Any testimony that gets same after cheating?

[hello1111111]

I kinda cheated my ex but i was just talking casually as a friend and she broke up when she found out and it was a long distance and after pleading and begging her and trying to put my point we decided not to talk then after 2 days she herself called me and we spoke and I asked her for meet but she denied and she is soft now and in some point she wanted to meet but she is forcing herself not to does anyone have the same case or somewhat same and got back together again as a couple and now also she is not talking?

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[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, this whole situation is rough. I can understand why you'd want to get her back after cheating, but there's a lot working against you here. A few thoughts based on what's worked for friends of mine:

- Back off completely for now. Give her space and time to process without feeling pressured. Weeks or even months no contact may be needed.

- When/if you do talk again, come 100% clean about everything, even stuff that may hurt you to admit. Honesty is key to rebuilding trust.

- Make it very clear you understand you messed up badly and will do anything to earn a second chance, if she's willing. Be prepared to really prove you've learned your lesson through actions over time too.

- Work on yourself in the meantime - hit the gym, pick up new hobbies, see a counselor even. Grow as a person so this won't happen again if she takes you back.

- Maybe have a friend check in on her occasionally to let you know how she's doing, but don't contact her directly. Space is important.

- It may not happen immediately, but some people do reconnect down the line once they feel they can start to forgive. Showing real change is key there.

It's a long shot dude, but that's the only path I've seen work occasionally. Just give her breathing room for now is my advice. You messed up bad, so respect her process.

[hello1111111]

Talking about this no contact thing i did this and after 2 days she herself called me in the midnight and we spoke for around 40 mins and she is soft now and she wanted to meet but she is forcing herself not to and now she is not talking to me that much what should i do and how should i handle this all

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that’s tricky. On one hand it’s good she called and seemed softer toward you. Maybe she’s starting to forgive you a bit. But I can see why she’s hesitant to fully meet up yet after just a couple days. That trust is still broken.

What I’d do is give her some more time and space first, like another week at least. In the meantime, send her a casual text every few days just to let her know you’re still thinking of her. Something short like “Hope you’re doing okay” or send a funny meme.

Keep it light and don’t pressure her to reply right away. The goal is just to stay on her mind in a gentle way. After a week passes, see if she seems more open to chatting again. You could say something like “No pressure at all, just wanted to check in and see how you’ve been feeling”.

If she seems open, maybe suggest a low-key public meetup like getting coffee. Let her take the lead there on how much contact she’s comfortable with. Take things super slow and easy. With patience and by showing you respect her, I think you’ve got a chance of winning her trust back bro.

[hello1111111]

But now she is not calling and not even texting me so how should i ask her out

[hello1111111]

Hi bro we spoke in call yesterday and we spoke as we do before and how should i play things now

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude this is tricky now cuz she got quiet again. I'd say give her a couple more days of total no contact before reaching out yourself. Girls can be hot and cold, she's probably still figuring stuff out.

When you do text, play it cool. Something chill like "Hey, hope you're doing well. Was thinking of grabbing a coffee after class tomorrow, wanna come?" Don't bring up feelings or the relationship drama yet. Keep it super casual.

If she hesitates, don't pressure her. Just say "No worries, let me know if you change your mind." Then drop it for a bit. But I'd follow up in a week to check in, send a funny meme, something to remind her you're still thinking of her without being over the top.

Girls like when you can act calm and like you're moving on even when you're not. It makes them wonder what you're up to and lowers the pressure on her. Play hard to get a little yourself, reverse psychology works!

Keep doing your thing and being kind when you do talk. In a month or two if she's still acting this way, consider moving on for real. But give it more time first I say. You had something real so she'll likely come around if you stay composed. Patience is key bro!

[hello1111111]

Hi dude now we are talking daily and we are talking like we use to do before she is now sending her pics by herself I didn’t even asked for but in only one timer but what she is doing is she is always coming up with this thing that we are not as we were before in relationship is she just seeing my patience level ir something else

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah dude, this is progress for sure! Seems like she's definitely feeling you again if she's sending pics and y'all are chatting all the time like before.

A couple possibilities for what she's doing by always bringing up not being fully back together yet:

- She wants to make sure you're really earning her trust again before fully committing. Testing your patience to see if you'll stick around.

- Deep down she wants to be back with you, but is scared of getting hurt so she's holding back a little emotionally.

