What’s a dealbreaker for you in a relationship?

[Lisia]

[Forceinhand]

1. Not being Christian. (In which many other general life values are counted).
2. Not wanting children.
3. Materialistic goals in life.
4. "Dislikes" animals. I've heard a few women say this, and even though it isn't clear exactly what they mean, I am an animal lover and I do not trust those who openly say they "dislike" them. I genuienly don't believe such types to be decent people.
5. Loathes exercise/keeping a healthy and fit lifestyle. No couch potatos. I want her in the gym with me. Which includes after birthing children, some women let themselves go completely afterwards. While I realise it's easier said than done to stay active, sometimes especially after, I'll support her remaining so and want someone open to that.
6. Someone who equates love with gifts/expensive presents. "If you really loved me you'd get me that X trinket".
7. Someone without a sex drive or who views sex as a chore or only as an obligation to indulge me in ocassionally and reluctantly. That's never going to be my marriage, and I want my sex life to be mutually passionate and intentional.
8. As a continuation, a woman who tries to control me with sex. One, that's not gonna happen, 2. that's not a foundation for any functional and healthy marriage.

[Forceinhand]

Many thanks for mho.

[dynamicyandere]

* Cheating
* Non-Exclusivity
* Manipulative Behavior
* Abusive Behavior
* Disrespectful Behavior
* Lack Of Loyalty
* Lack Of Commitment
* Lack Of Effort
* Lack Of Cooperation
* Lack Of A Growth Mindset

[dynamicyandere]

@Lisia Thanks for the MHO. 🙂

[Lisia]

My pleasure

[Hawkes_Lady]

• Cheating or finding out he has a history of cheating.
• Lying, I won't lie to him, and lying to me will get him booted.
• Smoking & Drugs
• Excessive Drinking to the point of getting drunk
• Full body tattoos, tattoos on their face (a few are okay, but having them cover your whole body is too much for me.)
• Ear gauges, or lots of piercings

I am sure there are probably more, but I am tired and can't think of any more at the moment.

[etsylo]

i have a few.

- dishonesty
- cheating
- different values and beliefs
- no effort

omg i think that's it 😭 for now, im too tired to think : (

[Lisia]

Are you okay? 💕

[etsylo]

im trying my best to be 💪 thank you < 3

[Lisia]

I'm here for you 💕

[etsylo]

thank you 💕 means a lot

[Somoneelse]

1, Using drugs or smoke (also vapes)
2, Tattoo's & piercings
3, Rude/bad bahaviour against others/strangers
4, Lack of communication
5, Non-Exclusivity
6, No loyalty
7, Bad mindset
8, Lack of effort
9, Cheating (history as well)
10, Bad friends (this almost always shows a bad side of the person itself)
11, politics behaviour (I truly hate it when people are so excessive when it comes to politics or beliefs)
12, The way they talk about their friends or familly behind their back.
13, different sleep schedule (this was a thing with my ex, she slept during the day and was awake from 6PM till 5AM)
14, Social media addiction or basing the perfect life on tiktoks
15, no job or school

My ex was like this with 1, 4, 7, 10, 12, 13, 14 and 15. Smoked a lot, used drugs such as weed and (party-) pills, had no job and never finished school (she actually now goes back to school after we broke up), had bad friends who drank a lot and were stoned almost daily, communication was terrible and sometimes she let things bottle up till I got random message about it in the night (which even was one of the reasons we broke up), had a complete different sleepschedule than me so communication was always for only some hours before I slept and was always talking negatively about her parents and herself.

We broke up because she watched loads of romance/love tiktoks showing the “perfect life” and couldn't accept the fact that I was studying and worked in the weekends to earn money. Then that bottled up in her mind a lot, so yeah I couldn’t be the perfect boyfriend from those romance tiktoks and she broke up by a WhatsApp message because of that.

[Lisia]

Breaking up via text is such a dick move 💀

[Somoneelse]

Yep. It wasn't fully over text though, but I already could feel it coming because she wanted to talk the next day online (due to distance) and didn't replied to other things we talked about earlier before we called. But yeah it feels more like a dick move to me to become so obsessed with romance-tiktoks that you want to break up with your boyfriend because he couldn't just throw away his study + work to be the "perfect" boyfriend like from those videos.

[Somoneelse]

That's why social media and tiktoks are a massive red flag to me. including drugs/smoking and bad mindset.

I actually had this recently with a nice girl, but had to stop it because she was also tiktok obsessed. I'll never make that mistake twice by ignoring that red flag.

