Is feeling uncomfortable with sharing (romantic) feelings unhealthy?

[Anonymous]

I've heard differing opinions about this.

[Xoxocutekitty]

I think it's normal to feel uncomfortable, especially when you're younger or relatively inexperienced in dating.

I think as we grow into maturity, our ability to sit in discomfort and navigate awkward conversations can help create a space necessary for your partner to open up and voice an opposing or adjacent opinion.

Very rarely do we fight over apples and apples, that is to say, what each person defines as love and feeling loved is different, even if we use the same word at face value.

There is often an unspoken AND or BUT or IF ONLY after each argument. As we refine our needs or feelings, we can more properly align our feelings with our actions.

Example:
I love you, AND I'm willing to prove it.
I love you, BUT I'm not willing to relocate.
I am afraid, IF ONLY I had someone to who would listen to me, I can open up.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s unhealthy to feel uncomfortable. But over time it can become too much. I think being able to express yourself is a strong attribute specifically because it can take a lot of courage. I don’t care how uncomfortable I am, I always talk about my feelings. It wears me down if I hold it in.
I think if it’s not affecting you negatively long term by not sharing your feelings then there is nothing unhealthy about it. Now if it is- then that’s what would make it unhealthy.

[MementoMori777]

depends if its to the person you romantically like or to other people in general cause being private about your love life is normal but if its too a partner, it can be self destructive cause it can make them feel not appreciated or give the wrong sign that you aren't interested, stuff like that

[blueonblack22]

Well you are a kid so of course it’s going to be awkward.

But as an adult and especially for men we don’t like feeling vulnerable. We got a long way to fall if the woman doesn’t feel the same. The best advice I’ve heard to do everything you can to show a woman you love her minus saying it.

[Finchie40]

I guess it just depends on the person and why that person feels that way Usually it means that person was hurt before by someone else that told them romantic things , to come to find out it was all lies, so they have a hard time believing someone else that tries to share romantic feelings with them

[JHNS98]

Now this is interesting, because I share your struggles.

After being rejected by every girl I approached for eight years, I started seeing a girl who was very attracted to me. So much so that she said she loved me without seeming interested in actually getting to know me. This has effected me in that I don't know how to express the feelings I might have for the girl I'm dating currently. I feel the term "love" is somewhat diluted and I don't know when I can call it love.

[humanearth]

Depends on how you look at it.

My opinion is this

No, it's not unhealthy, but will become unhealthy if you like this stupid stuff bother you

[slatyb]

When and with whom? A partner? Someone you would like to know better?

[Anonymous]

I would say it all depends on the reason why. Shyness is one thing, trust issues another thing entirely.

[Anonymous]

I’m not gonna share feelings with a random.
Not sure why you’re asking this! Guys share fake feelings all the time when they’re horny.

[Jltakk]

Its ok to feel uncomfortable with it. Some people are like that.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Not as much as smoking

[RingOfFire]

At your age, it is normal.

[DextroShade]

Yes, it means you are insecure.

[Dat-Alpha-Lion]

Depends on who you’re sharing them with.

[BLP11520]

You just need a trustworthy friend to confide in

[Boomchakalaca]

Yes 💨

[monghjay2]

i dont know