Would u mind about that?

[Anonymous]

If ur girlfriend/boyfriend have friends of the opposite gender and they spend time alone with them?

[Flatmanlewis]

Not really. If it’s a mutual friend then I have no issue with it. If it’s ‘her’ friend then I may have to trust my gut on how things feel.


This depends on the totality of the circumstances. They are having dinner after work? Well, are they out of town for a work event? Celebrating a promotion? Looking ar a two hour drive home with LA traffic?


Yeah, I suppose I’d rather she was having dinner with a coworker or male friend than out alone. Now, she’s off work but went to meet this friend for dinner at some nice restaurant and all dressed up? Yeah. I don’t really like the feel of that.


Context matters.

[Asker]

Okok

[HighValue]

I would end the relationship. The same goes for them having public social media and adding random people or posting provocative pictures online for attention. Anyone that disagrees with that is a low quality person to be avoided.

[Asker]

Okok

[mandyfire98]

I wouldn't care because I know my boyfriend wouldn't cheat. You have to know and trust the people you are with or you shouldn't be with them. Don't date bad people.

[Asker]

He could still surprises u by actually cheat.. u never know lol..

[mandyfire98]

I know he wouldn't. Not his personality at all. He despises cheaters. Also he literally gets everything he wants and needs from me. No reason to cheat.

[Asker]

Yup u may know him as u said but u never know what’s happen behind the door u not always with him lol..

[mandyfire98]

I know cheating isn't happening. Because he has no need to cheat. Men don't just cheat just to do it. It's for a reason. Most of the time it's lack of sex statistically. He gets sex from me whenever he wants it. He's not looking for sex when he has it whenever he wants it. He also thinks I'm fat more attractive than his other friends. They literally have nothing sexual to offer him. He's well fed so he's not hungry at all. So I don't worry about him because I'm not insecure. I'm not weak minded. Insecurity is weak minded.

[Asker]

Ok if u say it so..

[Billlewis]

No, I wouldn't mind.

[Asker]

Are u sure lmao, u wouldn’t jealous?

[Billlewis]

Well, of course I'd be jealous, but that's what I want her to do to me anyway;)

[Asker]

Why bro why u so mean to u lmao?

[HelpfulWoman]

why would i care? don't date trash

[Asker]

Tf u mean by this?

[HelpfulWoman]

ah i see it's gone whoosh over your head. nevermind

[Asker]

What?

[dudeinohio]

Totally inappropriate.

[Asker]

Why?

[KrakenAttackin]

Not acceptable.

[Asker]

Why bro?

[KrakenAttackin]

Because nothing good will come from your SO having opposite gender close friends. It's different if you and your SO hang out with these friends together, but not alone.

[Asker]

Totally true ur right bro!

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker. When women keep guy friends this is often a big shit test. If she says "I've known him for years", that's fine, but it's up to her to make you comfortable with their relationship. This is a major boundary that needs to be made/enforced for a relationship to work in my opinion.

[Asker]

Ikr the guy friend just waiting in line and 100% wants to bang her/date her..

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... that's right. She keeps him as a backup. Again, not acceptable.

[Asker]

Ikr bro!