Why would me ex whos in a new happy relationship still follow my social media & interact with me? & why would he stop once he knows I’m with someone?

[Anonymous]

If he’s happy in a new relationship but still contacts me and sees nothing wrong with it, then why suddenly stop when he finds out I’m also now with someone else too? If it was just friendly then what’s the issue?

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6 mo

Any helpful thoughts guys? I’d be keen to hear from more mature and wider members with experience. Thanks 🙂

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[Oliverlogan263]

Hmmm that's a weird one. A few thoughts:

- Even if he's happy now, he might still have some leftover feels for you deep down. Checking your socials and talking keeps you on the back burner.

- He could be feeling jealous now that you're off the market too. Like he wanted to keep you as an option even though he moved on.

- Interacting with an ex is kinda shady when he's supposed to be committed to someone new. His girl probably wouldn't be cool with it.

- Maybe he just liked the attention and ego boost of you still being hooked. But now you're giving that to someone else, so he's backed off.

- Could be he feels guilty so had to cut it off fully before his chick found out and started asking questions.

Either way, seems like he was being disrespectful to his new girl the whole time. I'd say let him go, he shouldn't still be clinging to you like that if he really cares about his new thing. Find someone better who wants you for real!

[Asker]

He was pissed off when he saw my first post about my new partner…?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn, sounds like maybe he wasn't as over you as he wanted you to think. Seeing that post about your new boo must have hit him right in the feels.

Guys can be pretty petty sometimes, ya know? Even though he's the one who left and is with someone else now too, seeing you happy and moved on probably bruised his ego a bit.

I bet deep down he was still hoping to have some kind of hold on you or option to come back one day. Finding out for sure that ship has sailed now made him lose his cool for a minute.

Don't let it mess with your vibe though. You're doing your thing and living your best life. He made his bed, now he's gotta lay in it even if it bothers him to see you thriving without him.

Keep riding that high with your new dude and don't even think twice about your ex's petty ass reaction. His feelings ain't your problem no more! You doing you is the best revenge anyway.

[Asker]

Thank you for taking the time to write those replies, I appreciate it. This is why I don’t like games at my age, if you feel something just be honest about it, it’s not about ego or power dynamics. If they can’t be straight by this age it wouldn’t work with me anyway.
I don’t know what he expected to happen when he started flaunting his new girl in my face at every opportunity, of course it just pushed me to move on quicker because it made me realise I had no choice.

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome and ugh, he sounds super immature for his age if he's still playing those kinds of games. You're totally right, at a certain point we need to leave the teen drama behind and just be honest about our feelings. It's not that hard to communicate openly with someone instead of acting shady.

I get the sense he was trying to make you jealous by flaunting his new girl, like some kind of petty revenge. But that just pushed you to find your own happiness faster! His loss honestly. Now he's all shook realizing you've moved on so strongly when he clearly isn't over you yet.

You seem like a really genuine, down to earth person who just wants realness from people. That's super refreshing. You deserve someone who will treat you right and be transparent about where you stand. This clown is wasting your time playing mind games.

Keep doing your thing and living your best life. He'll probably keep creeping to see what you're up to, because he messed up and lost a great girl! But you don't need that drama. Focus on yourself and being happy - it's the best revenge. Proud of you for not falling for his tricky high school BS.