- Could be playing a bit of games just cuz girls sometimes like to keep you on your toes!

I'd say just stay consistent. Keep being your fun, caring self in convos. Slowly amp up the flirty compliments here and there to remind her what she's missing.

And don't rush to put a title on it - keep hanging like normal and let things progress naturally. In time I bet she fully loosens up and admits she wants you back for real, bro! Just don't lose hope.

You got this man. She's coming around, just stay smooth and I think you'll get what you want soon enough. Keep it playa!

[hello1111111]

And yeah i missed one thing that we spoke about meeting and finishing things up as it was started but she denied and i told her lets meet and and talk about all this up or end these things because we are just faking things and it’s been almost 3 days and she asked me out in Sunday and i said yes i am free anyhow like she just want’s to hangout and what should i talk to her when we meet and how should i handle things if she wanted to end things there?

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, that meeting with her on Sunday could go a few ways. On one hand, it's good she wants to actually see you face to face instead of just chatting online - shows she still cares enough to hash things out in person.

When you meet up, I'd say keep it casual at first. Meet up at a chill spot like a park or cafe so there's no weird tension. Chat and joke around like normal to ease into things.

If she brings up ending it, don't get too bent outta shape yet. Just really listen to understand where she's coming from. Let her vent any leftover feelings. Then when it's your turn, keep it real - tell her straight up you miss what you had and you'll do whatever it takes to prove you've changed.

Who knows, playing it cool like that and showing your maturity might change her mind. And if not, at least you tried, ya know? Gotta shoot your shot, even if it doesn't fall the way you want sometimes.

Just play it by ear and see where the convo leads. Most important thing is make sure to end on a positive note no matter what, so there's no bad feelings if it is actually done. You got this bro - keep it chill and see what happens!

[hello1111111]

Hi dude thank you for all your suggestions and now i need one more we spoke 2-3 days before and she herself asked me out for hanging put but now she is denying that we should not meet and I don't know when to meet less see and everyday she is coming with this only now the things are not like that you are different i am different we both have different ways and she said what u want to talk about now i told you already everything and now what’s left to talk about and she is saying that we gonna end up fighting with each other that’s all if we met and people will see us and i will cry, yesterday she was kinda serious about that we both are different and everyday we are talking on a call approx more than 1 hour and she don’t cuts the call so easily what to do brother i am confused on the one hand we are talking daily and on the other she is saying no we can’t get back again?

[hello1111111]

Help please dude

[Oliverlogan263]

Alright man, this is super confusing. Seems like she's kinda going back and forth on what she wants. On one hand you talk for over an hour every day, which means she clearly still cares about you. But then says you're too different to get back together.

My advice would be to really listen without getting defensive when she says you're different now. Validate her feelings without arguing. Then maybe say something like "I know we've both changed, and there's still trust to rebuild. But I miss you and think we're worth trying again, if you're open to taking it very slow."

Don't pressure her to meet up yet. Offer a compromise - say maybe you could start with just a brief public meeting, like coffee during the day, to see how it feels. No pressure for more. She's probably scared of getting hurt again. Go slow to prove you're safe.

Tell her you understand her caution, but think with time you could fall for each other again. Ask if she'd be open to giving it a chance, or if she's truly shut the door for good. Her response should give you more clarity. Keep being patient - she still talks so there's hope. But her pace, okay?

[hello1111111]

Hey dude what now what happened is one day i was full flirting with her and she was responding dead to all chats so i said i think I should go and sleep now and good night and what happened is that she called me after 1 one hey listen you know I don’t like all this pickup lines and you already knows it and then i said okay then now i know so bye i have to go sleep because apart from pickup lines she was not even replying to normal text as she is suppose to after that i said ok bye good night i have to go now and then after one min she called again and she said you going to sleep i said yes and i cut the call again then next day i wrote good morning text she saw it very late (not normal) and then i straight video called her and as she smiled when she picked it and then she said I don’t wanna talk and i am going to block you after this any how I managed to talk to her for one minute and after this she cut the call and then i called her again and then she again cut and then i called her she picked and said I don’t wnna talk and i will block you right after anyhow I managed to drag her to the covo we spoke like and then she cut then she blocked me then i was just checking if she really did or not then in the evening I video called her just to check if she did or not so it was not going after 1 hour she video called me back and said I don’t wanna talk to you and again i tried to drag her to convo she hung the call and then i saw myself disrespected and then at night i called her and told her now i also don’t wanna stay you can’t even see my efforts and all and you are disrespecting me and she said good i said let’s meet and end this all she said I don’t wnna meet i said okay then this is the last time we are talking and then after 5 mins she texted less meet two days after and i said u already said u don’t wnna meet so what now she said I don't know, what should i do bro? I am fucked from my mind now

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow man, that whole situation sounds super messy and confusing. It's obvious you both still have strong feelings for each other, but there's still a lot of hurt and trust to rebuild.

