Is it a deal breaker if your partner doesn't remember your birthday or Valentine's day?

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molonski2 · Accepted Answer

Oh Hell no !

That would suit me fine , I don't really want to be involved in either , certainly not in some mandatory capacity , I pray for someone who does not care about either , they don't mean anything , I've been coming to Thailand since birthdays were rarely celebrated and Valentines day? What in the fck is that? But bullshit westerners bring these stupid ideals for high cost items and just Fck it up for everyone.

Just days , nothing to do with life.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Accepted Answer

Yes, most here disagree, but it would make me sad if I had a girlfriend who didn't remember my birthday or even Valentine's Day it's sad.

Breanna_nonbinary · Accepted Answer

Who doesn’t remember when Valentine’s Day is? It’s like Christmas.
Also I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day for two reasons. One because I show her that I love her on everyday of the year, not just this one day. Secondly it seems that if you don’t out do what you did last year people think you don’t love that person as much as you did last year. So each year you have to up what you did the year before or else. I’m not that petty and birthed is she. 😊

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

It's yes and no at the same time. I don't care about Valentine's day because it's really the companies profiting but forgetting my own b-day (not even a cooked meal at home or a free activity you can both do) makes me think either he doesn't really know well or doesn't care about me. I would proceed with forgetting his b-day as well too.

Summeroflove · Answer

It depends on how long we been together. I am really bad at remembering birthdays.

rosemilk · Answer

personally, yes i think so. like what is he doing? birthdays are important for celebrating that person's life, the person you're supposed to love. and Valentine's day is a no brainer, it's a nice day to celebrate your love for each other. if he forgets both of those, i'd question why he's even with you

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Valentines is a bit of a let down but it can slide since it isn't actually important lol
As for my birthday yes, if you can't remember one day about your partner I find that a bit crazy. He probably would forget our anniversary too and I just don't like guys who don't care enough to remember a few important days about the person you are supposed to love.

Account · Answer

If he didn't remember my birthday, I would for sure make it a mission not to remember his birthday as well. For Valentine's day I have never given a crap.

Simslover92 · Answer

Nope not a deal breaker but I'd be slightly disappointed if they forgot my birthday not so much Valentine's day.

DaisyM23 · Answer

i think forgetting a birthday would be more of a dealbreaker than Valentine's day

Drew-1990 · Answer

Birthday part is bad, Valentine's so so. I mean it is a "holiday" so how do you forget it but honestly it isn't that big of a deal. But forgetting your birthday is definitely bad you should remember your partner's birthday.

Nikki1989 · Answer

We don't celebrate either of them.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Kinda... let's say it's a minimal effort to set up important dates like birthdays in the calendar on his smartphone he always keeps in his hands...

Phoenix98 · Answer

I don't really care about valentines day so that wouldn't be a big deal to me but if we're serious then yeah it'd be nice if she remembered my birthday lol. Though it's not a deal breaker if she forgets though we're only human after all.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think Valentine's day is worth celebrating tbh. Celebrating your relationship on an anniversary sure. But valentines day is a nightmare. Most places are busy or overbooked. With crap cheap gifts that price to high is mostly what you'll find. Better. to avoid that crap and do it another day.

As for my birthday I'm not that bothered about celebrating it. I've forgotten about it before. But I would be hurt if she forgot. It might be a deal breaker if she never remembered though.

naartjie · Answer

Definitely. Why? It’s not hard to remember a date… especially when you’ve been together for years and you still don’t let it click.  Do better men!

mooky06 · Answer

don’t care about valentine’s day and if he forgets my birthday? i don’t know (50/50) the milestone ones are important

Anonymous · Answer

Birthday yes, valentines day no. I kinda hate valentines day due to the hype while you could spoil your girl/boy on every other day as well.

JacobJordan · Answer

If you are in a healthy relationship you shouldn't even care when Valentine's day is because Valentine's should be just any other day.

Kelley1 · Answer

Absolutely not. If you have a problem with that, you are not relationship material.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Honestly don't care, so no, not a dealbreaker.

Androktasia · Answer

I wouldn't mind not celebrating it but them not remembering is just weird. There are ads everywhere and people talk about it a lot

ItsShay · Answer

Not at all. I actually prefer someone who doesn’t care about any of that stuff.

tzdc21 · Answer

Birthdays yes. Valentines day, nope.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Birthday yes, Valentine’s Day no.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

No, I just won't remember hers

laly520 · Answer

not really but would hurt to forget bday date

DreamLife7 · Answer

He doesn't like you

CozyCoffin · Answer

I don't care about holidays, at all.

Starrrboy · Answer

My birthday, yes..

12karen · Answer

Valentine's day, don't care but birthday, no

jaskin777 · Answer

Nah it fine

dudeinohio · Answer

Absolutely not.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nope.

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