Almost everyone who gets married marries out of love. But why do so many married people end up cheating? It is because they don't set boundaries. There are nine types of people a married person needs to be aware of and keep boundaries to protect themselves from. Here is how to do it...
1. THE ONE IN NEED OF A HERO
This is where many married men fall prey, they see a young lady, a damsel in distress. They take her in, buy her things, promise to change her life, pay her tuition fees, pay her rent, buy her a car. He feels good because the young lady celebrates and praises him. This is the toughest affair to break because it makes the man feel good as a hero.
Married women also fall prey, especially successful ones. They get a man in need of support. The man makes her feel good by looking up to her and she keeps supporting him especially financially and giving him her body.
The truth is, many married men and women don't get appreciated at home. To protect your marriage from being destroyed this way, appreciate each other, make your spouse feel like a hero, look at your spouse in an admiring way. And if out of your good heart one of you identifies someone you'd like to mentor and support, do it together, as a couple. Don't do philanthropic acts alone, do it as a couple with defined boundaries. Most of all, be a hero at home, to your spouse, your children.
2. THE ONE WITH A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON
This happens when you start running to another person, especially when your marriage is facing issues. You get that one person who is not your spouse you cry to and vent to, you become emotionally attached. Soon, you start meeting up with this person frequently, this person begins to know about your smile, how your day is and what's on your mind; more than your spouse does. You feel loved, this person feels needed; next thing, you're having an affair.
To protect your marriage from this, don't let things deteriorate to the point you cannot vent and cry with each other as husband
1. THE ONE IN NEED OF A HERO
This is where many married men fall prey, they see a young lady, a damsel in distress. They take her in, buy her things, promise to change her life, pay her tuition fees, pay her rent, buy her a car. He feels good because the young lady celebrates and praises him. This is the toughest affair to break because it makes the man feel good as a hero.
Married women also fall prey, especially successful ones. They get a man in need of support. The man makes her feel good by looking up to her and she keeps supporting him especially financially and giving him her body.
The truth is, many married men and women don't get appreciated at home. To protect your marriage from being destroyed this way, appreciate each other, make your spouse feel like a hero, look at your spouse in an admiring way. And if out of your good heart one of you identifies someone you'd like to mentor and support, do it together, as a couple. Don't do philanthropic acts alone, do it as a couple with defined boundaries. Most of all, be a hero at home, to your spouse, your children.
2. THE ONE WITH A SHOULDER TO LEAN ON
This happens when you start running to another person, especially when your marriage is facing issues. You get that one person who is not your spouse you cry to and vent to, you become emotionally attached. Soon, you start meeting up with this person frequently, this person begins to know about your smile, how your day is and what's on your mind; more than your spouse does. You feel loved, this person feels needed; next thing, you're having an affair.
To protect your marriage from this, don't let things deteriorate to the point you cannot vent and cry with each other as husband
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