Relationship advice?

[stuffybug]

My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years. We live together, share bills, have pet’s together. I feel like lately he had been spending a ton more time with his friends (which is absolutely ok) but rarely spends quality time with me. He thinks him watching YouTube with me in the room is quality time. He doesn’t seem to understand that that isn’t enough for me and I need more than just being in the same room. I feel like we a drifting apart and having a hard time rekindling our spark.
What can I do? Should I just let him be and hope if changes?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ay yo sis I gotchu, relationships be tough sometimes fa sho. Seem like shorty be takin ya for granted already knowin he gotcha locked down.

First off - COMMUNICATE how you feelin without hostility. Be like "babe I miss US time together wit no distractions, whatchu tryna do to reconnect?" See if he try compromise.

If he dismiss or make excuses still, drop some hints - start goin out yaself more n post them fit pics. Let him peep other niggaz might be sniffin round ya know what I'm sayin? Light that competitive fire under his ass haha.

Also put ya foot down - no more YouTube time BS, y'all do activities together or it's solo chill time feel me? No more back burnin ya bae.

If all else fail, play that "my friend suggested I try dating apps" card too. Watch how quick shorty shape up real fast LOL muthafucka don't want no competition out here trust.

But real talk - if he still lazy after you voice ya needz, might be time to reevaluate sis. You too fly for no half steppas. Keep ya head up, u deserve a real one who treat u right boo! Xoxo

[Anonymous]

I don't know if I agree with @avicenna 's assessment. But I do agree with him you do need to communicate you displeasure. If he doesn't seem to understand maybe he'll understand you breaking up. And I don't mean threats. I mean telling him what you need. And saying you want it from him. But if he's unwilling then you'll find it with someone who will. But you also have to be ok with the possibility that he might be ok with that. The good news is if he is then you really didn't lose anything.

[Anonymous]

You will have to tell him how you feel and hope he can man up and do the right thing for your relationship.

[sheikalana]

You need address this issue with him. He may not be aware of how this is affecting the relationship.

[Avicenna]

No, you need to communicate this clearly to him

[stuffybug]

I’ve tried. He doesn’t seem to understand. It causes an argument every time I try to ask for more

[Avicenna]

He's not going to change

[MementoMori777]

Nope you should have a discussion with him and communicate

[love_conquers_lust]

How about you quit watching youtube and talk to him. Are you so boring that you can’t hold a conversation?

[Lokiion]

Why didn’t you just tell him you need more then just being in the same room? Wouldn’t that solve your problem

[Staximus]

Ask him to go do fun stuff

[In_Trance]

You need to have better conversations with him