Have you ever cheated? Why?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

We were on a break!!! Seriously if you get the joke, it is a reference to Ross and Rachel from freinds.

So, when my ex-wife and I were dating, we started getting pretty serious, and she started to freak out a little. She wasn't sure she wanted to have that kind of a serious relationship. So, she wanted me to give her space and time to think about it.

It was not like we stopped talking, but she was definitely clear that she wanted to take a break. So, I was heartbroken, I assumed it was over. So, I went right out and hook up with some other chick. Then few days later, my ex-wife start saying things like, even though we are on a break you are not out see other woman, are you?

So, in that moment I had to do some quick math. Because I was totally in love with her, and she kind of broke my heart a little. But at the same time, that sex with the other woman awesome. But I really just wanted to me with my ex-wife, me and the other girl were not even talking, it was really just a one-night stand... I mean I could of maybe made it more, but I was all hung up over my ex-wife. I told the other woman, that I was coming off a hard break up, so I didn't want another relationship right away... and she was not pleased with that answer. So, we were not seeing each other or talking.

So, I told my ex-wife no I was not seeing any other women, because honestly wasn't. My ex-wife wants to know if I had even kiss anyone else. I told her, that I really wanted to date her. That I thought everything was going great, but then she really has confused the shit out of me with this, I want a break, time and space bull shit and its super frustrating. So, I told her I kissed another girl, and it didn't feel right to me. I never admitted to having sex with anyone else, because we were on a break, and the other woman didn't really matter to me.

So, did I lie to her? Yes. Did, I cheat on her? No, not really... we were on a break and not dating at the time. A few weeks later my ex-wife and I got back together, and we dated for another year.

A year later, she moved out of state. We agreed to a long-distance relationship. There were rocky periods, and I did hook up with another woman. I thought the relationship was ending and all but over. But then after I was hooking up on the side, my ex-wife came to me and said she want to move back. That she was not really happy with where she was, and she was missing me so much... that she feels that if she stays there that she fears our relationship would not last much longer.

I pretty much told her that I felt the same, and if she wanted to move back that I would get engaged with her and she could live with me. 3 months later I was engaged to her, and year later we were married, and we stayed together for 24 years. I never once cheated on her, or even thought about another woman, in all that time.

Regrettably, after divorce I found out about three other guys she had cheated with. I wasn't even upset about it, because in those 24 years we were together, I got everything I ever wanted out the relationship and whole lot of other bullshit I never expected. So, when it was over, I really was done and over with her.

So technically you can say I might of cheat once, definitely once while we were dating, but we were not really dating, but official we were not broken up or on a break... but the relationship was definitely in a downward spiral.

The first time, I definitely did not cheat, but I did lie to her about not being with anyone else... but when you say you want a break, time and space... then it's not really your business what I do... not at that place we were at in our relationship, at that time... we were 18 years old.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

Yes, once. I was in a long distance relationship with somebody that lived 1500 miles away for 3 years. She wanted to wait until marriage and I was still a virgin. I had not seen her for 6 months and I was at a friend's graduation party. I was hanging out with this girl I met. After the party broke up she asked me if I wanted to hang out in her dorm room. I thought we were just going to hang oit which we did but suddenly she asked me if I wanted to have sex. There was no way that my girlfriend would ever find out and I did not know if I would ever get the chance again so I did it. I really did not have a lot of fun and I regret it afterwards.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Nope, because I’ve always thought cheating is for rats, sneaking around, like a dishonorable person.

I speak my mind honestly and directly and I am not going to do anything that I am going to want to hide,

My ex once even told me

“Little angel, you are such a straightforward person, I think even if you ever cheat on me, you’ll come home excited and tell me a story

-Babe, you know I cheated on you today. ”

That was just a joke haha, but yep. He was quite insecure sometimes, in the end he learned fully trusting me.

I am straightforward and direct and I like being true to myself.

If I am with someone then it means I respect him, because not respecting him is same as disrespecting my choice, disrespecting my choice means disrespecting myself,

that’s not happening,

I do respect myself A LOT and I need the same back from anyone.

