Shutting down after rejection by your own partner?

[Anonymous]

Question for both men and women.

If a person suffers from any of these types of rejection from their own partner like no intimacy, lack of physical affection like a kiss and hug, lack of verbal affection like “i love you”, do you think it’s a given that the rejected person will shut down themselves in the relationship? What advise would you give a person suffering from these scenarios?

[jshm2]

No. That's just romanticised drama and narcissistic behaviour

If you want to be loved, be more lovable. But if your affections are not RETURNED is when you need to start reassessing.

Too many people make the mistake of "no you go first, I'll tell you when I'll start" and then scream about red flags.

There are also means and processes to everything. You get guys who want a "house wife" but she must be earning money too. Or bimbos that want a "six foot playa" but he's got to have "eyes only for me". The expectations of some people are so funny, it's no wonder they are left single or in shitty relationships.

Doesn't matter if it's a job, relationship, game, friend, marriage or whatever. When you are getting way less than you are putting in, is when you make plans to ditch.

[Anonymous]

First and foremost I’d say to be sure you communicate this to your partner, because it can’t be fixed if they doesn’t realize it’s a problem. Being receptive is important too though, so if you have in fact has a conversation (or more than one) and there’s no change then end it. Some people chain themselves to unhappy relationships because of how long they’ve been together, joint assets, kids, etc, when in reality none of those things prevent you from leaving the person, they’re just unnecessary obstacles. Life is too short to be spent unhappy and a relationship is pointless when you’re in it all by yourself.

[abc3643]

Yes. This is happening to me as I type.