I've been in a marriage and she has 2 teenage daughters and she always plans stuff with them without talking to me first am I wrong for being pissed?

[Gibbie83]

I'm ready to leave over this, it's been 10 years of this

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang dude that sounds super frustrating! I'd be pretty pissed too if my girl kept making plans with her kids and leaving me out of it after 10 whole years together.

Look, her daughters will always come first cuz they're family, but that doesn't mean she gets to totally disregard you in the process. A marriage is a partnership - big decisions like schedules/holidays should involve teamwork and compromise.

Maybe she's just in "mom mode" so much she doesn't realize it, but that's not cool to leave you as an afterthought all the time. Talk to her for real and be like yo, I've always supported your girls, but I need you to support me too by running shizz by me before making it official.

If she won't listen or change, then yeah man you did your part. Don't wanna spend your whole life coming second to teenagers. Sometimes you just gotta put yourself first. But try sorting it out together first at least, for old time's sake. If no go, then ball is in your court, feel me? You good either way bro.

[sheikalana]

As someone who is married to a man who has a kid. I can tell you this is pretty normal and you're the one who needs to adapt instead of getting pissed off. Her kids are probably the most important people in her life she doesn't have to notify you of anything.

[Anonymous]

Her kids are her main priority. You need to grow up.