My advice would be to take the meeting she offered, but go into it with an open mind and no expectations. Hear her out fully without getting defensive. Let her know you still care about her, but won't push or pressure about getting back together. Focus on listening and showing you've matured.

It's good she initiated contact again, but don't read too much into it. She likely just misses you too and is as mixed up in her feelings as you are. Take things slow - maybe suggest being friends for now, just chatting casually without flirting at all. Ease back into trusting each other without any relationship pressure.

See how that feels and if you're both comfortable over time, maybe then talk about trying again for real. But bro, you gotta stop blowing her phone up and disrespecting her space when she's set a boundary. That'll only push her away more. Keep your cool from now on, no matter what happens. You got this man!

[hello1111111]

Is it how it works, i said i also want to finish things now because I can’t see myself disrespected

[hello1111111]

Hey dude we met and the things happened is that this was the first day she spoke so much and i spoke so less she spoke about everything apart from this topic of our breakup but we did spoke about our breakup she said I can’t do this all again and when i was sad i showed her my hand and she hold my hands and she said all things were good and i was happy with you and she also asked me just to keep in touch and talk normally i said no I can’t do that and she hugged me at the last but she have some soft side for me what should i do is things going to work now

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo this meeting actually sounds pretty promising man! I'm glad you guys finally got to talk face to face instead of over texts and calls. Seems like seeing you in person brought back some old feelings for her.

The fact that she opened up so much, held your hand when you were upset, said she was happy with you, and hugged you at the end - those are all really good signs. It shows deep down she still cares a lot. I think if you play your cards right from here, you've got a good chance of winning her back.

My advice would be to continue respecting her space and boundaries for now. Don't push to get back together immediately. Instead, take the time to show her through your actions that you've matured and learned from your mistakes. Communicate openly and keep letting her know you care, but without any pressure.

Send an occasional text or call just to see how she's doing, then give her space in between. Let things naturally progress from friendship back to something more, at her own pace. Be patient - it could take time to rebuild that trust. But it seems like if you're supportive without pushing, you've got a real shot at getting your girl back bro!

[hello1111111]

Will it be a good idea to tell her to meet again

[hello1111111]

I texted her and she blocked me now what to do?

[hello1111111]

And now she unblocked me

[hello1111111]

And any how i convinced her to talk

[hello1111111]

But she is avoiding me

[hello1111111]

What should i do and she is not replying as she use to

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh dude, I don't know... This whole on-off thing with her blocking you and avoiding convos seems really confusing and stressful.

If I were you, I wouldn't push her further right now by asking to meet up again so soon after she blocked/unblocked you. That could make her feel crowded and push her away more. Even though you must want closure, give her some space for now.

My advice would be don't contact her at all for like a week or two. Let things fully cool off. After that time passes, you could send one casual text just saying you hope she's doing well and you're around if she ever wants to talk when she's ready, no pressure. Then leave it at that and don't message again for awhile.

The blocking/ignoring shows she's still figuring her own feelings out. By backing off completely, it puts the ball in her court and takes the pressure off. Hopefully with more time, she'll realize what she wants and reach back out on her own terms. It's tough man, but being patient now might get her back in the end. You got this!

[hello1111111]

Dude do you have insta or something to connect with you

[Oliverlogan263]

Only just here , you can private message me tho

[hello1111111]

It’s not happening because u don’t follow me

[Oliverlogan263]

I follow you now bruh

[Oliverlogan263]

My bad on that

[jahaims]

You didn't kinda cheat you cheated. Cheaters are trash and she should treat you as such.

[HelpfulWoman]

She's a fucking idiot who's wasting oxygen if she takes back a cheater

[laly520]

the trust got broken