[Lisia]

I think it's good you focussed on your studies and job 💯👌 You'll thrive and it's their loss

[HawkPerception]

Cheating is obviously one or if I find out they have a history of it

They don't care or stopped caring about their appearance once in the relationship

They don't workout or stopped working out once in the relationship

Being rude, insulting, and condescending

Does not communicate what is on their mind. I'm a very open person and I expect the same from my partner

Lots of piercings. Tasteful dangling earrings (not spacers or cartilage piercings) are fine, everything else is too much. I especially hate nose ox rings

Too many tattoos. A tattoo here and there can be aesthetic and/or have a deep meaning to the girl, but when you're covered in sleeves or tats on your face or neck, it's a no from me

They want sex after marriage. I'm not a nymphomaniac by any means, but I do like to be physically intimate with my partner and would like to try living with them before marriage

Expect you to pay for everything and not help around the house

[Kaneki05]

Conservative views.
If they think I should filter myself.
Wanting a child, I've got one life and I ain't spending my youth on a child and who knows how they will turn out. Adoption of a kid when I am 40ish sure that could be fine.
Cheating.

Other than that not much else, other things are more red flags but not necessarily dealbreakers.

[Lisia]

I tbh got a cultural shock on gag because lots of people on here are conservative 😅

[AmeerX]

You are actually 18-19 years old Lisia. We don't want you to be defiled 😇. Otherwise people can be really liberal too. Plus you are really attractive and with a boyfriend

[Lisia]

@AmeerX ex boyfriend 🥲

[AmeerX]

Ohh :/

[Kaneki05]

@Lisia Ikr it's the one place conservatives flock to I guess after they all got banned from other places.
Even with a lot banning me or visa versa still many exist and give me that shock too.

[Lisia]

Ig usually people from the US are more conservative (from what I've seen) my country is the total opposite ngl

[AmeerX]

😂 I think you got it reversed. Europeans are more conservative than Americans.

[Kaneki05]

@AmeerX Bro what?
US is way more right winged than us.
US is by far one of the most far right places, there is a reason they still have debates over abortion lmao.

[Lisia]

@AmeerX Some Eastern-European countries might be (if I look at my mom lol)

[Kaneki05]

I went to America recently and they have silo's with christian stuff on it, and have mainstream radio's just about giving your life to Christianity.
And I am sure here we radio's like that but I've never heard of them. Meanwhile entering America is was the first thing I heard lol.
And when I saw such silos it honestly reminded me of the cult from far cry 5, which say's a lot.

[AmeerX]

Oh that's interesting. Nah my German friend is pretty conservative too. His wife are hard core Christian Protestants 😅

[Lisia]

Lol it's rare to be a full blown Christian here. Most people are baptised but they don't care ab the religion at all.

[AmeerX]

It could be. Still not as conservative as people in my country 😊

[Anonymous]

Perhaps a woman who has a DDLG fetish might be a deal-breaker for me. I am not sure. It depends on the person. I don't want to kink shame or limit my options. Sometimes in life, you have to work with what you got.

[Lisia]

What's DDLG?

[slatyb]

Like most people, there are many:
1) lack of consideration for others. This covers a lot.
2) sexual incompatibility
3) intellectual incompatibility
4) incompatible values
5) smoking, excessive drinking

[NathanDavis]

selfishness... and hatred/resentment

you know, the sexist, the racist, the classist... all those -ists and -phobesheavy smokers as well, I don't really think I could do that, lol

[7Phoenix7]

• Always lying or keeping many secrets
• Cheating
• Drugs
• Abuse

[DevikaButts95]

Will not eat me out/let me sit on their face and will not rub/kiss my feet/suck my toes. I need this daily. Lmao. I just need constant sexual attention, I can deal with most anything else.

[Danny_dan92]

If she hops on another man’s dick, she might as well hop out of my life

[Lisia]

Good one!

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah, send her a rabbit emoji and have her figure out the rest. Put that together with her shit being in a box outside

[Lisia]

Damnn

[Danny_dan92]

Hey, the act of being cheating means there is zero fucks given…. So… she can swallow that

[Danny_dan92]

Cheater*

[Lisia]

True

[Danny_dan92]

What goes around comes around tho… literally. Seen it n all lol

[AaronKrieger]

My number one requirement in a relationship and dating period is that we must be able to laugh easily together. Having a similar sense of humor is important to me.

[Nikki1989]

Read most of the comments from men on here, and you will see most of the dealbreakers in full display. Men who think they can control and insecurity.

[MrCommodore]

Hiding the TV remote or leaving the toilet seat down.

[es20490446e]

[Wood3nWhal3]

Not giving it up on the first date... like grow up sheesh.

[Lisia]

Wtf lol

[Wood3nWhal3]

One time I had a girl tell me "well the dates not over..." And today I call her wifey

[Lisia]

Awww so cute! Congrats

[Wood3nWhal3]

jk I'm single AF for now from becoming a tech hermit but I'm starting a job in information security paying big money and I'll be more comfortable going out then, so everyone better hide those wives, daughters, aunts, and hot grandmas cause it's on!

