Maybe I’m worrying for nothing, but my boyfriend is acting strangely, and not sure what to think or how to proceed?

[Anonymous]

Things have been going well for me and my boyfriend over the last week or so. We got through a difficult time for both of us. Things have been going great since. However, today he started acting strangely. He came over last night and spent the night. We made plans to get together again tonight. I know he has a cold which he got from me, regrettably. He’s also been working a lot. Tomorrow he has to work his morning job, then work his night job that keeps him working until the next morning around 3am. Early this afternoon I got a message from him asking how my day was going. “How’s your day going sweetie?” I told him it was going well and really busy. I asked how his day was going and how he’s feeling. I didn’t think much of it before the first 2 hours of him not responding. It’s fairly common that he goes quite a few hours before he responds to me. Nearly 4 hours later I still hadn’t heard from him. I sent him a message asking if he wanted to pick up some wine for tonight. We always have wine when he comes over. I also told him that if he didn’t want any because of his cold, it was just fine. I also told him my WiFi was back on, yay! My modem was having issues earlier. Still no response. I went out to dinner with my parents and still no response. Finally about an hour and a half later, I got one very brief message from him, “ok” and that was all. I texted him and said awesome and i’ll see him in a bit and asked if he could come half an hour later because dinner was running later than we thought. Almost an hour and a half after that, he send me this emoji 👌, which he never sends any, then said, “I’m actually gonna stay home, I’m still not feeling well baby!” I sent him a message back saying “you waited this long to tell me you’re not coming? I know you’re sick. Get some rest.” His lack of communication isn’t like him, even with being sick. What concerns me about the messages is that he read them hours before. He has read receipts on. Should I be worried or not?

[Guy13]

Sounds like over texting. We run away from that. I do not mean to offend but I am a guy... If your texts are anything like this post then that is what happens. We seek space in that. If fact, thats when the ghosting happens. Back off with bombarding in one text two sentences text. I do hope all this works out the way you wish. I am sure evryone can tell that you are sincere with him :-)

[Asker]

The thing is, those aren’t any more texts than I usually send. We’ve been dating for a year and a half. Have I ruined things if I over texted?

[Guy13]

No BUT he is tired of reading and hearing the same stuff. Texts are directional. Let's do. Conversation id face-face. Make expectations via text. Where are we dating etc... I want to go here do that. plan it etc... Let him bring up emotional things.