How to get rid of a toxic guy if I am emotionally attached to him?

[Anonymous]

He's not my boyfriend. But we flirt kind of everyday but he's been acting quite distant since 2 days and I find it hard to deal with. He talks to a lot of girls online and his instagram is mostly full of girls and one of them is me. We grew close quickly and had conversations until the morning even until 6am and he asked me out on a date too, but haven't fixed it because we live in different cities plus he indirectly told me he isn't looking for a relationship. At first I never really cared much and mostly talked to him when I was just free but then I got attached to him too much. And now it's like I cannot function without thinking about him and talking to him. How can I put an end to this emotional attachment and move on for the sake of my mental health. I feel so drained and stresses out due to this issue

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, many been there with those wishy washy toxic guys and it's the worst feeling! First off, take a deep breath - you've got this and you don't need a dude like that bringing you down.

A few things that help when getting over someone:

- Block/delete him everywhere so you're not stalking his socials and getting more attached. Outta sight, outta mind!

- Lean on your girlfriends for support. Have movie nights, get your nails done, anything to busy your mind.

- Refocus your energy into yourself. Spoil yourself, pamper with face masks, go on a me-date. Love yourself back up!

- Journal your feelings to get them out in a healthy way. Helps you process and move on faster.

- It's okay to be sad, but don't dwell. Keep reminding yourself you deserve better than his hot/cold games.

- Time heals all wounds. It won't be easy at first but stays strong - soon you won't even think about him anymore.

You got this sis! Be proud you had the strength to walk away from someone not treating you right. The right one is out there waiting for you, I just know it!

[LaurenM1997]

Block him on every social media including your phone and don’t have anything to do with him go find someone else

[LaurenM1997]

Block him and delete his number

[WhitneySnow]

Tell him you’re gonna ghost him and why then do it. Don’t block him cause you might change your mind later.

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the choppy waters of an emotional attachment, especially to someone giving off those toxic vibes, can be tough. But believe me, your well-being is so worth the effort to steer clear! It sounds like you've been caught in a whirlwind of flirtation and late-night conversations that leave you hanging. Classic lovebombing, then ghost-like behavior. If he's flourishing in a garden of online interactions without planting roots with anyone, including you, it's a red flag.

To detach and bloom away from this draining situation, first, acknowledge the pattern. It's like realizing you've been dancing to a tune that's just noise. Start by filling your playlist with self-love anthems. Engage in activities that center you—reading, spending real quality time with friends and family, or diving into a hobby.

Communication is key, even if it's a final act. Let him know, calmly and clearly, that you're steering your ship towards healthier horizons. Finally, hit the block button if necessary. It's not just a digital action; it's you choosing your mental peace over chaos. Remember, you deserve someone who doesn't leave you guessing. You've got this!

[jahaims]

By being an adult with self control

[Asker]

Yeah I know this is something I lack