Is it wrong for a man to want to be taken care of?

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It often feels like it's the man's job to take care of his spouse. Our job as provider if you will. There are days when I have had it rough, where I'm so damn tired when I get home that I just want to be taken care of. And by taken care of, I mean I want to have a small dinner with my wife, and spend the evening cuddling. I want to just turn it all off and just be with her. My wife God bless her seems to know when I've had that kind of day and does just that, takes care of me. But a lot of what I was taught tells me that as the man, I should never need that. And don't get me wrong here, I always reciprocate. I always return what she does for me 100 times over. I appreciate it that much.

Is it wrong for a man to want, or need to be taken care of occasionally?

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

We take care of each other all the time!! You were taught wrong!! 😑

it’s nit a want. It’s a need. We are not robots. Even robots need maintenance.

hubby and I love doing couple things, date nights, cofffee dates on a weekly bases. Relationship is like caring for a garden. Water it, tile it, weed it…etc..

we never neglect each other.

aside from nights, we also go out for couples massages, and spas…it’s so very important to not forget to love, care for one another.

60-80hr work week? Omg!! You need a vacation!
We just came back on a cruise … he didn’t like the first time before Covid… this time he is hooked!! It’s okay to work hard but also need to play hard!
Hope you two take time to treat yourselves a little.

LazerBean · Accepted Answer

Depends on what you mean by "be taken care of". If I interpret that to mean they want to be taken care of in the same way that a welfare leech wants to be taken care of by the government, then it's bad for the both genders. But I'd say it's perfectly healthy and good for both men and women to want to feel loved, secure, and pampered by their spouse.

CriticalCatDad123 · Accepted Answer

I thought women were the caregivers? That means not only for children but for their man as well. Don’t want your husband to abuse you? Don’t treat him like shit and maybe take care of him as a wife/woman should. Otherwise stay fucking single no one cares if you die alone. I’m dying alone on purpose and no one gives a fuck about that

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

i thought its called a relationship, not parasitism or transactional relationship.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Oh, let me tell you, there's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to be taken care of, no matter who you are! In the dance of love and relationships, taking turns leading and following makes the melody sweeter. It’s a show of strength, not weakness, to express your needs and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Just like you, everyone craves a little TLC every now and then. 😉 We all have those days when all we want is to hit the pause button and soak up some love and comfort. Your dynamic with your wife sounds wonderfully balanced and full of mutual care and understanding - something many folks out there are searching for! Keep valuing and reciprocating that love, because that’s what keeps the relationship strong and vibrant. Love isn’t just about providing; it’s also about being present, supportive, and nurturing. So relax, enjoy being looked after, and cherish these precious moments with your wife. You're doing love right, my friend! 💕

DishLady · Answer

No, but a man and woman setting out to get married are promising to take care of each other… ”love, honor, cherish…” that’s the deal… (though it feel like less and less people pay attention to their vows nowadays and choose poorly or choose before they’re actually ready to take on lifelong vows).

You want to be loved, cherished and taken care of… rewarded for all the good stuff you do and what you provide for her… fair enough, but remember you owe her the same… that’s marriage.

sage2021 · Answer

It is just fine. You're human and no matter what, all of need TLC.
You deserve it. And to be honest, I always loved when my husband would lay on the couch with his head on my lap and say to me "Will you scratch my head"? He loved that and would fall asleep sometimes.
Some women such as myself are very nurturing - that's different than mothering.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

No it’s not because us woman want to get taken care of too but put us woman aside it’s not wrong at all for a guy to want to be taken care of I would totally do that if my guy asked me to that’s if I had a guy lol

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I have a problem with understanding the question... isn't it obvious?

Every human being sometimes is tired, worried, exhausted. It's quite natural to be taken care of... by your spouse, family or friends...

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Nope, nothing wrong with it at all. Everyone has low days and needs that comforting. Men are not any different.

Agape93 · Answer

Not at all. I see 0 issues with guys being taken care of too. Thats how a relationship works

Alex-Snow · Answer

Not really we all want to be cared for male or female

LiamJHayden · Answer

A relationship should be a mutual commitment to seek the better for the other.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

I hope not because I have days like that lol

dustybiker2 · Answer

A relationship should never be one sided.

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

😏 Drizzle, drizzle...

laly520 · Answer

nothing is wrong with it

exitseven · Answer

My wife and I take care of each other.

IWILLPLEASEYOU · Answer

Best deal is take care of each other!

sheikalana · Answer

Not wrong at all!

Slim57 · Answer

Nope

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