Would you contact her after months?

[Anonymous]

So there's a girl I know for like 2 years. I kinda like her but we never really talked, I had one try over text but I messed up. Later on she got into a relationship and she blocked me on FB as I kept watching her stories there (at least I guess this is the reason, she has 2 profile but she just unfriended me on her second).

They broke up in the summer so she is single since that and I just can't stop thinking about her even if we haven't seen each other for months. I know that she liked me before she got into that relationship but she might be angry at me by now because I didn't talk to her. (Yes, I'm introverted, shy, overthinker and have anxiety...)

I really want to talk to her, explain to her why this all happened and confess my feelings for her...

But I can't just text her so I want to meet her face to face, I don't know what her reaction would be or if she even wants to see me.
Is this a bad idea? What should I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Man that's a tough one. On one hand I get why you like this girl and want to see her after liking her for so long. But on the other, it has been months since you talked and she did unfriend/block you, so she's probably over it by now.

I'd say maybe try hitting her up one more time, but play it cool. Shoot her a text just saying hey, ask how she's been, mention you've been thinking about connecting. See how she responds before trying to meet up - that'll give you a clue if she's even open to talking.

If she seems off or one word replies, I'd leave it. But if she engages back in a friendly way, then maybe ask if she wants to grab a coffee to catch up. Make it low pressure though, not like a date - just two old friends reconnecting.

That way you feel out how she feels without putting yourself out there too much. And if it goes well, then you can tell her how you felt and see what she says. But man don't get your hopes up either way. Just test the waters first before diving in head first. Good luck dude!

[Asker]

Yeah it would work... If I wouldn't be still blocked.. but as I answered on other replies

"I think I have to explain this whole blocked story better. The thing is, like 2 months after she got into the relationship she even wished me happy birthday, there wasn't any sign of hatres. But I kept watching her stories and it might have been annoying to her so she blocked me after a few weeks.

I wasn't communicating with her so I guess she doesn't even bother giving it a second chance because she doesn't know why I didn't talk to her."

She might think I'm still that shy person who can't make it work so she doesn't even bother with it, I have no other option but to walk up to her and explain everything...

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah I see man, that does make it tougher if she's still blocking you online. In that case, running into her in person might be your best bet then.

A few tips though - don't just straight up confess everything right away. Play it cool when you see her. Say hi and chat for a bit to break the ice. Bring up something casual you remember from before, like school or old friends, just to get a conversation going.

Once you're talking, then you can be like "hey, so there was something I've been meaning to clear up..." and explain the whole blocking and no talking thing. Emphasize that you knew she had a boyfriend so you gave her space, but you want her to know you weren't avoiding her on purpose.

Make sure to apologize if watching her stories too much bothered her before. But also say you hoped she might give you a chance to explain in person. Most important - say you just want her to know the truth and leave it up to her whether she wants to be friends.

Don't put pressure on for anymore. Leave the ball in her court after that. Hopefully she'll see you've grown out of being shy. But don't get your hopes up either - play it cool so you save face no matter what. You got this bro!

[bededazzle]

sounds like you have nothing to lose, but be prepared for rejection. at least you’d know you tried. personally, i think texting or emailing would be fine unless you feel confident you could set up time together.

[Asker]

Yeah this is one of my biggest problem, I'm still blocked... maybe because she thinks I don't even like her anymore or I couldn't handle the convo if I couldn't yet.

But I really have to do something about this because she just stuck in my mind.. it makes me crazy..

[bededazzle]

oh i missed that part. well if she blocked you she probably doesn’t want to talk to you so i would let it go

[Asker]

I think I have to explain this whole blocked story better. The thing is, like 2 months after she got into the relationship she even wished me happy birthday, there wasn't any sign of hatres. But I kept watching her stories and it might have been annoying to her so she blocked me after a few weeks.

I wasn't communicating with her so I guess she doesn't even bother giving it a second chance because she doesn't know why I didn't talk to her.

Maybe I'm overthinking this again... I have no idea...

[bededazzle]

well i guess it’s hard to say. i am a little confused but if you do have a way what the heck. even in the worst case you’d have some closure

[_Maya_]

How are you going to meet up with her if you don't want to text or call her? I would send a message to be honest. Good way to get back in touch and gauge her reaction to you reaching out. If she doesn't want to text or talk on the phone she isn't going to want to meet up. If she liked you before and is now single I don't know what you are concerned about. The worst thing that can happen is that she isn't interested since she did just get out of a relationship. I know you said summer but sometimes I just want a break after getting out of a relationship.

[Asker]

I know when she comes and goes with the bus so maybe I could show up there, I can't message her because I'm still blocked... But I want to sort this thing out with her, even if she dump me.

This constant overthinking about 'what if' is horrible...

[_Maya_]

Oh gotcha. If you are still blocked I am thinking the chances are pretty slim this is going to work out.

[Asker]

I think I have to explain this whole blocked story better. The thing is, like 2 months after she got into the relationship she even wished me happy birthday, there wasn't any sign of hatres. But I kept watching her stories and it might have been annoying to her so she blocked me after a few weeks.

I wasn't communicating with her so I guess she doesn't even bother giving it a second chance because she doesn't know why I didn't talk to her.

Maybe I'm overthinking this again... I have no idea...

[Tharithi]

Do it , why do u like her