Rei13 · Accepted Answer

No I haven’t but I’ve been accused of it before. My one ex was really insecure and I ended up breaking up with him for a lot of reasons but that was one of them. There is no relationship without trust. If I would’ve to anyone it would’ve been him. He accused me of it multiple times and ended up reaching out to the people around me to make sure I was telling the truth about who I was with. I’m not the type of person to cheat tho even if the person sucks. I ended up breaking up with him because he texted both my mom and brother to check up on me and they obviously ignored him and told me about it. I felt so bad for my brother whenever it happened because he got so uncomfortable where it just made my mom angry.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah. Sometimes when playing games people aren’t paying attention and I throw cards down that aren’t playable. If caught I pretend it’s a accident.

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes I cheated. I couldn't help myself. I tried really hard not to but the temptation was too great. I kept telling myself not to but my evil self kept egging me on. When I couldn't take it anymore I ate the candy bar. It tasted so good. Don't tell anyone that I cheated and ate the candy bar

Exterminatore · Answer

Yeah. She cheated on me. So I dumped her immediately, which I intentionally failed to notify her of, as I also planned to keep using her for sex while hooking up with other girls on the side until she outlasted her usefulness…which came about a month later at which point I unceremoniously ejected her. Not saying it was right or that I’d do it again, just saying what I did and what my motives were.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

No. I never have. It’s not even just out of respect of whomever I had been with in a relationship at that time. Its just something I feel is against my moral fiber and values. It’s just won’t to me on a deep level.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Never. No cause. If you're not happy with the other person break up. I've made calls twice around closing time to finalize things so it wouldn't be cheating.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Because it's wrong. First off when guys are in love the volume on other women get turned down so to speak. I mean you maybe find another woman attractive. But you're just not drawn to her. Because your love has your heart. So even if I found another women attractive I wouldn't want to cheat on my love. Because that would be no different than hurting myself. To cheat on her would cause me pain.

Constatine · Answer

No! Why? Because I'm not that type of person. If it is not working out any more... I'm man enough to admit that. When being seduced by another women... I am strong enough to resist...

catarecute · Answer

never cheated because i am not a coward. if i dont love someone anymore i dump them and find someone else.

SolitarySolace · Answer

I've never cheated, but I have been cheated on multiple times and saw a girl for a while who was cheating on her boyfriend. I ended that one myself when I found out.

Fireguy17 · Answer

No, I have been cheated on twice so I know how it feels and I wouldn't want to do that to someone else.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Nope, never! Why would i cheat? If i was in a relationship, i'll never cheat because i don't want to be cheated on, i treat the way i want to be treated...

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, and I don’t know why. He was a way and I was lonely. Other times I was drunk or just got swept off my feet. I never mean to hurt anyone, it just kind of happens because of the moment.

sashasauce · Answer

Never once in my life. My loyalty is equivalent to a German Shepherd.

BigDog1989 · Answer

No BUT, wouldn't that depend on what YOU define as cheating. Some people think that just thinking about cheating, IS cheating

genericname85 · Answer

why would i cheat, if i can just break up and then fuck someone else?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes. Why? Because I felt like it. I was young and stupid and just wanted to kiss more girls than my girlfriend at the time.

YouKnowMe2 · Answer

I have been cheated several times, and have also been the “other guy”. But I have never cheated on a partner. If I did it, I wouldn’t forget myself and the guilt would eat me alive

milo2u · Answer

The issue's of being in a LDR, and not being able to see each other in person.  Reason for not being able to is, my job requires me to stay where i work.

DrewJohnson · Answer

I have. I was a virgin when we got married. I wanted to know what other girls felt like.

Curiositykilledcat7 · Answer

Yes and I love getting cheated on

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t have to be loyal if I’m not married and if a guy isn’t gonna treat me good then why remain loyal.  If he’s good then I won’t cheat

Spongebobssocks · Answer

Nope I have human value..

Libarena · Answer

Yeah on a couple of XBFs.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Yes i cheated to win at games

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yea. Because I wanted a better score on the test

MysticDevice · Answer

Never. I have integrity.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Because I have integrity.

you_asked · Answer

Yes, like skin on skin stuff

Anonymous · Answer

never, my word is my bond

MaxUsefull · Answer

yes, once, unfortunately

balyai · Answer

No and never will

The_Smart_Engineer · Answer

Nope

MustangGirl01 · Answer

Nope. Cuz it’s wrong

LavLavLuv · Answer

Nope

EliBrooks752 · Answer

Hell no

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