Have you ever felt true love for someone?

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And what's your experience?

1ash-Silver · Accepted Answer

I guess I "truly loved" a girl on primary school it was so confusing to me that I felt it so intensely but she never liked me and I stopped liking her when she was participating in making fun of me and I was terribly sad because I liked her for 3 years straight , she was not really considered attractive but she struck me as a lady and dressed like a lady.

The last girl I "I truly loved" was in my final year in high school, very bad timing. I am not someone that usually am interested in a female that is not serious about her education but I thought I could help her academically as I could've been of great help. I loved her more and more just by seeing her , she knew this much but she did not like that it became obvious and then after being nice to me things changed dramatically. She went from complementing me and helping me with a card game (ensuring my victory , not letting anyone cheat) to telling me she does not want to be rude to me and said that she does not like me or something translating to I am not her type. I had a friend who has her name just spelt differently , my friend warned me , she said " You like her , no way" , "how can someone like you like someone like her" and I told her "please don't be mad at her" . She found out that I was open about the fact that I liked her and she told me to not encourage it and put an end to it. I was very torn by what had happened that I stayed up all night sad although I was set to write a mathematics question paper. I took it to WhatsApp and told everyone that they should stop talking about it as my whole class knew I was in love with her and fortunately I had a lot of respect as for someone with a great personality, my class adored me so with the help of a couple of classmates it was buried. I remember my class and I went to our school library to watch a movie on a projector about a book that we would be questioned on. My biggest fan, a girl, then sat next to me to ask me if I really like her because the word out there was that I finally had feelings for someone. The saddest thing for me was to see how hopeful people were when finding out I liked someone, they were so genuinely happy for me that it broke my heart to know that it was not going to amount to anything. I told my biggest fan that I did not have feelings for this girl and this girl was in the library listening in to hear of I was encouraging it. My male friend liked the same girl but he never had the courage to say to me that he liked her just as much , one time we left from school but walked to his house and on our way he tells me that this girl made him look like he was coming on to her and he was sad about how she behaved. I thought to myself wow, she broke two hearts and that of two young men that are awesome. She did not care about how we felt. Her own female friends told her she was not right to do me so dirty because ironically they loved me but she couldn't.2 years later she met a guy that cheated on her and here I had good intentions and I never looked at her in a lustful way. When I love someone I don't see the person in a way that I want to have sex with her , I am saving myself for marriage. I told myself after that I am not going to be in a relationship unless I am absolutely sure that the person loves me for me. I never had a girlfriend or kissed a girl.

I hope when I meet someone someday, that it will be love.

sawno · Accepted Answer

Absolutely, and thats not something that ever goes away if it is really true. I love who she is as a person and find her sexually attractive. Combine those and its the perfect recipe for romantic love, bond with her and its the perfect recipe for deep connection and feelings if its mutual.

So in my case I let the feelings go and I let the sexuality go given we broke up. But in my heart and mind I will always love who she is.

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Yes.

I'm still not a great believer in the phrase 'true love'. I think love is more complicated than this. But maybe 'true' is a modifier, meant to separate the most from the lesser. Still...

I can say is that I came to believe that love exists more like on a pendulum. When we are inexperienced (and especially, young) we don't know how to gauge everything, every feeling, emotion, and person. What may feel like something big or grand or so real at the time, will often be lessened with time, as you have more and more experiences. Of course, they won't all get better, more intense, like a simple chart with an arrow only going northwest, higher and higher. But with experience, we can compare, and then in retrospect, understand what it was. I would leave the possibility of demotion in one's mind. It happens often with clarity in retrospect.

When relationships are cut short (for any reason, but, say, one person ends it, or practical problems like geography or other obligations like work or school or family or illness do), that person can become frozen in a state of 'unrequitedness' to us. Unfinished. We can idolize them, having not seen or known all their flaws, and our naïveté can give them undue status inside our hearts and minds. Later, meeting others, you realize it wasn't always warranted.

But if you can list a person's flaws, just as easily as you can list what you loved about them, and you still loved them anyway - all of them - then I would call this 'a true love', a true, deep, abiding appreciation (and respect - that's a non-negotiable component). You want to help them with those things they struggle with. You want to be their confidante. You want an intimacy between just you two, no one else coming inside that circle of trust. You don't need anyone else's opinion of them. It doesn't count. It doesn't matter. You know them. You know the reality, the good, the bad, the ugly, and you accept them for all of it.

Have you ever felt true love for someone?

DizzyDesii · Accepted Answer

I've thought it was love but its hard to still feel like it was when it wasn't successful. So im not sure

jaskin777 · Answer

I have but turned out they only wanted sex and money from me

So now I'm having a hard time loving anyone...

I would want to love someone that love me for me.. but can't find that these days it all about sex and money.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Once

Tharithi · Answer

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