Is it worrying that my boyfriend is really into choking/passing out?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been together over a year now and our relationship is great he looks after me.

he's recently been speaking more about how he really wants to try choking me out and don’t get me wrong I’m into being choked hard but is being choked till I’m unconcsious dangerous? And is it normal to be into that?

[Kokoroho]

No. Human body will go on fight or flight mode and it can get bit unwanted.. reluctant.. or rap*y.
It's not for the weak minded nor for those who role play the wrong tendency. I say a hard pass.

If you insist and ignore my warning it best to guide his actions. Have safe signal for when he goes to far. Like double tap on the forearm or safe word, or let it last for 5 seconds and check in saying "you really know what your doing, I like that within a man"

[Asker]

Oh wow really.
And yes I will say that to him thanks!

[Kokoroho]

Yup yup yuuup, anytime!

[RebelinSteel]

Do not do it, that is just plain fucking stupid. Choking someone until they lose consciousness is ridiculous and a great way kill someone by accident. There is also the risk of serious brain injury from this type of thing. Have a look at how many people die or suffer life changing injuries over this.

[RebelinSteel]

Read this www.kemh.health.wa.gov.au/.../...strangulation.pdf

[Asker]

Oh really? That’s worrying

[RebelinSteel]

Yes it is a major risk with that type of kink

[sheikalana]

That's a weird kink to have. I think is a bit dangerous to choke someone until they pass out.

[HighSky]

You're talking behind his back, why don't you say this directly to his face? If not you're a massive coward

[Asker]

Because I needed other peoples opinions? I’m not trying to talk behind his back but just needed some help and advice?

[HighSky]

Ok, being choked is fucking stupid and you're fucking stupid for being into it.
If you want to suffocate to death be my guest

[Asker]

Thanks 🫶🫶🫶🫶

[slatyb]

It sounds quite dangerous to me. I would leave that as a fantasy.

[Danny_dan92]

Is he physically abusive?

[Asker]

No no he’s not physically abusive just in sex he’s very rough and slaps me about and stuff

[Danny_dan92]

It’s normal. If he harms you outside of having sex. Then yes

[Asker]

If he harms me outside of sex it’s normal for him to want to choke me out?

[Danny_dan92]

*sigh* no.

If he harms you, OUTSIDE of sex. Then it’s a problem.

[Asker]

Oh why?

[Danny_dan92]

Bro what?

[Asker]

Sorry nothing nothing

[Danny_dan92]

You like getting your ass beat huh? Are you a punching bag?

[Asker]

Not a punching bag no

[Danny_dan92]

Ok good

[Anonymous]

It should be in my opinion.

[Asker]

Should be what?

[Opinion Owner]

Worrisome for you.