[Lisia]

I'll hide my dead hot grandma's ashes 'cause I don't know how crazy it's going to get

[Wood3nWhal3]

Smart girl, you must love your hot-dead grandma very much; and I wouldn't add "... but not as much as I would" but just "... but not like I would 😏" lol.

[Lisia]

Well you're gonna give her some different lovin' (that she hasn't gotten for like 30 years or so)

[Wood3nWhal3]

It'll bring her new life, no doubt. But I think it prudent to leave hot-grandma to rest like the angel she is, and instead see what's going on with the hot-granddaughter 😏

[Lisia]

Which one 💀

[Wood3nWhal3]

the hottest one of course, silly

[Lisia]

Take my mom instead then

[Wood3nWhal3]

Sure we can do that, but let's say I'm a NASCAR driver and I've had ol reliable which lives up to it's name, yet one day maybe I get endorsed by monster energy or Red Bull to bring in some new energy on the track... ya get my drift?

[Wood3nWhal3]

Do you not have any siblings?

[Lisia]

I do lol but she's taken

[Wood3nWhal3]

Is she happy though?

[Lisia]

[Wood3nWhal3]

Cause you can never dismiss the 'what-if" for me being destined to one day be her hubby and the whole time you're working against destiny?

[Lisia]

I always work against destiny

[Wood3nWhal3]

oh snap, what field of work is that? but tbh it sounds like instead of getting paid for working against it, you'd really pay the consequences... your mom and sis will be in good hands, rest assured

[Lisia]

Lol r u rich

[Wood3nWhal3]

Define "rich". I just started a career less than 2yrs ago and I have about 10k more until I can honestly say I make the 10% group of men that make more than the rest.

[Lisia]

That's solid

[Wood3nWhal3]

Had to, haven't seen my kid in a few years cause my bm has been extra petty since I had to break it off. My uncle is a heavy-hitter in the Information Security Industry - doing threat research and preventing lateral movement of Russian hackers. He suggested I study Network topologies and infrastructure and as I worked on a mid-lvl Cert , I fell in love with tech. Now I'm working on a higher lvl Cert but still impressive since I only have a yr of IT on my belt; all my colleagues are still doing tech support, which is no joke by any means but my days don't end until I'm done learning/working on skill-sets I know will get me ahead

[Lisia]

Damn 😃

[Wood3nWhal3]

I was so damn close to just start accepting I'll never find my passion and make a career out of it. And having to work shitty jobs that just allow you to pay your rent... fck that. My best advice if you're going for a career, explore tf out of various career opportunities. If you're like me, then you see yourself doing everything, but think about you as an individual and seek a career path that applies to your strengths, that way you can develop other areas in your life and gradually you'll become a more well-rounded individual , and one day executive status.

[Lisia]

Thanks for the advice

[Wood3nWhal3]

Anytime beb

[jcampbell115]

Any signs of aggression or attempts to be physical or damage shared property in anger

[Alwayreckles93]

Wordly , Not living christian standers. Not taking God seriously.

[Alwayreckles93]

Immature mommas boy.

[Joshydavid25]

I guess I'll just sum it up as not having similar morals and values, heavily smoking, partying animal.. Everything else can be worked out..

[DJB72]

Infidelity. Everything else can be worked through but that shatters trust

[Bricealan]

Smoking, drinking to excess (getting drunk) drugs.

[TonyMetal___86]

Cheating, turning into a feminist, not cooking and doing the house chores...

These are the basic deal breakers for me!

[love_conquers_lust]

Illegal drugs, marijuana, smoking, excessive drinking, not a biological woman... to name a few.

[Tim2nice]

Smoking, drugs, excessive drinking, materialism, lack of empathy and close mindedness.

[exitseven]

If she has lots of guy friends that she used to date and had sex with.

[AmeerX]

Someone overtly religious (when in fact they are not). Always trying to get her way making me feel guilty. And not respecting my goals

[Anonymous]

If the girl doesn’t like to involve her ass when it comes to the sexuals.

[Lisia]

Hmmmmm.. is this who I think it is 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

No… 🥹

[Lisia]

So there's a second one 🤔

[Opinion Owner]

Haha a second what?

[Lisia]

I only know 1 person who thinks ass is that important

[Opinion Owner]

Oh I’m sure there are more guys than just me (not that I am admitting to anything) that like ass that much

[Lisia]

Uhuuuuuu assholes are different tho

[Opinion Owner]

I never said the word asshole 😂

[Lisia]

Ah so you mean just grabbing the ass and stuff?

[Opinion Owner]

No I mean more than that.

