is better. 😈

[provokeesmokee]

No.

I did that with my first ex. He was always home, on his computer staring at idle games.

He felt I was too often away from home with my then-hobbies of drumming and martial arts.

So, in a hope it would help him, I left both. It ended up with me basically bored af as he kept playing idle games while expecting me to... I guess do shit all while waiting for him?

If a partner can't deal with the fact I have a life, passion, and hobbies outside of them, they aren't a fit for me.

I require at least two hobbies from anyone I date, and they can't be video games (it's fine if that's of interest to them, but they can't make vidya their hobby, life, and personality). At least one hobby must be physical.

That way, I know they can entertain themelves while I'm at my own hobbies. And hopefully we can share a few.

[noamazia]

ill break it down to situations:
if it was a hobby that was a hub part of my life, let's say martial arts, and I would spend 20+ hours a week on it, then probably not.
anything less than likely yeah. like her having a problem with a specific hobby, and she doesn't have a problem with me picking up another hobby.
BUT, if she asked to stop almost every hobby, let's say her reason was that she wanted to spend most of the time, or even more time, together, then no.

but all of these will come only after we have a conversation about what the problem is and what can be done.

[Kiran_Yagami]

Would I give up my hobby for love? No. Love is a feeling. I'd give up my hobby for a family, though. A family is something that actually lasts and brings fulfillment. Love is just the tingles that eventually wear off. A family also takes effort, discipline, and ethic. Love takes... none of the above. Love is for suckers. You should like your wife or your husband, no fucking duh, but don't let the tingly feelies decide the single most important financial decision of your lifetime. Marry for family or not at all.

[Singing_Hollow]

No one should have to give up a hobbie for anyone, a real relationship, you support one another in all you do. If its a dangerous hobbie where your life is always in danger then its time to not be selfish knowing you have two lives to take care of not just your own.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Why would i give up on something i like? I would compromise, hoby 25% - love 75%. At the beginning of a relationship i would say to me friends (No! I will not be hanging out with you this Friday) for few months, then i will bring my girl and we hang out together 🤷‍♂️. I am not giving up on the things i like to do, i compromise

[stepyo99]

No, that's silly. Naturally, there'd be less time for those hobbies, especially once you have kids, but your hobbies are part of your personality. I would want my wife and I to encourage each other in our hobbies and maybe even both participate if we're both into similar things.

[Evelyn002]

我完全同意您的观点。爱好是我们个性的一部分，它们能带给我们乐趣和满足感。当我们有了孩子，我们可能需要更好地平衡时间，但我们仍然应该继续追求自己的兴趣爱好。如果我们的伴侣也喜欢相似的事情，那就更加美好了，我们可以互相鼓励和支持。感谢您的分享。

[BCA6010]

If you have to choose between a girl (or a guy) and your favorite means of stress relief in an all or nothing deal, chances are very high that you're not a good match.

I assume you don't mean doing significantly less of something to spend more time together.

[WonderBell99]

Never. I love reading and writing, always have. I could never give it up for anyone. If my partner really did love me, he would never ask me to give it up. It would be understandable if it is an addiction, but it’s not. When a person loves you, they accept you for who you are. Why even stay when you can’t even tolerate the fact that your partner is their own person and has hobbies?

[CaptainOverthink]

Depend on what it is I am giving up.

Gaming? - Sure. It's mostly an escape for me anyway. Im too old to be an escapist and if I can't keep my online-friends for IRL then maybe they weren't all that good for influence anyway.
Though I would probably pick up some type of work-out or community-hobby instead as it's not healthy to spend all ones time with only that love or family, you still need friends and spaces to exist privately.

[Camelia7012]

You should dont think like that, continue playing, maybe a bit less but not stoping for your relationship. Just keep your hobbies thats important

[CaptainOverthink]

Maybe so. But in my case I think it's important to know that gaming can be fun but is ultimately a bad habit on my part. I think like this because I want to quit but it's fun and very ingrained in my life.

[Camelia7012]

Is it an addiction to play?

[CaptainOverthink]

Not for everyone.
It might be for me though. Unsure, maybe it's just so comfortable to waste my time there when not wanting to deal with life.
In the end, nothing or very little I learn in games is at all useful irl.
Other hobbies are usually tied to reality in some way.

[DizzyDesii]

The stuff im into isn't exactly hobbies. I like watching tv, listening to music, going to the movies, gambling at the casino, and collecting things. But yea, no i wouldn't drop that stuff for some dude. I’d prioritize him over those things but I wouldn't drop them

[TheSpaceGnome]

Fuck no, and if I had a girlfriend/wife, she would need to have the same hobbies and interests as me for me to even date her in the first place.

What kind of idiot would give up activities they enjoy just to be with someone? If they want you to change, then they don't love you.

[Sexiestjohnson]

I would give up a lot of things for love but my hobby cannot be one of them. Hobbies are stuff that keep your oil of joy and gladness flowing. She wouldn't even want me without the joy she sees in my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, but that doesn't mean it's going to come easily. I love basketball. If she don't love basketball to or at the very least doesn't have a problem with it we'll never get along to begin with. But at the end of the day common sense applies. My loved ones ALWAYS come first.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Nope. I'm still my own man and I still love my rescue kittens.

[BoopBoopBeep]

How about you @Jasmineww?

[Lliam]

Probably not. But I'd definitely be willing to spend less time on it/them in favor of spending more time with my partner. I'd much rather spend time with my lady.

[Evelyn002]

I totally understand what you're thinking. Everyone has different values and priorities, and if you feel you prefer to be with your partner, that's a perfectly normal and healthy choice

[Sirenboobzilla]

No. A person's hobbies make then unique. They make people sane; give them something to focus on that gives them peace, comfort and joy. Indont think that's a sacrifice that should be made.

[Evelyn002]

totally agree! Love requires the joint efforts of both parties to achieve true getting along and happiness. Loved ones always come first, this is the belief we should stick to.

[slatyb]

Maybe, if she loved in a place where that activity want available. Otherwise no. Asking would be a deal-breaker.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I did for 7 years. Not that she asked me to, I just dedicated more time to her than my music. No regrets either, she was worth every god damn minute

[WanderingLoveWizard]

And my music sucks donkey dick anyway, so it's whatever

[rachel776]

i don't think you should ask someone to do that. if they're obsessive you could ask them to tone it down a bit

[Phoenix98]

I would not there is not a valid reason to non of my hobbies or bad, time consuming or would negatively affect the relationship so there's no reason to do so.

[Emelina]

Heck no... if he loves me he would need to be supportive as I am with him. My own opinion