Questions of today?

[Maxiebleu]

1. Would you say caring and loving someone is the same or different? Why or why not?

2. What is difference between respecting and controlling?

Let me hear your opinions, Keep it PG, and be kind to others

[caring__1]

Loving without caring is self-centered. If you truly love someone, you'll also care about that person. Caring tends to be more meaningful than loving, and you don't have to love to care. Caring is a connection of mutual consideration and respect. It is steady and unrushed and tends to be more stable over time. Loving is more hormonal and intense and likely to be more unpredictable. It is often quick to rise and quick to fall.

Respecting and controlling have nothing to do with each other. When we respect people, we show we believe in their abilities. When we're controlling, we imply others are too stupid to think for themselves. The more controlling a person is, the more fearful that person tends to be of being controlled. Controlling people are insecure, feeling it is easier to control others than take control over their own life. They want to grab the first opportunity to be on top... before anyone else has the chance to do so.

Respect is about consideration of how our choices impact others. Respectful people seek no more than they bring to the situation. They understand the only way to get respect is to give respect. When we feel we're not respected, it's important to discover in what ways the other person isn't feeling respected by us. Only insecure people feel entitled to respect without considering their own choices.

[ChiTown33]

1. Yes

2. The difference a lot if times is a matter of an opinion. Men and women simply do not think alike. But you don't have to always agree with someone to still respect thier views and opinions. I think the clearest determinant of whether someone is controlling you is, do you stay with them? Because they can't be very controlling if you're willing to stay with them, right? And if your answer to this is yes, then your problem is much bigger then them. Get some self respect before you worry about THEIR respect for you.

[Peter_Penetrator]

I believe that you can’t have caring without loving and vice versa. If you care enough to love then you love enough to care.


Controlling someone comes from a place of fear. Those that fear losing someone want that person all to themselves so they limit them to when, where and who they interact with. Controlling someone is a violation of healthy boundaries.


Respecting, caring and loving someone means to allow them the feeling of freedom. “You must love someone in a way that makes them feel free.”


PG enough?

[Peter_Penetrator]

Afterthought, love comes in stages.
From the way you can love a friend, or even someone you are interacting with for the very short term. All the way up to being “in love” with a S/O.

You can love a person’s personality even though you only interact with them once in that short amount of time. Because they are pleasant, you will care about what happens to them in their future. Let’s say you hear that person’s mother passed away. How would that make you feel to hear that? So see, you can love that stranger and care about them even if you never see them again. But in a matter of weeks, if you run into them, you offer your condolences. At the same time, you are not “in love” with them. Unless fate brings you together years later and that same personality begins to up the level of love you feel for them.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Caring is more of a mid thing, love is more extreme and usually comes with more sacrifice for the other person.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I forgot the second question so I'll answer it here, respecting usually comes with specific boundaries when controlling usually invades those boundaries to have certain power over the other and can get toxic quick.

[Luckycharms12]

Caring and loving someone are different but do normally go hand in hand. I care about the people I look after in work but don't love them.