“What’s your number?”?

Question

Ally comes across a Marie Claire magazine article entitled "What's Your Number?", which says that women who have more than twenty lovers in their lifetime have difficulty finding a husband.

Guys, do you think the above applies on you too, more than 20 makes it difficult to find a wife?

RavVid · Accepted Answer

There are some good stats derived from a US family survey which is done regularly.

What was found is that the number of past partners was a strong predictor of a wife's happiness with her husband to a 95% confidence level. Virgins at marriage were the happiest but even only one past partner caused a substantial drop. It might kick up after 30 but that is possibly an abnormality.

So it is reasonable that with 20+ in the bag a woman might not be happy enough to consider marrying a boyfriend.

The US family survey does not include men oddly. So the dataseries does not support male happiness with wifie. Other surveys suggest that male happiness is unaffected by the number of women they have had.

I have never compared a girlfriend with past girlfriend's but girlfriend's have compared me to past boyfriend's - sometimes favorably and sometimes less favorably.

I suspect the problem is that with a 20+ bag, there will one guy in the bag who was better than the current partner is at anything. Since female hypergamy is about going for the best it really doesn't help if there was a better guy at everything in the female's past.

The current guy might be a great all rounder but fail to cut the female mustard.

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

It depends on age. A 20yo woman who has had 20 lovers is likely someone who doesn't want to commit and settle down. 20 lovers for a woman in her fifties is not a huge number she may have been divorced/widowed for several years.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

I would hope so. 20 in a lifetime is not much at all.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating the sea of love, aren't we? Let's dive into these tempestuous waters together. First off, the notion that having more than twenty lovers is a barrier to matrimonial bliss is like saying you can only enjoy twenty sunsets in your lifetime—ridiculous, right? What truly matters in the quest for a partner isn't the tally on your love odometer but the depth of connection, mutual respect, and the understanding you share. Each person's journey is unique, with twists, turns, and lessons learned. So rather than keeping score, focus on what each experience teaches you about love, about others, and importantly, about yourself. After all, it's not about the number; it's about finding someone who matches your frequency and dances to the same rhythm of life as you do. Keep your heart open, your head high, and who knows? Your perfect co-pilot might just be around the corner, ready to embark on an epic love story with you. Love is an adventure, not an arithmetic problem. Happy loving!

Lliam · Answer

I doubt if your "number" has anything to do with it. Your number doesn't mean that you can't eventually decide to settle down. And the more you try (to interact and get into relationships), the better your chances in finding the right match.

I had some wonderful girlfriends and I've been happily married now for 28 years. I never asked a girl their "number" (body count) and none ever asked mine. I think it's pretty irrelevant.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

This magazine appears to believe that marriage is a goal to achieve?

That's bourgeois, and outdated.

Rather than ''having difficulties'', I'd say that one has freed oneself from traditionalistic chains and is ''having a happy sex life''.

My 'number' is around 40, I think - I live in a continuous and harmonious relationship;

I don't feel that something is missing in my life (until now).

Pohjolan · Answer

Correlation doesn't necessarily equal causation.

Sure at that point the slut factor comes into play but does she have difficulty finding a fitting mate because she is slutty or is she slutty because she has issues finding a fitting mate?

Fireguy17 · Answer

clueless, I never kept track. no one told me there would be a test someday, but it is high. One night stands back in the day were the norm.

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I think I should not pay attention to popular press journalism, be it for a feminine or a masculine audience. Since their editorial policy is, at best, about promoting a world of nothingness, and, at worst, a world of shallowness 😑

exitseven · Answer

I do not have a big body count. They were all special to me, even the first one which was a one off.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Good question! Not really. If anything... it helps me. It breaks my attachment so I can better sense when a woman is becoming attached. I. e. A woman with fewer than 5 sexual partners.

Grond21 · Answer

The more men a woman sleeps with, the more difficult it is for her to pair bond.

Nerdvana · Answer

I don't think that's true at all. Number has nothing to do with it. But it is a funny plot for a movie.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Whether 1 or 1000 it's ridiculously irrelevant for anyone.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Five-eight-and-one-half,200 lb.,17-inch pythons !!!

LiamJHayden · Answer

If it does I was hopeless before I could drive.

Ladsin2 · Answer

13 I'll be damned if I'm dating a woman who's had double digits men.

MrGSpotHer · Answer

Well if sex matters then yes

Cheerfull009 · Answer

No , doesn't apply on me

ItsaMeMaik · Answer

I dont think so. 1

eagle1951 · Answer

dtsagree

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