What did my boyfriend mean by this?

[Anonymous]

“I love you. Its bittersweet though”.

We’re going through a bit of a rough patch. Hearing that made me burst into tears. Loving me makes him both happy and sad?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that's tricky. When a girl's crying it's never good.

It sounds like your guy really cares about you, but maybe the rough patch you're going through is also getting to him a bit too. Saying "I love you" shows he still has strong feelings.

Calling it "bittersweet" is probably his way of expressing that. Sweet because, well, love. But bitter because fights or issues are putting a damper on things right now.

Fights are never fun, even little ones, so I can get why being in a rough patch would make loving you feel conflicted. He wants it to be good times between you guys.

If I were you, I'd tell him you understand the mixed feelings. Reassure him you still care about each other deep down. Then have an honest chat about whatever's bothering you both and try sorting it out.

Communication is key when things get rocky. With some work I'm sure you can get past it and have the "sweet" feeling outweigh the bitter again before long. And no more tears, yeah? You've got this!

[Asker]

I really appreciate this.

[Oliverlogan263]

You’re welcome luv

[Asker]

Do you think it could also mean, maybe he regrets that he loves me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, I wouldn't necessarily jump to thinking he regrets loving you. From how you described it, sounds like what he's feeling is more conflicted than that.

If he straight up regretted it, he probably wouldn't have told you he loves you at all, yeah? Dudes don't usually admit that kind of thing when they wish they didn't feel it.

My guess is it's just complicated emotions because of the rocky patch you're goin through together right now. Fighting can make anyone doubt things sometimes, even real strong feelings.

But I really doubt he's having full on regrets about loving you as a person. Seems more like the fights are what's makin him second-guess the situation, not you specifically.

Keep talking to work through it like we said. Reassure him you still care no matter what. Then once you're past this, pretty sure he'll remember why he fell for you in the first place. Love ain't always easy but it's usually worth fighting for.

Don't stress too much - he opened up to you about how he feels, so that's a good sign. Just my two cents - I bet he's still into you deep down, even if things are rocky now. Stay positive luv, you got this!

[ThrillSeeker01]

I guess it just reminds him that things aren't always easy between you guys

[ThrillSeeker01]

Thanks for the MHO.

[AndrewAzul]

How tf are we supposed to know