Made mistake and lost my boyfriend trust?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and half and currently we are in long distance until he finishes his studies. We made plans to be in the same country in few months and continue dating and might be living together in the future. My boyfriend likes stability and feels secure but i’m the foreigner looking for jobs opportunities abroad and career has been an issue of friction as he is always worrying that im rushing to find a better job offer and that i’m confusing his certainty in us and asked me to stay in the country for him. We recently had an office party and got drunk and got closer with a guy at a club from the same department. It turns out that guy likes me for a while but never had the guts to ask me out then I got into a relationship. He confessed this while walking me home, I wished him good night and politely explained that we can be friends only and nothing more. He seemed to understood but started texting me on instagram after. I was drunk and maybe gave him the wrong idea but I was clear that i’m not interested. The next day told my boyfriend about it but not the whole story. When I started chatting with this guy knowing what happened felt horrible and told my boyfriend everything. I didn’t do anything but I did flirt and got flattered. My boyfriend didn’t take it very well and doesn’t believe that nothing happened cause I deliberately hidden this from him when he asked me about the party. Whatever I said wasn’t important he’s pissed at me and he’s acting distant and mean the last days. We talked about it and he says he’s tired and it’s not because of this incident but he asked me to ignore him and I didn’t do it cause on my end is just friendly and I keep it this way. Our last convo was me asking him to catch up and him replying with a 👍. He used to call me every day and video calling and since we talked about this it feels like he’s punishing me without expressing how he feels about it.

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, he is definitely mad. Tell him you miss talking to him every day and that you feel that he is mad. Tell him that you will do anything to make it up to him. Then the ball is in his court. Good luck.

[Asker]

I did but he said he isn’t mad or he doesn't want to admit that he’s bothered by all that. I also try to be much more engaged and remind him of how much I love him. can't push him though if he's clearly not im the mood to talk to me. Should I give him some space? want to show him that im here for him but not giving up or validate to him that i’m into other guys

[Stevefiveo]

I would make one more push. Tell him everything you feel. I hope that he understands you.

[Asker]

I hope that too, i’m flying there in two weeks since we arranged that a while back but dont know what’s gonna happen

[Stevefiveo]

Yeah, that sucks that you don't even know if you are even going to be welcomed there. Feel free to message me if you want to talk about it some more.