[Lisia]

Like what

[Opinion Owner]

Putting my finger in it. Tongue in it. I love eating a girls ass. Especially if she has a pink asshole

[Lisia]

Okay I know who you are 😈

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t know what you’re talking about! 😊

[Lisia]

Mhmmmm

[Opinion Owner]

One of these times I’ll slip one by you. You just know me too well apparently

[Lisia]

Yeah I'm too good ;)) you might need to say you hate assholes for me to not know

[Opinion Owner]

Haha but then that’ll be too obvious that it’s me trying to hide that it’s me!

[Lisia]

Hmm 🤔 maybe nothing that has to do with assholes

[Opinion Owner]

Well what is the fun in that

[Lisia]

That I wouldn't know

[AydenHazor]

A narcissist and/or cheater. Not putting myself through that again

[Sparkie460]

If she uses drugs, she's an alcoholic and she lies all the time I don't want anything to do with her

[pass_the_celery98]

She's rude, she's not loyal, she doesn't communicate.

[Cl0core]

Lack of respect, cheating and asking for a threesome

[nawtee_me]

Not being able to be trusted. Trust is the foundation for a good relationship.

[MrCharlie13]

Being rude to other people, lack of passion, no sex

[Luckycharms12]

Loads of deal breakers lying cheating being the main one

[dolemite58]

cheating, if she’s on medication for mental illness if some kind, alcoholic or hard drug use

[Slim57]

Cheating number 1, but constant lying and bad communication is bad too

[Prometus]

Not accepting you for who you are. Him not respecting your boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Being fake and pretending to agree with the other when they truly don't.

[Anonymous]

No downloads of nudes.

[Lisia]

Having no download of nudes is a dealbreaker?

[Staximus]

Oh I have lots of deal breakers haha

[Lisia]

Like what?

[Staximus]

The usual stuff like cheating and beating, being deceptive, doing hard drugs like meth, heroin, crack, coke. No out of control drunks, no irresponsible bums, taking advantage of my good nature, spending time alone with other guys, being mean to kids and old people, not having any friends, being on psych medication, being too materialistic, no groupies, "clout chasers", or status chasers. Being obsessed with public image. Not wanting to go camping, hiking, or fishing. No super picky eaters, no vegans, not liking classic cars, no ice queens, no women fatter or less fit than me, she has to be able to hike a mile uphill at 7000 feet elevation. She had to have some kind if hobby besides watching tv and playing with her phone. No women that do not masturbate. No anti-cuddlers. She has to want to snuggle up next to me when we are on the couch watching a movie. No stonewalling. She has to let me get to know her real self. No women that fuck on the first date or who are into having sex with strangers. No liberal lunatics. No religious lunatics.
I think I'm missing a few things. My friend says my standards are "like a yeti on top of Mount Everest, too high" haha

[Lisia]

They're not necessarily high, just a lot 😅 but ig if you really love someone you're willing to make an exception on some of those things right?

[Staximus]

Maybe some that don't involve morals

[Lisia]

Yeah that's respectable

[Staximus]

I forgot to say that she has to care as much about me as I do about her. I'm going to stop now before this list gets any longer

[Lisia]

Yes also valid

[Lliam]

Cheating.
Lack of respect.

[friendofthefallen]

Children and past baggage.

[Sasha0426]

Don’t we all have past baggage?

[Sasha0426]

Or unless there’s something specific you’re referring to.

[clubboss]

If the bitch lies she flies.

[Lisia]

Nice 😌

[clubboss]

You sound like a good girl.

[Lisia]

I unfortunately am

[clubboss]

How is that unfortunate?

[Lisia]

I'm a doormat lol

[clubboss]

All girls are hon.

[Lisia]

I disagree with that

[clubboss]

What? Why?

[AmeerX]

Lisia is correct. Not all girls are doormats. Those who are deserve to be treated good. Some girls are just controlling

[clubboss]

You know Eli, don't you? She's also a doormat, and you know how incredible she is.

[AmeerX]

@clubboss of course she is a doormat 😂. I am talking about other girls. Honestly some girls are just undatable and toxic

[clubboss]

To that, i agree.

[tzdc21]

A bad attitude. Hands down.

[Worst]

women

[Lisia]

Damn

[Kinkyhubby]

Cheating, constitant lying, mind games

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Lying.
Cheating.
Untrustworthy.
Annoying.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Not wanting children

[Alex8736]

Liar, narcissist, and no sense of humor

[mohannad5]

Lying, selfishness

[Gezbelle]

Toxic views on something that is important for me

[SixFootSexy]

This is a galaxy of possibilities...

[Flatmanlewis]

Infidelity.

[Teabaggin]

Cheating, too much lying, ..

[Chandelier8]

Lies.

[Anonymous]

poor communication and cheating

[magiusX26]

most things

[Friendlybro79]

Bad jokes.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Dishonesty.

[Anonymous]

Cheating

[Guido]

Dishonesty.

[SunnyRS]

Dishonesty

[ChefPapiChulo]

hairy legs